Ok, ladies, first of all I live in Michigan. we have the highest unemployment rate in US. My husband has been unemployed since November 13th 2008. I have a stable job and I am grateful for the my job. My husband hasn’t looked for a job in weeks. Nor do i feel he feels any pressure to look for employment because I am working and he is receiving unemployment benefits. Our marriage was rocky before he lost his job and now it’s even worse. Tell me I am not the only woman who is feel this way?
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I’m sure you aren’t. I have family in Michigan and my brother is unemployed, while his wife has the stable job. He, however isn’t unmotivated. He has thrown himself into the role of “Mr. Mom” and is carrying the bulk of the childcare duties. He has also powered through the projects that he never quite goy around to when he was employed full-time.
You have a couple of issues..your relationship was rocky before this added stress of his unemployment. You need to work on &/or resolve that issue first. There is no way you will be able to communicate with him otherwise. If your house is big enough, look into getting a roommate to help pay the bills…talk to him about that as a “temporary fix” until he can start contributing again. Address the finances, not his unemployment.
I think that’s good advice. My problem is quilt. The fact that he’s unemployed adds to my dilemma and my quilt. I was on the verge of asking him for a separation when he called me to tell me he had lost his job. When I say “on the verge” I mean I had prepared myself emotionally and financially and I had it down to what I was going to say to him. Now, I find myself in the situation where I still want the separation but I feel like leaving him when he is unemployed would be dishonorable of me. However, what he is doing is not very honorable. See, my dilemma?