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my daughter is trying to take the money from my bank accounts,this is my savings accounts for my retirement and it is an inheritance from my mother, the teller of the bank call me every day to tell me she is going to give that money to my daughter needs to talk to my daughter, what is happenning with my daughter,
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If the money is in your name your daughter can not take the money. If you have given your daughter power of attorney she can take the money so make sure you don’t do this. Write to the bank and tell them you do not give permission for your daughter to take money out of your bank and send a copy of the letter to your lawyer.
You should call the bank and ask to speak to the branch manager. It seems very fishy that the teller is contacting you and telling you she is going to give the money to your daughter. If the account is in your name alone, only you have access to it. Even if you made the account “in trust for” your daughter, she has no right to the money until you’ve passed away.
Grace,
Something isn’t right. You do need to contact your lawyer and the bank asap. Everything in writing. Don’t sign anything until you know what it is and nothing that your daughter gives you. She could be going into the bank telling them that this is what you want and they are contacting you. Are you sure it’s the bank that’s calling? Call the bank asap.
Usually when a child begins to steal from their parents, it’s because they have a substance habit that they can’t support and an addiction so great that their rational thinking brain has disconnected from their life. She needs help and not the kind a mother can give.
If a bank teller is calling you, I hope it is to warn you that someone is trying to take your money without your permission. You tell her NO she doesn’t have your permission. If the teller is just calling you to TELL you that someone is taking your money, then you need to talk to the president of the bank about their unsavory employees and move your money to another bank.
If your daughter has illegally taken money out of your account without your permission IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO GET VERY STRONG!!!!! Talk to them at the bank, file a complaint and file a police report of theft. I hate to tell you this but your daughter is beyond your being able to help her. When they start stealing from you, they need to reach ROCK BOTTOM. Don’t tell me that you can’t file a report on your daughter. A mother’s love has to be stronger than nicey nice supportive ways. You are still teaching your daughter about life and what is right and wrong.
Get some professional help. Start with talking to them at the bank. Get a plan of action to protect your assets. Be ready to handle the consequences of your decision. It won’t be easy. Bless you for even reaching out for help and you have the support of all of us that know about your situation. Much love to you.
thank you for your answer, I get up in the morning praying but decided to take strong action, on monday I will go to the bank with a letter to protect my accounts, I will talk to the manager and then I will try to change my accounts to another bank. My little girl is very ill, but it has to stop because I love her so much, so so much. Thank you again, I will make a plan, but you know we never expect this from your daughter, never she must learn a lesson to grow up, God bless you all.
Oh grace, I can so feel the pain you are in and if I could take on some of the pain for you I would to give you strength to do what you know you must. You’re right, as mothers we never expect our children to get off on the wrong path. But they do. And so much of the time it’s not about our parenting skills. It’s about the pressure they are under from society to perform, to be something, to go along with the crowd. I wish we could go back to a simpler time when the home and family were the biggest influence on our children.
stick to your guns whether sick or not its NOT acceptable for her to be stealing from you ever, we have you in our thoughts & prayers grace and hope she will accept some help with a rehab if she is using drugs, stand by her but dont give in ! stand strong and have tough love for her so she can change her ways !
YOU SPEAK FOR ME SO MANY TIMES. THERE IS MORE TO THIS STORY! THERE ARE FUNCTIONING ADDICTS, JUST CHECK WALL STREET.
excellent advice…yes something is going on with daughter for sure !! my neighbor just went thru this too, i took her to bank cause daughter was stealing money and writing checks cleaning out my friends acct we went to bank and they said to put a stop on any more checks being cashed with out a special code from my friend and we have had to move her accts to another bank so she didnt have any imfo on new accts to do it again to her !!! the daughter was doing this cause she knew her mom wouldnt have her arrested cause of the grandbabies well she is learning now mom will have her arrested if she even trys to do it to her again !! once again you gave super advice hope she puts it to good use !
I pray God will deliver you from this pain….hold on….
Grace I highly doubt the bank is calling, but anything is possible. You have been given good advice here, try to put your mind at rest to-day. I just wanted to add here that you are no where near the stage of requiring a lawyer or letter written by one. Keep your hard earned money in your pocket right now.
Monday, go as planned into the bank. Ask to speak with the manager, if not there, request to see his/her assistant. Explain the situation to them, they will take it from there. You will find there is no need to change banks. Trust me the authorities do not take this kind of thing lightly and the bank themselves could be in legal hot water if one of their employees was truly part of this.
You mention your daughter is sick and needs a lesson in growing up. Do you mean she has a substance abuse problem or a mental issue. Talking to her in ether case is not going to help Grace.nor will this teach her a lesson or make her grow up. You cannot talk to a drunk, a drug addict or someone suffering from a mental illness. Not enough band aids in this world to fix her problem by yourself. Be there for her, protect yourself and encourage her to go for help, then get yourself into a support group for parents of substance abuse children or those suffering from mental illness. These groups will help give you coping skills and will have many resources to help as you go down the path to helping your daughter.
no she is kellog’s manager and industrial engeener and she wants to rule the world, no sometimes she is very anxious, she is leaving Kellog to work by herself, she is affraid. She is going to Marry in May, I ALREADY TALK TO HER, SHE IS ANXIUOS ABOUT LEAVING KELLOG’S TO WORK BY HERSELF, but she wants money for her wedding on MAY, I TALK TO HER SHE TOLD ME SHE NEEDS ME NEAR HER, she is affraid to marry, she is saying goodbye to be single. Laugh please, first her father came to Texas and told me honey take care of our daughter she wants money, he embraced me. Well she is living a grief, she is not my little girl anymore, she choose a good man, no she works 9-5 and she is very angry with me because I could be a stay home mom, and she will have to work, and I told her is better for the couple. Yesterday I told her, Daughter I am ready to help you with everything after your wedding, if you need me I will be there, do not worry, and she told me: Come and live with us, I need you, I told her how much she means to me, and she told me Mom could you live with us when I’ve married, I just tell her like when she was a little girl: yes baby I will, relax you will look like a princess…. she was a honor student, she is a good employee and for me my princess.
Sorry Grace but something does not gel here, if indeed she is behind the bank issue, then no as much as it may hurt you she is not behaving like a good girl/daughter. Sounds like she is going through many changes in her life right now causing great stress, but that has nothing to do with her suspected behaviour over your money.
My opinion is no matter what the outcome at the bank, she may benefit from speaking to someone regarding her high stress level. She sounds almost to be in a panic and a little unsure if she is making the right decision regarding her up and coming marriage. I know you are there for her Grace, that is a good thing. Just walk the line very carefully between helping her and solving her issues/insecurities for her.
You cannot always be there Grace and a new marriage does not always need a third partner. My advice would be for all three of you to sit down and have a good talk before you and your daughter proceed with any plans. This may actually be good for her and help her future husband understand how stressed his wife to be is at this moment.
Good luck Grace I sincerely hope the outcome here is good for all involved.
thank you my dear friend
Grace today is Monday, trust you went to the bank and made your accounts safe. A daughter that will try to steal from a mother has issues, very bad ones i may add. She is young, you are old, she has a lifetime to make mistakes and fix them, you do not. Whatever you do, do not give her your money and do not live w/her. She wants a person to solve her problems, whatever they may be. Fear? We all have fears, but we deal with them one day at a time. If you do this now, you will regret it later and it may be too late to keep your savings. Your daughter has the ability to make you weak, she whines and you give in. Then what happens to you? At our age, we cannot afford to make financial mistakes, we do not have time to recover. Please take care of yourself and tell your daughter that you love her, but she is an adult now and she needs to behave like one. May the Lord guide your steps, you seem to need it badly.
It is against the law for the bank to give your daughter money out of your personal account. If this is a joint account or if she is authorized to sign on this account, change it. If she has your power of attorney, END it, because it doesn’t sound to me like she has YOUR best interests in mind or heart.
If this is your own account, CALL THE POLICE and REPORT THIS!! I understand she is your daughter and you love her, but she is stealing from you.
You won’t have peace of mind until this is taken care of. If your daughter is stealing from you, she needs help. Sometimes it takes a strong action to make someone get the help she needs.
It sounds to me like there is SO much more going on here…. please don’t give up your independence by moving in with your daughter and husband right away. I am afraid that is just a ploy to gain control of your finances.
Your daughter needs to behave like an adult ON HER OWN. Please be strong for her sake and say “No”.
Be careful… and good luck!!
I was so naive all my life, not now, thank you and a hug, God bless you all.
Do you have an atty.?If so check with him ,on compadece etc.your daughter needs to be proving
of you,to be in that money.Find another person to be on any of your $.
.Id go quickly to another bank,transfer that $.And dont put her name on that account.
GOOD LUCK& GOD BLESS