I hate having to write about this but I’ve tried everything and I’m stuck and not diggint it at all. (Being stuck)
Back story: 4 years ago I was asked to come out of the classroom and build the gifted program up. Did that with flying colors. This year, new principal…I’ll leave it at that. A, as in one, parent complaint, very minor occurred. The principal called me in and told me the complaint, reprimanded me and told me I would have a job but I was being put back in a homeroom (elementary school). When I asked him why he wasn’t very definitive and said he wanted a different kind of program. I asked for a transfer. Since then I’ve discovered that another teacher had been going around bad mouthing me.
Now, my instinct when the meeting was going on was, “this is a blessing in disguise.”
I care about teaching, that program I can take or leave.
Sounds simple. I’m ok with what happened but not the way it happened.
I can normally let go, forgive and move on. This time not so much.
If you have a different way of looking at this help. I hate harboring a grievance that that is wearing on my soul.
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p.s. I dropped your name on Gina's post, Barb. ;)
Hello watermusic,
I think just moving on sounds like a good idea. It’s the children, and what you can do for them, that really matters. There will always be petty people in the world, but there are too few good teachers!
When your thinking starts replaying that “grievance” tape, flip it off! Life is too short.
i think things happen for a reason, you may not know that right now, but eventually you will get it. Move on, try to forget this grievance, it may be hard, but let it go. Ask a higher Being to help you. Pray, meditate, anything but let it go. May your guardian Angel be with you always.
I have never responded on a forum such as this…. all I can say, you have a blessing coming to you. Just let go of this, something greater is on its way to your door. It could not otherwise come to you! Be patient….. Teachers are true givers, I work in an industry involved with Professors/teachers. A gift does not always come to us in the package we expect!
Hi Watermusic, I’m a fellow teacher. Been doing it on and off for some 35 years. There is one thing for sure. Every Principal is different. One may just adore you, another may dislike you intensely and there’s just no rhyme or reason to it. I was always ok at writing reports. Until I went to another school and had every one of them re wriiten and I was chastised for ‘wasting her time”. Next school, I was asked if Id mind if an eg of my reports could be used as ‘how to write a great report” for student teachers…. Next school. The comment was, :i think you are one of the best report writers Ive ever known…. Leaves you wondering whatll be next…? One things for sure.. my style hasnt changed!!! Lol I suspect its a lesson in understanding the concept of subjectivity. If one person loves you and another hates you, does that affect your innate value?? Nah.. move on!!! Next time It’ll all we different yet again… you’ll see.. All the best to you!!! xx
ps have you ever heard of the advice that suggests that you ” Dethrone your oppressor”????
Eleanor Roosevelt said it something like this..You can only feel put down if you give someone the power and permission to do it… x
Thanks for the input, it’s been very helpful. Dianna, thanks for putting things in perspective. This has been a lesson on subjectivity and the source of my own happiness and sense of self. No, it’s not other people. A few years ago someone told me that inspite of appearences to the contrary I was a people pleaser. I have to confess that there is a part of me that wants my boss to like me and think well of me. It’s pointless. My value as a person or as a teacher has very little to do with what a principal who doesn’t know me thinks. I need reminded of that sometimes.
BL, thank you very much for the kind words, “A gift does not always come to us in the package we expect!” They have been a source of great comfort.
In the early years of my career I was pretty unconcerned about the running of the bulls, I mean the school and the inherent politics. That changed during the middle part of my career when I was a mover and shaker. Now, I just want to teach. I don’t really care about politics, they come, they go, they shift like sand and the kids still need to learn.
The underlying issue is my relationship with myself and power. I need to trust myself and that means knowing my value doesn’t change because of what someone thinks or says.
Thanks for the support everyone, I need it and I’m grateful for it.
Thanks for the input, it’s been very helpful. Dianna, thanks for putting things in perspective. This has been a lesson on subjectivity and the source of my own happiness and sense of self. No, it’s not other people. A few years ago someone told me that inspite of appearences to the contrary I was a people pleaser. I have to confess that there is a part of me that wants my boss to like me and think well of me. It’s pointless. My value as a person or as a teacher has very little to do with what a principal who doesn’t know me thinks. I need reminded of that sometimes.
BL, thank you very much for the kind words, “A gift does not always come to us in the package we expect!” They have been a source of great comfort.
In the early years of my career I was pretty unconcerned about the running of the bulls, I mean the school and the inherent politics. That changed during the middle part of my career when I was a mover and shaker. Now, I just want to teach. I don’t really care about politics, they come, they go, they shift like sand and the kids still need to learn.
The underlying issue is my relationship with myself and power. I need to trust myself and that means knowing my value doesn’t change because of what someone thinks or says.
Thanks for the support everyone, I need it and I’m grateful for it.