1. Midlife women are just gearing up!
Barbara Elaine Singer
“I don’t like the term ‘cougar,’ but I am madly in love with a man 13 years younger than me, a handsome Italian winemaker,” says Vibrant Nation member and life coach Barbara Singer. “Other people think about our age. We don’t. He dated lots of beautiful younger model types, but a date or two, he said there was nothing to talk about.
Being in a relationship is about being compatible in energy, interests and lifestyle. He loves my business savvy, self confidence and life experience, and I love his zest for life and marvel at the stuff we get to do. My only child is grown and he doesn’t want to have kids. It’s perfect. We live part of the year in Italy and part of the year in the USA. It may not be a traditionally lifestyle but it works for us.
I think Baby Boomer women are just gearing up in their 50′s. They put their lives on hold to raise children, run households, develop careers and contribute to community. Now it’s our time to rediscover or dreams and talents that have been long forgotten.
Men on the other hand seem to be winding down, ready to golf or veg with the clicker in their hand. They seem exhausted by responsibilities and at this stage are looking to slow down. This may be generalizing a bit, but let’s hope you are with a partner who is hitting the same stride. I just turned 50 and think it is just a number!”
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Lynne Spreen
2. At 50, women are more than just beautiful — we’re dangerous!
“I am not beautiful, but I had the heady experience of dazzling a young man recently,” says Vibrant Nation blogger Lynne Spreen.
“We were strangers sitting together at a restaurant, and it so happened I was not only up-to-date in his career field, and therefore knew as much as he did, but also I had thought about certain things he hadn’t, and our discussion was spirited and full of verve.
At the end of the lunch, I could tell I’d snapped that young man’s head around – he was attracted but he didn’t know why. I’m old enough to have been his mother, so he was confused. It was the totality of my brain, confidence, and not-bad-for-57 looks. What an ego boost. I not only felt ‘beautiful,’ I felt dangerous. Wahoo!”
3. Most young women are trying to be appealing. An older woman has the confidence to have a real conversation — that’s what’s truly sexy!
Paula Ellen
“Isn’t this the most amazing feeling? As I get older I have the same experience over and over like this,” adds Vibrant Nation blogger Paula Ellen. “To finally have a lot of knowledge and know how to put it together to see a bigger picture, because you’ve been there, done that, read the books, done the work. It’s an intoxicating feeling of power that would be easy to abuse. Sometimes I have to pull back a bit!
I have to laugh when you say you aren’t beautiful. You are physically beautiful, but intellectually as well, and that’s what hit this guy. Most girls his age are trying to be appealing, and so basically give him what they think he is looking for, they are hoping to be liked, so the whole interaction is false in a way, because they are looking for his approval – and on some level he is looking for theirs.
But when this problem is out of the way, and some real conversation can take place, it can be amazing. I dated a wonderful man during my separation and the first year of my divorce who pointed out to me all the ways I was attractive to men. My husband had never mentioned any of these things, and at first I thought this guy was just flattering me to get me into bed. But he made me aware of it, and my self-esteem grew as I noticed other men’s reactions to these things for the first time. It was really empowering, and I am very thankful for the awareness and so glad my friend helped me with this during a time I really did not feel strong, smart or attractive in any way.”
Do you feel sexier now than you did 10 years ago?
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I not only feel sexier than I did 10 years ago, I am now having more and better sex than I did in my 20s. After my marriage of 32 years ended I swore off men but then met a wonderful man five years younger than me. Together we have found love and friendship and better sex than either of us have ever had. I never would have believed how good I could be feeling at 56 years of age – and no one believes i am my age. Even those who know my age say I look 10 to 15 years younger. Feeling sexy is about more than sex. It comes from being in a good place with yourself and stepping out from old comfort zones – and taking opportunities when they come your way.
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How sweet it is at age 60!!!!! Who knew? Last week I went out with a man age 66. We had good talk time and much laughter. My main squeeze however is 63 and my secret lover is 43!!!!! Oh the joy. They are good for my head . . . my ego . . . my love life. When I think about it, its all about where your head is at; what you feel about yourself; where you are in life. I have no time to “FEEL OLD” “LOOK OLD” and thus I don’t “ACT OLD” whatever that means. I just enjoy this life and the guys . . . they keep on looking!
I also have a relationship onthe side with a younger man.
We have been together for about 12 years and he stil is very interested.
He has taken me out of my comfort zone many times and it is an interesting feeling.
He always tells me that with a much younger woman there is not much there-even the most beautiful ones.
so i guess ihave to think i’m still sexy at 57
When I think about it, its all about where your head is at; what you feel about yourself; where you are in life. – so true! I swear I’m younger now than I was when I had way fewer birthdays under my belt. Experience brings wisdom and gives time to work out what really matters. To all women of experience – if it makes you feel vibrant, fits your personal values and isn’t harmful to anyone else… go for it!