Many times I asked myself this question and the anwer I come up with is that I would have gone to college to get a degree. I own my own business and have done well but it still knaws on me that I never got a formal education. If I could turn back the clock I’d wait to get married and get that university degree i never got. It’s not too late – it’s on my list of things to do when I retire.
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p.s. I dropped your name on Gina's post, Barb. ;)
I left school at 16 so I also did not get a degree. At the time, I had no idea about what I wanted to do. Recently I have discovered that I am fascinated with marketing and with nutrition. However at age 16 I cannot imagine how I would have felt about those two fields. I look back on my life and remember the fun I have had – I ended up leaving my home country at age 20 and went to live in England, and I have no regrets. Really enjoying what I am doing now plus I am looking forward to the empty nest (I am an older Mum and have an 17 year old and 21 year old still living at home).
Never have married that man!
Sing it, sister!!!
So many things… where would I start… also waited to get married, stayed in country I was born in and on and on and on
I wish I had gotten help in learning to communicate more effectively with my husband in the early years of our marriage instead of waiting until 20 years later. We are so much happier now.
Sweet! So glad you were able to do this!
Love you Namaste. Thanks.
Let’s get real here ladies, we all would have done more kagel exercises!
I am doing them as I write this!!!!
What a smart lady you are jb. My OB/GYN ….why do I need the OB, think I should get a discount, I only need a GYN! Anyway, I was just told to strengthen my pelvic floor-how does that work? pee, hold it for 2 seconds, pee again, hold it for 2 seconds or is it 3 seconds, I can’t remember these details, can anyone else?
Anybody ever tried vaginal cones???
OMG, I don’t even want to know. And quit messing up my important reply to winelover by inserting unimportant posts, dammit!
Hey, a loose vagina must be attended to. Shoo yourself!
Watch out girls. Loose lips sink ships!
Man the torpedoes, full speed ahead.
Omg, I love this post…. Love that there is a place to really be a wild woman without censor…….I would never have gotten married… although I love my sons who resulted from that marriage. I knew it was mistake from the beginning…. then I got divorced and lived with a man for seven years. The second big mistake…. So, I would never turn my life over to a man…….. compromise kills the spirit.
Hey wine – no, no, NO on the kegels if you were told to strengthen your pelvic floor. Here’s a link to to a blog that explains not only why, but what you SHOULD be doing instead, and if your ob/gyn told you differently, I’d find a doctor who pays more attention to the latest JAMA articles:
pelvic floor exercises
I’ll read this in the morning. In the meantime I am still doing my kegels. Did you ever try doing them during sex? Just sayin…
Do your kegels all night long, darlin – I couldn’t care less about either your loose vagina OR your pelvic floor. And no, because I have the opposite problem as you. Chronic virgin here.
And I must say, I am so relieved to hear that. BUT have you ever done kegels while fantasizing or do you just fall asleep on the sofa while watching TV with Jim…inquiring minds want to know.
Why would me being a chronic virgin make you feel relieved, pray tell? (I might have just laughed so hard I snorted.)
I thought you might have a thing going on for me. Also, did you pee when you snorted? Kegels can help that problem, you know!
AGAIN. Opposite problem. Never had children, all that, etc. I’m leaving this thread now.
Too hot and heavy for you to handle, hey?
Snorting is better than peeing your pants. That can come from having kids. Kegel or no. Snort. Might be a better alternitive. LOL!
Thanks, doll- I’ll look into it tomorrow-apparently the wall of my vagina has fallen in a bit-long story, I’ll explain later. Sleep tight!
Oh, PUHLEEZ, no need to explain..TMI!!!!
I wish I had travelled the world more but once I started my own business it became impossible. Also I should have shown my true feelings for someone 30 years ago and not had to wait until now to do so.
Oh, LilTigg, I hope you can show your true feelings now, throw caution to the wind and show them now, try to let yesterday go and enjoy the feelings now. All the best to you!
I think I would put my hand up more and speak out…
It’s a fascinating question…and, when I ponder it, I realize I probably wouldn’t change anything.
If I were to change even just one thing, I then think about what other things would have been impacted and changed related to just that one decision, and would I still be who and where I am today?
Changing something could mean I’d be better off in some ways . But, on the other hand, there’s just as big a chance I’d be worse off in some ways, compared to my current reality.
I would have sat down with my now ex-husband and really talked about how overwhelmed I was…I never made him an accountable husband, and let him out on such a long rope, he never came back.
I would have believed in myself more sooner…and that would have made all the difference….
Yes Dr. She, for sure…..perhaps it was just the times we were raised in, but I would like to have doubled my self esteem…..
Amen to that. I didn’t even know what potential was (Oh, I just lied, when I was in grade 9 my mother told me that I had the potential to be a cheerleader (thank God for big dreams!) & never had anyone point out my strengths. I just went with the flow.
Now I wish I had taken myself seriously & applied myself. I had no idea who I was in highschool. Do many people? By the time I was 30 I never even resembled the person I was 10 years before that. I’m thankful I grew & landed straight on my feet!
I wish I:
1. Wouldn’t have been so selfish and caught up in my own satisfaction for so many years. Good god, it took me until 40 to grow up.
2. Would have realized that you can’t keep saying “I’ll have a baby next year” forever, and put having a family on my front burner. Now it truly is too late, although I have found other ways to have children in my life through volunteering, etc. But it’s not the same.
However: I try hard not to dwell on my regrets and, instead, celebrate my blessings. For example, I don’t have to worry about if I can afford to send my cats to Harvard!
I dont have any regrets except I shouldn’t have married an abuser, but know what? If I hadnt of, I would not have the 2 children I have now. Ive always been a late bloomer; am in school at age 64; wasn’t interestd in going to school, and couldn’t have even if I wanted to; poverty ya know. I won a scholarship because of what I wrote about my life.
As long as you are breathing!!! It is not too late!