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Hi – I am 56 and lost my job today.  This is the second time in a year.  I have 20 years in healthcare.  This is the second time in a year this has happened…I am devastated and not sure what to do next.  I was terminated and through no fault of my own. 

I have alot of contacts…I am in one of the worst states to have this happen…Florida. 

Am  I too old to go to school.  I am really scared right now..confused and scared.  My husband died 6 years ago and it has been a roller coaster ride ever since.  I moved to Fl 2 years after he died…and I am feeling at my lowest point.especially with Christmas coming.  I have been crying all day and have no clue what to do.  My sister thinks I should call and ask to speak to the administrator…I don’t think that will help because he is real chummy with the 23 yr old gal who let me go today.  I have never been through anything like this…EVER!!!   I have begun to network…but I am really scared..at this age and with what this economy is doing. 

How am i going to explain what happened on my next interview….I don’t want to lie!

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  1. ageless ageless says

    Just take a deep breath and I agree with your sister and call the administrator I would also ask if he would give you a letter of recommendation to have with your resume. Are you able to re-locate? Do you have family close? Due you rent or buying a house? Get out your notebook and start with what you have, what you don’t need and can get rid of. Make dailey notes on your progress Be active in your future I know you say your husband died and that is a terrible thing to go through. Do you have a boyfriend or girlfriend that may help in any way? Are you able to rent part of your house? Now it is about survival and you can do it… 

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      I have a BF that can help..friends in ohio, PA ..and sister in KS said I can come up there and stay with them until the market changes…I am sooo scared!!  This is the second time in a year this has happened…I had 6 years in my last job and 8 years before that…what the hell is going on????

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  2. sunflower1912 sunflower1912 says

    Can you do per diem work to hold you over until you find a permanent position?  It may not hurt to go to usajobs.gov to see if there are any nursing jobs (I’m assuming you’re a nurse?) with the federal govt (VA) if you’re located in the right place.  Don’t know if that helps…hope so.

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      No I am not a nurse….I lost my job last year after I had been in the hosital 6 mos earlier..hmmm..part of the Obama plan then I suppose.  I am really in a fog what to do next

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  3. Generic Image duckyone59 says

    So sorry that this happened to you so close to a holiday and Christmas.  Just remember you are a valuable person and you are not too old to do anything you want to do.  Just tell your self you are ready for something good to come into your life. 

    When one door closes another door opens.  It never hurts to talk.

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  4. Generic Image jblue says

    I am 59 and work for the State, there isn’t a day goes by that I not worried about losing my job also…………I hear everyday about Obama’s plan (I won’t bore you) for everything but the middle-aged ladies and gentlement who are losing their jobs but are not 20 or 30 and cannot compete on the same level in the job market.   I am also divorced after 35 years, but the ironic thing is my husband actually rent’s a room from me and we get along better now that when we were married, amazing.  I also have another room, about medium sized and I am also going to rent it out.  If you ever get where you might need this small space I have even if it’s a temporary situation, just to hold you over let me know and we can talk, it’s just an offer…….. 

    When you wake up in the more just tell yourself you’re on vacation, if you tell yourself this often enough, you might start to believe it and it may make things a little easier to deal with.  There is a lot of advice out there and it’s good to listen to someone else who is in the same situation, share stories, get some ideas, not easy at all, but hang-in-there, remember, every day is different there are no two day the same! 

    Take care and the best of luck to you!

    Jackie

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      Thanks Jackie…I do have a BF  here…that helps..but he has starting to have health issues…he is 64.  I am sooooo scared….I pray alot….I bought a 20 year old house in 06 and I am underwater in it…can’t leave here…BF says he will stay here until the market changes…what does that do for your relationship??  The priority is survival now….I thought about medical billing as you can do it from home..people don’t see your age.  My sister is in Kansas…my friends are in PA and Ohio,,they all have offered me places to stay..but the job market right now is not isolated..this crap is everywhere.  What state are you in?

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  5. Generic Image Deb Lothrop says

    TOO OLD to go to school???????  SO are you telling me I should stop going to school?  I have been in college, two nights a week for 2 years now.  I LOVE IT>    Honestly, instructors love students our age because we LOVE being there.  Also, you can network while in school.  You will be with professional teachers, who will love you.  It makes you feel like a million bucks, trust me.

    I am 56 years old and got laid off on my birthday this year. 

    You will suffer like a death………..anger, sadness, relief, denial and then happiness.  You are better off, trust in the Lord.  He will take care of you.  You will get what you need when you need it.

    Deb

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    • Generic Image DianeD says

      Hello … I totally agree… have faith and believe and all things are possible… keeping an open mind and a positive attitude is also important… everything happens for a reason! take care of yourself…

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  6. Laura P Laura P says

    I agree with ageless “just take a deep breath” then look up! You have more strengths than you know. Your husband died six years ago, you managed to move to Florida and get two jobs. I know it’s a hard day for you today. Equally important tomorrow is a work day. First on your agenda, make the call to the administrator explain you were a loyal employee and short of some good explanation for termination you would like the same considerations. I think you are smart enough to know for the holidays; surround yourself with those who love and respect you, friends and family. I wish you well! Keep talking!

     

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      I am looking up…I already contacted a lady who was helping me find a job back in March..told her I am back in the saddle again..she was 60 and landed a great job..so she has been a great mentor.  I told her how helpful she was to me and needed her help again.

      I still don’t have composure to call the administrator as I have been having spells of crying..and then I manage to be Ok..and then it starts up again.BF suggested writinga letter to him.

      One thing I recall the Social Service Director (23 yrs old!) saying to me that I was taken advantage of while she was gone on maternity leave and she was always about covering her ass..even to blame me!  I am not trying to make it an age thing…but it makes me wonder how someone that young gets a job like that….probably getting paid real cheap…she has no degree other than associates.

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      • Laura P Laura P says

        I am happy and not surprised to hear progress! Your friend is right a letter is a record and requires a response (send it registered mail).

        Don’t wait; first no action on your part gives validation to the way you were terminated. It is important that you know why you were terminated. This will help you move forward. You did not mention if you had a job appraisal? An opportunity to understand your employers concerns about any possible performance issues. If not, you should mention that in the letter. One of my friend’s first line Manager gave her a great appraisal two weeks later she was fired by that same Manager. A letter to her Manager’s, Manager with a hard copy record of that appraisal reversed the decision.

        In your letter don’t be personal about co-workers keep the focus on yourself. Mention your contributions and again that you were a loyal employee and would like some consideration for that and your contributions. Your goal is to renegotiate your termination into a “mutual separation”. Meaning the employer and employee were in agreement when employment ended. This will resolve your valid concerns about listing this employment on your work history. I wish you well and I am leaving you with some advice for future employment.

        Tough economic time and insecurities about our age can make anyone overlook what’s important during a job interview. The interview process is an opportunity for “you” to find out if you want to work for the company. Don’t be afraid to ask if the position is new or what happened to the person who held that position. Ask the person in front of you, what they like best about the company (watch closely for their initial reaction).  Get to the job interview early this will give you an opportunity to see first hand, the work environment and how people interact with each other. After you are hired, meet with your Manager ask for a written job description. Meet again with your Manager in thirty days. Don’t be afraid to ask the question how I am doing.

        In closing, the most emotional part of loosing a job is about “not” having control. Writing the letter will give you control. Older is wiser!

        Best to you!

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      • Wendy MacKay Wendy MacKay says

        Hi Beach Angel,

        I am sorry for your pain and confusion, it is all overwhelming when it happens, but do trust and believe that you CAN turn this around.  It sounds like you have some support friends. Take a few days to recover from the shock of this, but know that you will be ok.  There are lots of options when we know where to look.  I know, I’ve been there recently. I took an online course last February to find my “perfect business” after the Co. I was working with went bankrupt. I found my passion that has been buried since I was 14 and I pursued the profession. I never would have thought I would work on line in the coaching industry, but here I am. 

        Is there a human resource dept. at the hospital? I don’t know the laws of your State, but I do feel that you can become stronger for this and perhaps find the job of your dreams if you trust, believe and begin to focus on what your inner desires are.

         

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  7. Lynnette Lynnette says

    Florida has a lot of old and sick people, this is the place to be if you are in healthcare.   As a matter of fact i was thinking to go into that business when i retire since i feel that after a 1 year i will be bored to tears.

    In Miami there is a business taking care of old persons that their family would rather not deal with.  So this is the way it works.  It is a regular house, but the rooms are not occupied by family members but people on Social Security which we will call “residents”.  They do not have to be ill nor incapacitated, but most of them are.  There are 1 or 2 women taking care of these residents.  Lets say 3 residents and one attendant in a 4 bedroom house.  The living room, kitchen and bathrooms will be shared by all.  I once visited one of these homes.  The residents were in the living room watching TV and happy to have the company with each other.  These people would be otherwise lonely and with nobody to talk to.  Then there is the owner of the business who may live or not live in the same house, but it is the main Administrator.   She will pay the one or two caregivers and will get the social security checks of the residents to pay for the house, food, utilities, etc.  They residents will be taken care of their every need.  The administrator also has to be aware of government programs like visiting nurses, and other programs that the residents are entitled to through medicaid.  The administrator and owner of the business will know which government agency to contact depending on her residents and their ailments.  All that is charged by the nurse thru medicaid/care.  I guess she can also provide transportation to their doctor appointments, etc, but that is an extra charge as she will have to have a van and a driver.    I do not know what you do in healthcare, but you do not need to be a nurse, you just have to have the house… the old people will come.  Advertise.  You will need to have a license but i do not think it is hard to get. 

     

     

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  8. pp901 pp901 says

    HI  The same thing has happened to me.  My Real Estate career took such a hit recently that I have decided to go into Direct Sales.  You will not believe how much easier this is compared to never knowing if you get a paycheck or not.  I am also 56.  The Proactiv Doctors have a great business plan for single Mothers and others who are starting over.  If you would like more information, let me know. Seriously, this is not a pitch or a joke.  I would love to help you.

    P

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      Hi – Please send me the information.  My email is angel_of_hope_mmm@yahoo.com

      Thanks!

       

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      • Suesee50 Suesee50 says

        My question is, were you let go due to age?  What was the reason?  Have you considered a wrongful termination

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      • Beach angel Beach angel says

        I already talked to an attorney and have no case..to prove age issues or anything else.  I am in a right to work state..I call it right to fire state….the employers can let you go for any reason at any time and you can leave for any reason, any time, etc.

        I am going to write a letter stating this was for mutual separation..I had no dept policy book to review and add my signature..I have done this at other places..and I also never had any kind of review…I was there 9 mos.  I did not have a 90 day review…they kept putting it off.  I was set up and used.  I know I need to keep this out my letter that I am going to write..but that is what happened.  While my boss was on maternity leave…I ran the place with only one week of training..looks like they were in a pinch and hired me..and I was anxious to work again because I had lost a job 3 mos prior due to budget cuts…etc.  I had great relationships with the residents and families..there were some things that they were doing to me to cover  up their issues.  I know what the REAL story is.  Shame on me for taking the job without knowing the real deal.  Live and learn.  Do you think that sending a copy of my former work recommendation letters attached to my letter is helpful.  I feel my character is in question here because of something that I was accused of that did not happen. I refused to sign the termination notice because I was innocent.

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      • Beach angel Beach angel says

        The other thing I noticed  is that it was “a revolving door”. ..people were coming and going.

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  9. Generic Image Livinglifefortoday says

    Hi, so sorry to hear your story. You are not too old. If not too personal, are you a nurse?  I am from Canada, so it might be different. Can you receive unemployment.  I think you responded with getting a lawyer already. If not hire an attornney. I think extending or changing your career is possible.  When you feel a little better, do a makeover of yourself.Head to toe. Do you have some funds you can draw from.  To obviously pay the lawyer, but for school, maybe school loan and downsize. House, clothes, take out all the trash in your life. I believe what door God closes, He means something better for you. Look for available jobs if needed right away, anything to get out there. Bye for now geri.

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      I don’t think an attorney will touch me in Florida…this is a right to work state.  I signed up for unemployment,..if they fight my unemployment then I will see what to do next,.  I don’t see why they would fight it,,I didn’t quit.

      I also believe in taking the trash out of your life.  I have an appt with a college next week.  My sister thinks I am too old to do this..but what choices do I have..I think it would be healthy for me.  I took this job out of desperation…never again!!!!  I will work temp before I ever do that again!

      I have funds in a retirement account…I hate to touch it.   I did my letter to the administrator,  I will send it certified mail,

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  10. Marsha Loves CORE4 Marsha Loves CORE4 says

    I am So Sorry to hear this happen to you.  I also know that it is happening to many, many people and it just doesn’t seem right but is happening just the same.  Which is the Reason that I have found the Most Amazing Opportunity and would love to share it with you if you are interested.  Just let me know.  In the mean time know that you are in my thoughts and Prayers….

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      Hello,

      Seems these days everyone has something they are involved with,I have tried Amway and Arbonne and did not have much success with either of them..you have to be willing to talk to lots and lots of people..well..now that I have time..that may be possible…my husband died at 48 and we had our own business,,,I was soo much happier..not now though…I want to feel that again!

       

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      • Wendy MacKay Wendy MacKay says

        It sounds like you may be interested in pursuing a career change but feel unsure what would make you extremely happy, as well as be a good market.  I felt that way after the direct sales Co. I worked 7 years for went bankrupt and left me hanging with a large inventory. Last February I took this course on line that has you take a look at your inner desires to discover your passions and what business you would be best suited for while enjoying every minute. This is the link http://www.theperfectbizfinder.com/?af=1007289  it is not expensive and I learnt so much about myself and am in the process of opening my own coaching business which is truly aligned with my passions.  Would could easily do this even while working as you work at your own pace.

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      • Marsha Loves CORE4 Marsha Loves CORE4 says

        You are right there are many, many business opportunities out there and I have tried a few myself.  When I found this opportunity, I actually wasn’t looking for an opportunity.  I was looking for help for myself and WOW did it deliver and has changed my health and without knowing it was an Opportunity of a Lifetime.  I believe that if you would check this out you would also think it is an Amazing Opportunity.  You remember what it was like to Own Your Business and didn’t have people treating you like they do when you work for someone else and punch a time clock.

        Beach Angel let’s talk more because I can tell you that I am so sure that you would be so happy.

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  11. Misslinsue Misslinsue says

    Pray, and I will pray for you. I’m from Fort Lauderdale, Fl move to Oregon 15 yrs ago. I am looking to move back I have my name an some of the temp agencies there. Maybe you start there, here are some website to visit:

    http://www.spherion.com, http://www.kellysearch.com, http://www.reflectxstaffing.com, and http://www.thejobspider.com.

    My daughter lives in Fort Lauderdale and she states that American Express is still cutting positions she has been there for over six years. Be honest about being terminated and its never to late to go to college I’m in my third year majoring in Tourism & Travel Management. The pharmacy field is alive and kicking there are many job opening in that field.

    I’ve been there with the State of Oregon is no pinic people can really mean, I know being let go for no reason and no one will tell you why hurts, in the St of OR its a at will State they let you go and don’t have to say why. Can you collect unemployment? Try to get some assistant with Employment Department, they can help with resumes, applicaitons and get you into a good fit on a great job. Good Luck

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      Hi – I am calling Spherion and Manpower tomorrow.  I am seriously considering moving out of FL..but it is bad all over the US right now.  I am so scared and everyday I wake up I just cringe…I have to think positive.,but I know if I called the University where I worked before that perhaps I could go back.  Ironically, there are several positions…the CEO gave me his card before I left,.hmmmm….I did not burn my bridge there.

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  12. Generic Image Debbie1126 says

    I too got laid off recently for the second time – I had found I job that I liked perfectly fine after being unemployed for 4 mths and then a former employer called and begged me along with offering more money and great perks and I have old friends there to take this position they had open well the position was a nightmare b/c my predecessors left so much work undone  but I was determined to hang in there, however, after 3 wks they had a layoff and I was part of it!!  Needless to say I was beside myself – it would have been bad enough if I was still unemployed but to take me from another job – and now the economy seems worse then it was – in our area a bunch of big employers just had huge layoffs.  I too have a career as a legal/admin asst of over 20 yrs and have a great working record and reputation, however, there are so many people looking for jobs it does seem hopeless.  How long were you at the second job?  I did go to the CFO and complained b/c if they had a layoff looming they never should have brought me in.  Let me know how you are making out.  

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  13. Marsha Loves CORE4 Marsha Loves CORE4 says

    Hang in there and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and I know that you will find something better.  I also believe that you are never too old to go back to school if that is what you want to do.  I personally don’t want to do that and I also don’t want to work for anyone else but myself anymore.  It just seems to be getting crazier out there and the Loyalty that we grew up with, knowing that you took care of the company you worked for and the company took care of you seems to be long gone with most companies.  Thus being my reason for building my own homebased business.

    Good Luck and God Bless you all….  – Marsha

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  14. Piper Piper says

    First, you do not have to explain anything to anyone, your sorrowful circumstances are new only to you, your former employer knows they done you dirt, and your future employer will understand also.   You are needed somewhere, I feel it my bones.  I know your heart has been broken, but you are not broken, and you are sharing on this site Vibrant Nation so you have unleashed the power of love, the power of prayer, and the strength you will need to get through is on its way.  You are loved, you are stronger then you believe, and you will turn this around, keep posting on VN and you will get through this, I feel it in my bones.

    With all my heart

    Piper

     

     

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      Hi – thank you so much for your kind thoughts.  I was laid off last Christmas from a job I held for 3 yrs.,6 mos prior to that I had been in the hospital…makes me wonder if that is why I was laid off but it was not just me..there were a group of us.  I have been so depressed with this being Christmas…I have no joy!  I know I am not the only one..but what was done to me was very wrong…I was used. 

      I am on the Board of Directors for the National Alliance for Mental Illness and I am busy with that for now.  I am trying to get back in the saddle but I am having seirous trust issues.  I was never late for work or called in sick in my last job…and was very good at what I did.  Sounds like this 23 year old just had it in for me.  I need to get past this…I will turn  this around.  I am on the Publicity Committee for the Board and have been busy with talking to the media.  I am not so sure I just want to grab any job.  The temp agencies are slow right now.  I have meetings with two schools this week, 

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  15. Generic Image ginger54 says

    Hi. Don’t give up. Have you given any thought to starting your own business? I currently temp. I’ve been out of work since Jan. I was in Real Estate and temp to stay above it all.  Actually I wasnt above water at all. I was drowning in debts and lonliness. I have divorced and leave alone.Working strictly commision was too hard.  I decided that I would look into a business of my own. I have been studying Public Speaking. I join a club called Toast Masters. I love it. ToastMasters teaches you skills on how to present before a group. I also subscribe to the National Speakers Association. I haven’t join the club because financially I can’t invest that money. Give going into your own business some thought. Good Luck..

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  16. MrsB MrsB says

    I am also 56 and lost my job last year in Finance, also after years of dedicated servitude. It was at that point that I addressed the issue of what should I do now for the next 10 or so years until retirement. I decided to go back to school for my degree in Sociology with a minor in Psychology. I have many credits already and not too far from graduation but had put the degree on hold to support my family. In January I will be returning to state college for my degree and then onto graduate school in the Fall. The job market is bleak now so that returning to school would likely be a good proposition for you. I am also involed in the Foster Parenting program here and completed my eight required courses last week so that I am now a certified caregiver. One of the instructors told her story about how she got started in the program. She went to school to become a nurse and after so many years went back to school to specialize in pediatric psychiatry. She is currently a care provider for “fragile infants”, meaning those born by meth mothers and those with special medical needs. Foster parenting is a paid position and her specialty pays more. she mentioned that one doesn’t need a degree to be a special needs home provider either but with her training, she is in high demand as a teacher for other foster parents. Maybe the void in your life could be put to better and extremely needed service to sme of the thousands of child who have never known peace and stability in their young lives. I urge you to consider foster parenting, especially if you have free time from a job that demands and robs all your time. What better service could you perform than that of a caregiver. Talk to your county DHS office and request a schedule of classes (they’re FREE courses) be sent to you. Then sign up and begin your study. A notebook of information is given to you upon your first intro class that is full of good references once you become involved in the program. The age of the children you choose to become involved with depends on your interest and no child will be placed that is too much or has special problems (mental, physical, emotional) that you feel is not in your best interest or that of the child. If you need further info, I’m here for you. By the way, have you filed for your unemployment benefits? Definitely do that. Then. get in touch with your local 4-yr college to see about further education (Master’s program, etc). People in the midst of depression tend to do nothing, like the answer is going to come knocking at your door. Instead, do one thing every day that gets you in line with a better future. You are not alone and others are more than happy to help you muddle through the morass of getting past your slump. good luck and be resolute. You can do this.

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      Hi – Thank you for your kind thoughts.  I had a meeting with a school today to discuss updating some skills, etc.  It was very productive.  The dilema is I don’t know where I will eventually be working…I prefer face to face classes vs online…I like the interaction of a classroom.   I am giving myself a deadline of the end of January to find SOMETHING…otherwise I am flying to Kansas where my sister lives and see what I can find there.  The unemployment in Overland Park area is much lower compared to where I am now.  I did sign up for the unemployment but I have a weird feeling this place is going to try to fight it even though they let me go.   I did nothing wrong….my boss was 22 years old…and there were alot of politics going on,

      How I wish my husband was still alive..we worked  a business together.  I don’t have the capital to work a business now.  I had to sell our business because of the capital and labor involved.  Foster care sounds great.

      I am sorting out my options.  This is hell at this age.  I even called the temp services and they said they have nothing.  Our unemployment rate is 11%!

      If you have any other ideas please share them with me.  Thank you!

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      • MrsB MrsB says

        Our unemployment rate is about the same. However, in Oregon nurses are in high demand. Check the Kaiser Permanete job listings for open positions. We also have a temp agency that specializes in nurse, cna, etc., placements. The newspaper, I’ve noticed, doesn’t list many jobs that aren’t accompanied by a request for a degree, which is sad. But, the Employment office has many listings for jobs. I think you will have better luck going to yellowpages.com for the area you are planning to move to (Overland Park, KS) and look up the various hospitals, retirements homes, care facilities. etc., depending on your experience and/or interests. This could be the beginning of a whole new world of opportunities for you that just haven’t presented themselves yet. Do you think a move to a colder climate (it’s cold in OP now) right now is a good idea? I shoul think Florida has more opportunity since it’s a more heavily populated area. Maybe a small town somewhere in FL would be more to your liking. Or, possibly advertise for a room-mate that is also a nurse, to help with the costs of your home bills. I would suggest no drastic moves until you are certain what you want to do. too much conflict, even with a relative who offers to help. I am close to all my brothers and sisters but I would no sooner live with them than a total stranger. By the way, I met a great lade on Eons.com who happens to lived in Overland Park, KS and we have come to the conclusion that we are soul sisters, sharing many of the same job titles, experiences in life and interests in knitting and certain foods, etc. she is about 70 and she adds joy to my life. I’d also suggest going to the site http://www.meetup.com and see what groups are listed (close to your current zip code) that would be of interest or help to your particular situation(s) whatever it(they) may be. I love the value of the internet! Just remember, one day at a time.

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      • Beach angel Beach angel says

        I am not a nurse…I am a little nervous at the the thought of my sister wanting me to come out to Overland Park…we have lived apart from each other since 1982 when we both got married…Ironically our marriages ended about the same time in 2003.here’s to divorce..mine to death of my husband.  I am not sure that is a good idea even with good intentions…I like my space and she likes hers.   I wouldn’t move  anywhere up north in the winter..brrrrr.

        FL is a great place to be if you have money and don’t need to be thinking about a job or a career…it is not pretty being here facing those issues.  Meetup com is awesome and so are networking groups.

        I am just so down..I have been trying to keep upbeat…but I am scared…it is not like being 30 and unemployed….now you have the age issue in the mix.

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      • Five to Nine Five to Nine says

        I’m there too, Beach Angel.  I’m also 56 and the fear is almost paralyzing.  Watching the news to find out if unemployment benefits will be extended; sending out hundreds of resumes each week and getting no response besides the occasional rejection letter; signing up with temp agencies who never call… some days I am so psychologically drained, I don’t even want to get out of bed. 

        But I do.  Here’s hoping that the new year brings some peace and relief for all of us.

         

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    • Beach angel Beach angel says

      Hi – Thank you for your kind thoughts.  I had a meeting with a school today to discuss updating some skills, etc.  It was very productive.  The dilema is I don’t know where I will eventually be working…I prefer face to face classes vs online…I like the interaction of a classroom.   I am giving myself a deadline of the end of January to find SOMETHING…otherwise I am flying to Kansas where my sister lives and see what I can find there.  The unemployment in Overland Park area is much lower compared to where I am now.  I did sign up for the unemployment but I have a weird feeling this place is going to try to fight it even though they let me go.   I did nothing wrong….my boss was 22 years old…and there were alot of politics going on,

      How I wish my husband was still alive..we worked  a business together.  I don’t have the capital to work a business now.  I had to sell our business because of the capital and labor involved.  Foster care sounds great.

      I am sorting out my options.  This is hell at this age.  I even called the temp services and they said they have nothing.  Our unemployment rate is 11%!

      If you have any other ideas please share them with me.  Thank you!

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      • MrsB MrsB says

        Inactivity is an insidious effect of Depression. When you are overwhelmed you tend to want to sleep more or live inside the safe and cozy cocoon of your bed, home office, bubble bath. Or is that just me? LOL

        So, what do you do? The best advice is to do at least one positive thing for yourself each day, whether it’s new coat of nail polish applied to your nails, read a fun book that takes your thoughts away from your problems (mysteries appeal to me), clean a small 4 square section of your house that’s needed work for a long time, straighten out your closet and donating some unworn clothes that have been hanging around for a long time. Return books to the library, pop cans to the store, garbage to the cans, etc. You’d be amazed how much you can accomplish at the TV ads. A hot, sudsy sink full of soaking dishes will make that load clean much easier at the next ad. I make a game of housecleaning just to get things done. When your house is in order, you just feel more in control of your life, as simplistic as that seems. There are only so many resumes you can email to prospective employers before you realize that those people aren’t really hiring now. If there’s nothng you can do about the job situation, go back to school. Schools have gyms for you to workout some frustration. And, you’ll meet others in the same boat. How about doing some volunteer work in the field you are interested in just to gain some hands on experience for your resume? That shows a positive personality that can and will get the necessary skills for a job. Plus, oftentimes when job openings become available, you will have already proven your mettle, the group knows you and you may be the one who is considered first for the job!

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      • Beach angel Beach angel says

        Hi – I have done some of the things! you suggested…cleaned some stuff…sort out stuff…write letters…etc.  I am looking into schools.  The big stress factor is making sure the house and car stay on the road…I have college students renting from me and it helps. 

        How am I going to overcome being recently let go in the field that I am in?  That was the worst job I have ever had in my life….and that is no joke..the place has had a history of problems…my fault for not asking more questions when I took this awful job.

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      • MrsB MrsB says

        How am I going to overcome being recently let go in the field that I am in?

        What exactly are you trying to overcome? As you say, it was the worst job you had, so what’s the problem? Are you trying to get your denied unemployment benefits? Have you received a letter saying they’ve been denied? Don’t borrow trouble, you generally will have to wait 2 weeks before getting your first check. It’s called a “waiting week”. In the event that you are denied, file an appeal outlining what happened, through no fault of your own, why you were let go. Many employers are letting employees go, many they do not wish to see go, simply because of the economy. What are the company policies for termination? Those kinds of things shuld have been explained or put in a company booklet for you upon your hiring. If not, basically anyone can let you go for some horsh– reason. Like you didn’t perform up to snuff or the company was downsizing. Many employers try to fault you specifically so they can deny benefits and not have to pay out anything. My last employer said I stole from him, which was a lie. I was home sick with the flu when he called me and told me not to come back. That was shock value enough. Then I realized I had keys to the office that hadn’t been returned because I obviously thought I was returning. So, I returned the keys, not to him, but tothe management office who owned the building. And I had his secretary sign a receipt for the key, serial number included, along with a note from me saying that I was now returning the key after a bout of illness. The unemployment office began sending my checks thereafter. some employers are scammers and so dishonest you are just pleased as punch to finally be done with them. And, I have never looked back.

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  17. Generic Image Renee says

    I am going through almost the same as you are.  I am 52 and was terminated because, although I am a good worker, I can’t type as fast as I used too.  I am also in the medical field for 20yrs and am scared also.  My husband is an alcholic and gambler and I am scared that we will not have enough money.  I have been trying to find a job since april, my unempl benefits will be running out soon.  I don’t know if I can compete with the younger girls in the same field  I am scared.

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    • Five to Nine Five to Nine says

      These are terrible times we live in.  To be out of work at any time is bad; to be out of work for a long period of time in your 50s is horrendous.  There will be no ‘early retirement” or any other kind of retirement for us; we will be working until we drop… if we can even find jobs at this age.  Employers still don’t value experience as much as they should compared to hiring some kid with a degree that they can pay less and abuse more.   Guess I’m getting just a tad bitter and a little bit cynical in my old age. Fear will do that to you.   I am truly saddened and appalled at what is happening in the world these days.

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      • Generic Image Renee says

        I am sad too.  The problem with these employers is that they can hire two kids part time and pay no benefits.  I considered moving in with my daughter and her family until I can find a job, but I don’t want to cause problems in her family.  Her husband’s family is the type that always want something from them and they agreed not to let their in-laws cause a rift between them.  I so agree!

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  18. Generic Image pmc says

    Im a 68yr.old woman.IN FL. I truely hope you will e/m rbdmpp@yahoo.com 

    I believe Id be abel to help you .With your troubles.AND QUICKLY !

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  19. Generic Image Annette Moore says

    Keep the faith, I losted my job twice this year also.  I am 52 years old.  Please don’t give up on yourself.  Keep searching and searching.  The tears will go away and you will become a strong person.  Each day is a a new day and guess what?  You can start all over again.  You can become a master of your own life now.   I found work at Narms.com and it could be a another starting point for you until something else come along.  Listen to the tape, dvd or cd, The secret when you’re feeling low.  It will help.  Wishing you the best.

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    • MrsB MrsB says

      I lost my job in finance two yers ago and have since learned that there is in this country a lot of discrimination in hiring practices. Requirements that you have a degree, speak fluent Spanish, have an excellent credit report and be under the age of 50 have all prevented me from securing work. So, I have chosen to go back to school for my degree. I am less than 18 hours away from graduation and even though this is no gaurantee that I will find gainful employment, it is keeping me busy and actively interested in learning and accomplishing something new every day. The universities and community colleges are packed full of older students now and truthfully, I think the professors enjoy the perspective of someone who’s actually been involved in community activity and has a voice of experience to add to class discussions. If nothing else, we have lived through the 50s and 60s, 70s and 80s and have perspective that students born in the 90s will never have.

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  20. Generic Image Annette Moore says

    Keep the faith, I losted my job twice this year also.  I am 52 years old.  Please don’t give up on yourself.  Keep searching and searching.  The tears will go away and you will become a strong person.  Each day is a a new day and guess what?  You can start all over again.  You can become a master of your own life now.   I found work at Narms.com and it could be a another starting point for you until something else come along.  Listen to the tape, dvd or cd, The secret when you’re feeling low.  It will help.  Wishing you the best

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  21. MrsB MrsB says

    Here’s another option for employment that we should all consider: foster care. The foster care program in every state needs responsible parents for children who are displaced, abused or otherwise need temporary parents. There are also many children who need to be adotped. And the state pays you to take care of them. Teenage children or children who are disabled or meth babies,etc., pay more money. I went through the 12 week course that discussed some of the issues of foster parenting and there are sometimes doctor appts or counseling (for the children) appts that you are required to attend. If you are out of work and have room in your home and heart to help a child in need, this is also an option that will help heal your heart and pay you income. Simply look up the foster care program in your state to amke contact and ask for a schedule of the next available classes. This economy has put families in a bad emotional state and unfortunately, children are often victims. They need your help.

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    • Generic Image Renee says

      Ther problem with that is, although you get a stiphend for the children, it is for them and not you.  You have to be employed to take care of yourself.  Being a foster parent is suppose to come from the heart.  I was told that when I was a foster parent last year

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