My third daughter is about to get married. I went through a painful six year divorce because my husband refused to divorce me and split our assets. Finally after great expense and anguish, he agreed to a divorce but he kept about two-thirds of the assets. I agreed to split college and medical school costs. When two of the girls got married, I split those expense, but spent on many extras and I could not fight with him to put in more. Meanwhile, I have absorbed many other expenses — helping when husbands were out of work, when my daughters needed to move, etc. He says he will help and usually makes a small show of generosity. He has two homes and is talking about buying a third; he has a live-in nurse-companion, etc. When he started telling my daughter how much I would contribute to the wedding, I had it. Since i would end up with a bigger bill anyway, I said — I will pay his share and mine. He is a guest and not making the affair. I told her he does not go on the invites. She just had a proof made and there his name appears. Am I right to demand that his name be removed from the invitations?
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August 09, 2011