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Just moved in with my daughter and her family and she wants me to stay home and enjoy my grandchildren. Only I’m not sure this is what I want. I love my grand babies, but i not sure I want them 24 -7. Plus they want to pay my bills and take care of me in place of paying a day care. Figure the kids would get more attention and love. Any body have any ideas.
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May be suggest that you can do three days a week but need the rest of the time for yourself and your hobbies/volunteer work etc. It would be a good balance for the children as well so they can socialise with other children.
please live your life at last
Hi Janice,
You need to be real honest up front. Tell them that you have always wanted time to explore what you want to do…take classes, travel join some clubs. You want to have an “adult” life.
I cannot imagine being with little children all of the time…been there done that! I loved my children, but no way do I want to repeat the experience! Only under dire circumstances would I be a full time “mom” again!
Honestly, I think you daughter should understand this. Helping out is one thing, but a full time baby sitter, no way!
I hope you can be strong in this!
Dear Janice,
Everyone needs their own free time. As we get older, our independence becomes more valuable to us. I love my children very, very much. But, I could never live with them. No matter how alone I may feel sometimes, because I’m a widow, I still cherish my time to myself. If you can, at all, afford to live alone (apartment, etc.) then do it. Get yourself a pet (cat or small dog) and have your grandchildren visit and stay overnight with you once in awhile. This way, it’s being done on your terms – not anyone else’s. And, you’re not obligated to take care of your grandchildren when you don’t want to . Don’t feel guilty about it either, or let anyone make you feel guilty. You raised your children, loved and cared for them full time. If they chose to have children of their own, then that’s their responsibility. Yours is to make yourself as less of a burden on your children as you possibly can. Enjoy your freedom. Make new friends. Invite them over. Enjoy every day that you have left on this earth. This is what I try to do. I’m in my own place, have two small dogs, and work a part-time job. I enjoy my life, especially knowing that my children don’t have to take care of me. I thank God everyday for the children I have and the life I have. You can do it. It doesn’t take much courage at all. It’s a great adventure with a lot of fulfilling moments. Please let me know how you make out. I wish the best for you and hope you make a decision that brings you happiness.