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10 tips for hot sex after sixty
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1. Slo-o-o-w-w down. Yes, it takes longer to warm us up. Fortunately, one of the best things about mid-life and later-life sex is the absence of urgency for our partners, also. They enjoy slow sex as much as we do! Make sex play last hours... or days.

2. Kiss and kiss. Kiss sweetly, passionately, quickly, slowly, contentedly, hungrily, lightly, sloppily. All kinds of kisses help you bond with your partner, warm up, and enjoy the moment.

3. Appreciate, decorate, and celebrate your own and your partner’s bodies. Jewelry, lingerie, feathers, fringe, silk, velvet, massage oil, candlelight–whatever looks good, feels good.

4. Do sexy things together long before you hit the sheets. Dance together. Visit lingerie or sex toy shops. Leave sexy notes in each other’s pockets. Give each other little gifts.

5. Do sexy things on your own to get yourself in the mood. Wear sexy lingerie under your everyday clothes. Work out. Swim. Dance. Fantasize. Write in your journal all the sexy things you want to do together. Spend some time humming with your vibrator.

6. Make love during high energy times. Midnight sex after a romantic meal may work for young folks, but we’re more likely to feel full, bloated, and ready to sleep. Instead, make sex dates in the morning or afternoon. (Why do you think they call it “afternoon delight”?)

7. Explore sex toys and other erotic helpers. Our hormonally challenged bodies may need extra help to reach orgasm these days. Lucky for us that sex toys are easy to find, fun to try, and wow, do they work!

8. Use a silky lubricant. We don’t have the natural moisture we used to, but there are many different lubricants that feel great and bring back the joy of friction. When your partner applies it, it becomes an erotic part of sex play.

9. Enjoy quality snuggle time before, during, and afterwards. Holding each other, feeling the warmth and texture of each other’s skin, is one of the sweetest and sexiest parts of making love.

10. Laugh a lot. Play silly games, invent special words, tease each other, rediscover your childhood together. Laughter is bonding, joyful, ageless–and sexy.

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Vibrator use after 50: A vibrant woman’s guide to Toys for grown women
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Most of us long ago learned how to have great sex. Then we arrived at midlife and found ourselves wondering why those techniques suddenly don’t work quite as well today.

The fact is, whether because of menopause or aging, our bodies are different now. As Dr. Pepper Schwartz points out, “Our bodies have changed – for example, in terms of hormones, blood floor, lining of the vagina and sensitivity of breasts. If we want great sex after 50, we may need to re-think how our bodies want to be treated now.”

The good news is, we can regain control of our changing bodies – and have better sex than ever after 50. And something as simple and pleasurable as a vibrator can help.

In fact, VN blogger and menopause specialist Dr. Barb DePree often recommends that her patients use vibrators and other devices to aid sexual health. “What came without trying when we were young – reading the small print, responding to sexual stimuli – may now require assistive devices,” she says. Incorporating a vibrator into your sex life (with or without a partner) can make a tremendous difference, especially now.

The key, Barb says, is to find – not just any vibrator – but a vibrator “with more power and endurance than a young girl needs. Clitoral stimulation at our age needs to overcome the sluggish circulation in a clitoris that, if unused, will go dormant, pulling up into the body. Our vibrators need more power, over a longer period, to replace that circulation and encourage a clitoris to come out to play.”

But choosing a great vibrator at our age can sometimes seem like a daunting task, especially given the myriad of choices available today. Fortunately, the smart, health-conscious members of Vibrant Nation aren’t shy about sharing what does – and doesn’t – work for them. Here are their tips on choosing and enjoying the best toys for grown women.

Fact vs. fiction
If you’re relatively new to the world of vibrators, you may have some concerns to start. It helps to separate myth from fact.

  1. Myth: A vibrator will desensitize your body
    Fact: Many women are afraid to treat female dryness with a vibrator for stimulation because they’ve heard that it will decrease their sensitivity over time and affect their ability to orgasm – but this is untrue. “Sometimes we need stronger stimulation than a hand can give without it becoming irritating. And sometimes we just need a different kind of stimulation for the sheer eroticism of it,” Dr. Schwarz says.
  2. Myth: A vibrator will turn you against “real” sexFact: According to Dr. Schwartz, it’s a myth that a vibrator will turn you against real, live sex. Vibrators can help many women over 50 achieve natural lubrication and orgasms faster, but they will never take away the intimacy you can achieve with a live partner.
  3. Myth: A vibrator will alienate your partnerFact: A confident sex partner won’t be put off by a sex toy; in fact, many will welcome it as part of normal sex play as a couple. As one VN member said, “My partner loves to watch me get my orgasm(s) on while I’m using my Hitachi.” Another member adds, “A vibrator can be used as an integral part of intimacy when you have a partner. If you let your partner use it on you, it can really enhance the experience together.”If you’re shy about introducing a device into your relationship, you can save the vibrator for private time. Perhaps encourage your male partner to personalize the vibrator by giving it a name. Our favorite name from the Vibrant Nation community: BOB (for “battery operated boyfriend”).

Choose your weapon!

Ready to shop? Here are some toys vibrant women love:

  1. The Celebrator. “If you are looking for a powerful clitoral stimulator, this is it. It costs $50, runs on two AA batteries and is quiet. I love it. It looks just like an electric toothbrush. (In fact, I keep it on my bathroom counter next to my toothbrush.) It has two speed settings and they are amazing!”
  2. A muscle massager. “I use a simple muscle massager. It’s a jet engine compared to the vibrate setting on my cell phone, which I can barely feel when the phone is in my pocket.”
  3. The Rabbit. Some women are satisfied with either clitoral or vaginal stimulation, but some women require both at once. If you’re in the latter category, the Rabbit may be for you. “It does both!”
  4. Hitachi Magic Wand. One VN member kept breaking her battery-operated vibrators, so she switched to the Hitachi. “I needed an industrial-strength vibrator. Have had one for four years and will never go back! My first Hitachi died this summer, may the dear thing RIP. I just ordered my second one – with three attachments. Girlfriends, the Hitachi Magic Wand is the only way to go. I have orgasms with it until I literally can’t breathe. Who’s afraid of turning 60 this year? Not me!”
  5. The Eroscillator. Looking for power with less noise? One VN member says, “The most high powered, low sound – not silent, but a lot less noisy then the Hitachi – is the Eroscillator. It is also expensive, but well worth the $$$.” VN member and sex blogger Joan Price also raves about the Eroscillator, “especially the ‘marshmallow’ attachment.'” A third VN member says the Eroscillator “gives one the most amazing orgasm ever! My husband is constantly amazed at the magic that happens when he uses it on me. Batteries never run down because it plugs in. We consider it to be the best $100 we ever spent.” (It also happens to be the only vibrator endorsed by Dr. Ruth!)
  6. Femblossom and Womolia. Dr. Barb DePree recommends these two models from Emotional Bliss. “They have great intensity and are quiet too. Plus, they have recharging batteries. They warm so no cold surfaces and are made of great materials.”
  7. The Gigi. Joan Price says, “The Gigi is my favorite for internal stimulation. It’s slim, which I appreciate, and shaped to rub the G-spot just right.”
  8. The Silver Bullet. “It goes wherever I go.”
  9. Aquasaki. This waterproof vibrator “makes bath time lots of fun.”
  10. Mystic Wand. Joan Price counts the Vibratex Mystic Wand Silicone Vibrator among her three all-time favorites because it “has power of a Hitachi Magic Wand (the former king of powerful vibrators)” while also being “lighter, more comfortable to hold, more versatile, cordless, and smaller for travel and storage. Plus its waterproof.”

Start your engines! 4 tips about using vibrators

  1. Take your time.
    Dr. Pepper Schwartz says, “Masturbation, with our without a partner, takes some exploration in order to find out what your body needs.” When learning how your body responds to a particular vibrator after 50, be sure to stick with it long enough to figure out what works for you now.
  2. Be indirect.
    One of the most common mistakes women make is to directly stimulate the head of the clitoris for too long. According to Dr. Schwartz, “The clitoris is a very sensitive organ and can be come irritated relatively quickly.” Try indirect stimulation instead.
  3. More is better.
    VN blogger and menopause specialist Dr. Barb DePree often prescribes vibrators to her patients. According to Barb, “The secret to keeping sex alive after menopause is more.” So take advantage of the additional stimulation that ready access to a vibrator can give.
  4. If one vibrator doesn’t do it for you, try another.
    Don’t give up if the first one (or two) you try don’t work for you; every woman’s dimensions and senses are different. Shop around, experiment, have fun!

Where to shop

  1. Woman-friendly specialty shops in your area
    If you have access to a woman-friendly boutique store for sex toys in your neighborhood, don’t miss the opportunity to examine the product selection in person and ask questions of the knowledgeable sales staff. As one VN member said, “I didn’t know what to pick, as I am 68 years old, so I asked the sales lady at the store. She was very kind, and compassionate, and she showed me different kinds. Wow! There are so many to choose from. Now I just need to start using the one I chose!”
  2. Trusted online retailers
    If your neighborhood lacks a woman-friendly sex shop, or if you’re shy about visiting the ones in your area, you can check out these trusted retailers online:

    One advantage is that you can spend as much time as you want exploring these private, online retailers. The websites offer lots of valuable information, and employ sensitive, devoted telephone salespeople for women like us.

  3. If quiet operation is important to you
    If you are looking for a particularly discreet device, keep in mind that brand and price can make a difference. Dr. Barb DePree says that “Lelo products are probably the quietest.” Joan Price includes both Lelo and JimmyJane, on her list of quiet vibrator brands. Because models do vary within a brand, read ads carefully. If a vibrator features quiet operation, the ad will usually specify this. And as a rule, remember: “cheaper vibrators won’t be quiet.”


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Vaginal Lubricants: 6 products to help overcome dryness that causes intercourse pain
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While everyone knows some ways that menopause and aging affect a woman’s body — can anyone say wrinkles or hot flashes? — many women are embarrassed to discuss painful intercourse resulting from vaginal dryness.

It’s especially frustrating when the natural vaginal lubrication a woman is used to “dries up,” making it so much more difficult to enjoy what can be one of life’s great rewards — sex after 50!

While there are medical solutions to consider for vaginal dryness, this special report addresses the easiest short-term fix for painful intercourse owing to female dryness, a solution strongly recommended by Dr. Pepper Schwartz: vaginal lubrication.

In fact, according to Dr. Schwartz, the potential benefits of vaginal lubricants extend beyond the immediate, short-term effects:

“Using a vaginal lubricant often acts to ‘prime the pump’ and your body may start lubricating on its own again. Plus, once you start having sex, you awaken the hormones in your body. In some cases, the more sex and arousal you have (by any means), the more likely those vaginal tissues are likely to get in shape or stay in shape.”

The best over-the-counter vaginal lubricantsIf you haven’t shopped for vaginal lubricants recently, you’re in for a pleasant surprise. Your neighborhood pharmacy stocks a lot more of them than it used to.Whether you prefer lubrication that feels natural, like your own vaginal secretions, or one that is as slippery as possible, or one that’s thicker to help with thinning vaginal walls that might be causing painful intercourse, you can find an appropriate product.The members of Vibrant Nation love to share great product recommendations, and lubricants are one of the most discussed. Here are some of the most recommended vaginal lubricants from Vibrant Nation members:
Liquid Silk – Favored by many post-menopausal women. Better for women as vaginal lubrication than it is for men (and their own needs).




Carrageenan – “Here’s why I like it: it’s all natural and feels like me. It’s the only all natural lubricant I’ve found that actually works. It has no smell or taste, either.”




Replens –  A unique, estrogen-free and long-lasting vaginal moisturizer.  One application can last three days. As one member said, “I like the products like Replens, which allow use three times per week. Then whenever the opportunity presents itself, I can be ready.” With regular use, Replens provides continuous vaginal moisture for most women.



Astroglide –  “My personal favorite is Astroglide, and yes, it does make things glide. Works better on toys too. Just add a little water if the lube starts to dry out.”




OH! Warming Lubricant – “Emerita makes a product called ‘OH! Warming Lubricant’ which can help fuel the ‘fire down below’ in a gentle, sensual way while providing ‘natural’ lubrication.”




K-Y Lubricants – The grandmother of all vaginal lubricants now offers a wide range of products, from “Moisture Enhancing Silk-E” to “His and Hers” products. One member says, “It’s like liquid Teflon.”

Buying vaginal lubricants onlineIf you’re shy about checking out vaginal lubricants at the drugstore, you can shop for them online at women-friendly, sex product retailers such as the following:



Spend as much time as you want exploring these private, online retailers. These websites offer lots of valuable information, and employ sensitive, devoted telephone salespeople for women — just like you.Shy about getting started with vaginal lubricants for overcoming the female dryness that causes painful intercourse?You may have purchased vaginal lubrication, you may even have tried several out and found your favorite. But like many women, you may be shy about asking your partner to use vaginal lubricants with you. So, how should you introduce this new product into your sex life?Women who have traveled this path have two suggestions. First, invite your partner to apply the lubricant. Seeing how it works will probably turn him on, too, and encourage him to make it part of your sex play.Another way to introduce vaginal lubricants, suggested by a member:

“Try using some on him during foreplay. The way your hands will slide should make a believer out of him. If he is still resistant, try putting some lube on your inner lips when you are planning to have sex.”

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Need more recommendations? Check out our full free report: Best Lubricants After 50: Our Favorite Personal Lubricants, Female Moisturizers and Natural Solutions to Female Dryness

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This may be the world’s weirdest vibrator for women
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Vibrators for women are no longer being made with realism in mind. Where designs of the past were made to resemble actual male anatomy, newer design trends have led to the creation of smaller, sleeker vibrators for women. For the woman who wants to put realism back into sex play, this rather strange new vibrator is the perfect choice.

The Ejaculating Vibrator

Seriously, vibrators for women aren’t likely to get more real than this. It’s a rabbit vibrator that’s designed to rotate and ejaculate, so you can actually simulate the entire sexual experience if you like. This device really has no medical application whatsoever; it’s just for the girl who wants to take her vibrator play time up to the next level.

To make things simple, it’s known as the ejaculating and rotating rabbit vibrator, which should be fairly easy to remember if you’re thinking about all the features. It can be filled with the liquid of your choice, and water is most certainly the safest and the cleanest. Use anything else, and you run into messy cleaning issues that you may not want to face on second thought.

You control the ejaculation, which puts this vibrator completely ahead if the curve where men are concerned. The 7 different vibration modes allow you to control the experience. The shaft itself moves and gyrates. It has 6 different rotation speeds, which is more settings than a lot of men out there. The realistic design stands apart from other newer toys on the market, and that makes it a different vibrator experience.

This unusual vibrator for women also lights up during use, just an extra feature for fun. It runs on four AA batteries. Altogether, it measures 9 inches long and has a 3.75-inch insertable length. The insertable diameter is 1.51 inches. The design is made with a combination of ABS and TPR.

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A World of Weird Vibrators for Women

An ejaculating vibrator seems a little strange, and maybe even off-putting, but all new vibrators for women are a little suspect until you try them. Essentially all vibrators are designed to simulate a sexual experience. This one just has an extra feature you’re not going to find in many models. If you’ve been looking for an excuse to get experimental with your sex toys, this may be the best vibrator for you.

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The Way You Delivered Your Kids Affects Your Dyspareunia Risk
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A new study shows that some women are more prone to experiencing dyspareunia than others, and it all has something to do with the way you gave birth.

Studying Dyspareunia

In a new study published in BJOG: An International Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, several risk factors for dyspareunia are discovered. Dyspareunia, painful sex, is very common in menopausal women. It’s just more common in menopausal women who have been through a specific experience.

The study investigated specific obstetric factors in women, including how they delivered their children. Breastfeeding, postpartum depression and several other criterion were studied as part of the research. The women answered extensive questions, some highly personal, in order to help scientists collect accurate data about this all-too-common problem.

Mothers from six hospitals, 1244 in all, participated in the study. Of the women studied, many noticed pain during or after sex. Women who had surgical procedures during childbirth experienced pain during sex for up to one year following the procedure.

Scientists are still studying the long-term effects of childbirth operations and dyspareunia, but the numbers aren’t looking great so far.

If you’re in a high-risk group for painful sex, don’t panic. There are many ways to treat this problem to make it more manageable, and one of the ways is not that you should stop having sex.

Painful Sex

Dyspareunia is one of the most common menopause symptoms that women face as they go through this phase of life, yet many of them don’t discuss the problem. This can make you feel isolated and alone, like you’re the only one who’s going through this. It can make you feel that something is wrong with you, and it will almost certainly make you feel older than you want to feel.

One of the easiest ways to treat dyspareunia is lubricant. Water-based formulas are perfectly safe even for insertion into the body. Use the lubricant before sex and any other time you want to feel a bit more moist. Apply it directly to the vagina to immediately treat female dryness and prevent dyspareunia.

Lubricant can be applied to vibrators for women and even to your partner as well. Incorporate the lubricant into your sex play. Applying the lubricant can be sexy if you get your partner involved. Female dryness is very normal, so there’s nothing to be embarrassed about, and your partner doesn’t want you to feel pain. Involve them and talk to them, and you may find that they’re instrumental in helping you overcome dyspareunia.

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Remote Control Your Vibrator Use
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Vibrator use is supposed to be relaxing, and it should definitely be easy. But sometimes, it’s not. Many vibrators for women have to be controlled through hand held use. You’ve got to position yourself just so to get everything in the right place, and you may even need to shift around the whole time. How is that relaxing? Remote control your vibrator use instead.

Remote Control Vibrators for Women

When you want a more hands-off vibrator experience, remote controlled vibrators for women are the best possible option. These types of vibrators are made to be worn, not wielded. Once they’re in place, simply use the remote control to set the speed and the settings that you want. The remote allows you to make changes in a moment when you want to mix things up.

Remote controlled vibrators for women are often designed to be worn as underwear, only with a special apparatus. You can actually wear it all the time, even when you go out, because it won’t activate until you use the controller to do so.

The Club Vibe 2.OH is a rechargeable vibrator that’s made to be worn casually when not in use. It’s wireless, and has 5 different intensity levels. The remote control has a range of 15 to 20 feet, which invites even more play. That means you can actually give the remote to a partner and allow them to have control. Couples vibrator use is a good way to explore your own sexuality and integrate your partner into your sex play.

Other vibrators for women are getting into the remote control game via the app market. Certain vibrator models have their own specialized apps that are downloaded from the big app stores. Through this, you can control your vibrator use without even using an extra device. Some of the apps even do more than control your vibrators. OhMiBod is working on an Android app that will have sexting features as well.

Using Bluetooth technology, the vibrator can be powered by smartphone easily. Vibrators for women are getting more high-tech and sophisticated all the time, and that’s great news for vibrant women everywhere. Even Walgreen’s has remote control vibrators, which you can purchase through their online website.

When you just want to lie back and relax and still stay in complete control, try remote vibrator use. Vibrators for women have a lot of different features and extras to offer. Try them all, or else you might be missing out on your next favorite thing.

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Female Dryness Creates Other Symptoms, Too
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Female dryness is such a common side effect of menopause, many women attempt to ignore it. But there are other symptoms that can come with dryness, and these may be impossible for you to ignore.

Female Dryness and You

Vaginal dryness is one of the most common symptoms of menopause, though many women don’t discuss it. Studies show that women are reluctant to talk about their personal moisture even with their doctors. The dryness is a natural result of lack of estrogen in your body. Your vaginal walls become thinner and dryer, and this can cause dyspareunia – painful sex. When you’re dry, sex isn’t going to feel as pleasurable. This is one of the worst side effects of female dryness, but it’s not the only one.

  • Bleeding: Dry skin can become torn and damaged easily. Make sure your partner knows to be slow and gentle with you to avoid painful tears and rips that create vaginal bleeding.
  • Soreness: You may feel a general aches or soreness, even when you aren’t engaged in sexual intercourse. Female dryness can create feelings of pain any time if you leave it untreated.
  • Irritation: Without proper moisture, your vagina could easily become irritated. This will make your skin sensitive to the touch and may even make it painful for you to sit normally.
  • Urinary tract infection: All that irritation and lack of lubrication can lead to a urinary tract infection. Many menopausal women find themselves getting these infections much more frequently than they did prior to menopause.

Lack of lubrication also puts you at a higher risk for bacterial problems, which can cause yeast infections and other side effects.

Treating the Problem

Female dryness can cause many painful symptoms, but you don’t want to get bogged down in treating them day-to-day. Treat the dryness instead of the symptoms, and that other stuff should go away. You have several options when it comes to managing this type of dryness, and living with it isn’t one of them. There is no reason that you should feel pain or avoid sex even as you go through menopause. A healthy sex life is possible for many more years yet.

Over-the-counter lubricants have proven very effective at treating female dryness of all types. Use water-based lubricants to avoid the risk of bacterial infection caused by oil-based formulas. Vaginal estrogen cream delivers a low dose of estrogen directly to the vaginal walls, but this can be obtained only through prescription. Some women find that foreplay and sex play are enough to get natural juices flowing again.

Look into various remedies to find what works for you best, because you shouldn’t have to live with dryness or the symptoms it causes.

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Did You Know That Condoms Can Help With Female Dryness?
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Many menopausal women in committed relationships don’t bother with condoms, and that’s a real shame. Condoms are an easy option for managing female dryness, and you don’t have to do much to make this treatment work. It’s much less messy than lubricant, safer for your health than vaginal estrogen cream and it’s got some added benefits to go along with it.

Female and Male Condoms

Have you ever heard of female condoms? The female condom, also known as the internal condom, is made with synthetic latex. Internal condoms are designed with two rings, one at either end. The inner ring is used to insert the condom into the vagina and keep it in place. The outer ring covers the labia area. There are several types of female condoms on the market, but most follow this basic design.

There are tons of advantages to using female condoms. For starters, you don’t need an erect penis in order to use them. You can insert the condom hours before actual sexual intercourse, which allows you to engage in sex play with no interruptions.

Female condoms also help you avoid the pain and problems associated with female dryness. They surround your vagina with a barrier, and this makes the friction of sex less painful. Because of the material used to make female condoms, you can use lubricants with these condoms without worrying about breakage. Male condoms often cannot be used with lubricant, unless you’re using a special type of condoms.

Male condoms can be purchased pre-lubricated, however, and this can also prevent any problems you’re having with female dryness. Many women don’t like male condoms, the more common type of condoms, because it takes the control out of their hands. Female condoms offer another option.

Condoms and Other Female Dryness Options

Condoms of either type can help you manage female dryness without the messiness of lubricants. Instead of stopping sexual activity to apply your lubricant, you can simply keep going without breaking the mood. A pause in sexual activity can actually make female dryness worse, because it prevents juices from flowing (so to speak). Vaginal estrogen creams can also be messy, and you must apply them well before any sexual activity so that you do not transfer the hormones to your partner.

Lubricants and vaginal estrogen cream can treat female dryness, but they fail to do something that condoms can: protect you from STIs. Sexually transmitted infections are increasingly becoming a problem among menopausal women. You may not be able to get pregnant anymore, but you can absolutely get an STI. Condoms will not only prevent vaginal dryness, they also keep you sexually safer. If you are enjoying different partners, condoms may be the very best option for your female dryness.

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Is Female Dryness Causing Your Abnormal Bleeding?
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Changes brought about by menopause stop your menstrual cycle, so the appearance of vaginal bleeding can be terrifying. But female dryness can cause this type of bleeding fairly regularly, so don’t start to panic right away. Treat the dryness first and see if this fixes the problem. That bleeding may not be the terrifying problem that you fear at all, but another symptom of being a menopausal woman.

Atrophic Vaginitis

Female dryness, also known as atrophic vaginitis, can cause vaginal bleeding. This is because the vaginal walls are not lubricated enough. The dry skin may become irritated, and tear, creating the bleeding. The presence of blood where it shouldn’t be is always frightening, but bleeding caused by dryness can be treated.

The most common cause of vaginal bleeding after menopause has occurred is female dryness. As it happens, dryness is one of the most common menopause symptoms and many women have experienced it. In other words, a lot of post-menopausal women experience vaginal bleeding. You may notice this bleeding after sexual intercourse, because the area has been aggravated. Itching, burning and general feelings of pain or achiness can also result from vaginal dryness, particularly after sexual activity.

Female Dryness

Lack of vaginal lubrication after menopause is very common. Your estrogen levels have changed, so naturally your personal moisture is different as well. Lack of lubrication doesn’t mean you have a lack of sexual desire, however. It just means your body chemistry has altered. It may take longer, or become more difficult, for your natural moisture to flow.

Water-based lubricants, which are non-irritating, can supplement your own natural moisture. Use them when your moisture is lacking. Lubricants are applied directly to the dry area. Extended sex play can make your own moisture flow. Try using vibrators for women and other toys in the bedroom to increase your lubrication. Also avoid fried foods, and drink plenty of water to increase your body’s moisture content.

Vaginal Bleeding

Female dryness is the most common cause of vaginal bleeding after menopause, but not the only cause. If you treat the dryness but the bleeding persists, something else may be the cause of your problem. Consult with your physician to get an examination, and get the problem treated. Vaginal bleeding can also be caused by polyps, growths in the cervix. Infections can also  cause this type of bleeding, so see a doctor if increasing your moisture doesn’t resolve this issue.

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Can natural herbs cure female dryness?
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Female dryness is one of the most common causes of sexual dysfunction in women, but can natural herbs provide an easy cure?

Dryness in the vaginal region is the most frequent cause of dyspareunia, painful sex. This type of dryness isn’t necessarily an indicator that desire is lacking. Female dryness can be caused by many reasons, from worrying too much, to ingesting, and too many fried foods. But it’s very often caused by menopause, lowering estrogen levels in the body. The lack of hormones creates a lack of natural lubrication. Can an herbal cure give you back that moisture?

Pure Breast Herbs

Women’s health is a huge market because so many women are approaching menopause. It’s a period of life that comes with a lot of symptoms and stress. Menopause can cause depression, hot flashes, insomnia and lots of other ills, along with female dryness. And because so many women are looking for answers, there are a lot of companies marketing medicine to them.

One of the newest on the market is Pure Breast Herbs, which is absolutely a real product. It’s designed for the “healthy enhancement of genitals,” according to a press release. Pueraria Mirfica and Curcuma Comosa are cited among the ingredients. Despite what the name would indicate, this supplement is designed to tighten the vagina and promote vaginal health.

This particular product, along with many others, is not tested or regulated by the FDA. Most supplements are not, and some of the marketing may actually turn women off rather than get them excited about a product. However, natural herbs have been used medicinally for thousands of years. Are there herbs out there that can treat female dryness, dyspareunia and other menopause symptoms?

Menopause Herbs

While the FDA has not expressly approved any natural botanicals, herbal ingredients are used in various pharmaceuticals currently on the market. Always seek a doctor’s advice before taking any type of supplement, and do your own research before ingesting any foreign medicine or pills.

Ginseng is a popular natural herb, and it may be helpful to women. Though it’s known as a man’s herb, there is evidence to suggest that ginseng can increase blood flow to the lower female body. Increased blood flow in the pelvis can increase your own lubrication, preventing female dryness and dyspareunia.

According to legend, maca works like a natural aphrodisiac. Also known as Peruvian ginseng, this herb is known for improving desire and even for making orgasms more intense. Discovery Health has done studies on the herb which suggest it does have the power to boot stamina and libido.

Kava reduces stress and calms the nerves, which makes it very potentially beneficial to menopausal women. Stress can create female dryness that leads to painful sex, and menopause can be a very tense time. Take it with Vitamin E, which has a reputation for boosting sex hormones. It can even be used as a lubricant.

Black cohosh can be very effective at treating menopausal symptoms. It relieves muscle aches and pains, and in some women may even reduce hot flashes and night sweats. This herb increases blood flow to the pelvis to increase your natural lubrication.

Female Dryness

Herbs are just one treatment option for women who are experiencing dyspareunia. Over-the-counter lubricants can be used to supplement natural moisture. Vaginal estrogen cream can increase hormones to bring back your normal level of lubrication. Vibrators for women can be incorporated into sex play in order to kick start natural vaginal moisture. There are many different ways to manage dryness. Find what works for you, and keep trying until you discover the answer. You may be menopausal, but you can still have great sex.

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Don’t look for a pill to cure dyspareunia
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If you’re waiting for a Viagra-ish, libido-boosting pill to cure dyspareunia, keep waiting. The FDA has recently failed to approve another female sex pill that’s come to the market.

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Flibanserin is the latest female Viagra pill to fail to receive FDA approval, but it certainly isn’t the first of its kind. Drug manufacturers have been trying to reproduce the success of Viagra in a pill that’s designed for women. But so far, they haven’t had much luck.

Could ‘female Viagra’ really work?

The Food and Drug Administration didn’t feel that Flibanserin proved to improve the female libido, so the pill could not pass their rigorous testing.

The drug, made by Sprout, was designed to target the brain in order to boost the libido. Most menopausal women could explain why this may not be working. Often, women who experience painful sex (dyspareunia) are suffering from problems like female dryness and thinning vaginal walls. A pill that targets the brain isn’t likely to be effective at treating these issues.

But the drug company made a valiant effort to prove their case, providing the FDA with information on 11,000 women who participated in clinical trials. Women took note of their sexual encounters for the study. According to Sprout’s findings, sexual satisfaction rose by 2.5 events over 28 days. This is comparable to a rise of 1.5 sexual events among women who were assigned a placebo. According to the FDA, the potential benefits don’t outweigh the side effects. These include dizziness, depression and lethargy.

Dyspareunia pills

There are pills used to treat dyspareunia, after a fashion. The most common cause of female dryness is low estrogen, a condition that occurs naturally through menopause. Estrogen pills can help to combat this condition by increasing your natural lubrication. Low-dose estrogen is also available as a cream, tablet or even a wearable vaginal ring.

But dyspareunia can also be treated through natural means. Vibrator use is chief among the recommended natural methods of treating female dryness. Extended sex play increases blood flow to the vagina, and that makes your own natural moisture increase.

What you eat can even help you overcome female dryness. Drink lots of water to raise your body’s moisture level, and avoid alcohol and fried foods (which can create dehydration). Reduce stress, which can prevent natural lubrication, and exercise regularly to increase your body’s blood flow.

Often, menopausal women don’t suffer from a lack of desire. It’s a lack of lubrication they’re facing. Find ways to treat this problem, and you may discover you have no need for female Viagra.

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Painful sex, or by a more complicated name dyspareunia, is so common among menopausal women that you may be told to use lubricant and go away (in more polite terms). But what if lubricant doesn’t work? When personal moisture isn’t the source of your sexual pain, you may end up feeling a little lost – or totally and completely lost. Find out what you need to do to enjoy sex again.

Female Dryness and Estrogen Creams, oh my!

Your vagina is going to change as you go through menopause. Chances are good that the vaginal walls will become thinner so that you feel penetration more acutely. Usually this causes pain, rather than intensified pleasure. Female dryness may start to become a regular problem, because the lack of estrogen in your body leads to less personal moisture. These two symptoms can easily create dyspareunia, and often do among menopausal women.

It is not difficult to treat dyspareunia caused by female dryness. Over-the-counter lubricant is a very effective treatment for immediate relief. Vaginal estrogen cream can be used to deliver low doses of hormones directly to the affected area. Kegel exercises, diet and sex play can increase your own natural moisture and get juices flowing again.

But when your dyspareunia is not caused by female dryness, you may find a baffling lack of resources and advice. Lubricants won’t make sex feel pleasurable again if moisture isn’t your problem in the first place. Once you reach a certain age, your symptoms of painful sex may be too-easily written off as menopause and female dryness. And when lubricants and other methods don’t work for you, this can be discouraging. It can even make you want to give up.

Don’t. There’s a reason you’re experiencing this type of sexual pain. Keep looking for that reason, find a treatment and take control of your sex life once more.

The Other Side of Dyspareunia

Female dryness is the most common cause of dyspareunia, but by far not the only one. If you’re experiencing chronic pain, start paying attention to the symptoms. Take note of when you’re feeling pain, and pay attention to the type of pain you’re having. If it persists, talk to your physician about the potential problems you may be experiencing.

  • Fibroids can cause pelvic pain and pain during sex. Fibroids are non-cancerous tumors in the body that usually stay small in size. They can cause irregular bloating and bleeding, as well as dyspareunia.
  • IC, or interstitial cystitis, is a bladder condition that can make sex painful. Your diet plays a strong part in IC symptoms. Pay attention to when you’re having pain, and take note of what you’ve been eating and drinking around this time. Caffeine, carbonated beverages and acidic fruits can all aggravate IC symptoms.
  • Endometriosis causes pain during sex and pain at other times as well. This condition is caused by vaginal tissue growing outside of the uterus. It often causes irregular bleeding and sometimes extreme pelvic pain both in and out of the bedroom.

If you’re having pain during sex, it’s a problem. Pain is a signal that something is wrong, so pay attention. Don’t give up on sex because it hurts or because you’re getting older. Find the problem, treat it and keep working on making sex pleasurable again. Sex should always be a joy, and you can continue to enjoy it for many, many years after menopause.

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Sex toy trends: What’s new in vibrators for women?
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You probably already know about some of the amazing features available in the newest cell phones, but what are you missing in vibrators for women? If you’re not up-to-date on the sex toy trends, you’re missing out on some new experiences you may want to try.

Robots, NASA Engineers and Underwear…Oh my!

Instead of asking what’s new in sex toys, it may be more expedient to ask what isn’t. High-tech gadgetry and sex toys are coming together in brand-new ways. New designs, new features, new types of movement – it’s all coming to vibrators for women.

Big developments in the market include the RealTouch. This device was designed by a NASA engineer to offer interactive online sex. Maintaining a long-distance relationship just got a whole lot easier. Speaking of distance sex play, Durex is developing Fundawear. This is a vibrating pair of underwear, made in both his and her models, that can be stimulated by iPhone. Even when your partner is far away, the two of you can enjoy in sexual activity – after a fashion, anyway.

The Real Doll is definitely one of the biggest new sex toys coming to the market, and it just may make the biggest waves as well. The Real Doll was recently featured at the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo, a $8500 gadget that could herald the beginning of full-sized robotic sex.

The evolution of the sex industry

For many decades, the sex industry was associated with seediness. It was all plastic materials and bright colors, brown paper bags and the wrong side of the tracks. But the industry is evolving. These days, vibrators for women are on sale at family-friendly stores. Some devices are high-end, and manufacturers are exploring all sorts of new options and features to keep their products exciting.

Even the basic designs are being re-invented to challenge everything consumers know about vibrator use. One new vibrator design simulates oral sex. Another, the Stronic Drei, actually mimics a thrusting motion. Bonus: it’s completely waterproof. You can buy vibrating fingertips, g-spot stimulators, wands and eggs and even models that look like cosmetic products.

The sex toy industry is changing, so maybe it’s time for your perception of vibrator use to change as well. These gadgets aren’t solely used to replace men (though some women say they’re very good at doing that). They can be used between couples, and vibrators for women don’t have to be used to completion. They can be integrated into intercourse with a partner to provide early stimulation, for example. Some  sex experts even prescribe vibrator use to prevent female dryness and keep the vagina healthy through menopause.

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What you eat really does have an effect on your entire body, and it may be the cause of your female dryness.

Lack of lubrication is common among women as they approach menopause, but that doesn’t mean you have to live with it. The foods you’re eating and the beverages you’re consuming can play a huge part in the amount of personal moisture you have.

Good Fats

Some foods do contain healthy fats. Your body actually needs some fat to stay healthy, and it certainly needs good fats in order to stay moist. Good fats will increase the moisture in your body, and that helps your personal lubrication.

Soy and flaxseed contain healthy fats that are good for you. The oil you cook with may also contain healthy fat. Olive oil, canola, sunflower, peanut and sesame oil all contain healthy fats. Avocados, peanut butter and nuts also contain the good fats your body needs. Fatty fishes, such as salmon and tuna, also contain good fats. All of these foods will help you maintain your natural moisture content, and they won’t contribute to your female dryness.

Bad Beverages

The liquids you’re consuming may actually contribute to the problems you’re having with female dryness. Caffeine and alcohol cause dehydration which can decrease the amount of lubrication your body is creating. When your body is dry, it’s not going to produce the moisture you need for sexual activity.

Drink lots of water instead of those bad beverages. Consuming 6 to 8 glasses a day will keep your moisture content high, and that makes it easier for your body to produce lubrication.

Vitamin E

If you’re experiencing female dryness, try to get more vitamin E in your system. You’ll find it naturally in whole grains, nuts, apples and apricots. Green vegetables are a great source of vitamin E, which helps your body stay moist.

More Than Diet…

Your diet isn’t the only way you can control female dryness. If you find yourself feeling dry, try extending sex play. Increase foreplay and experiment with toys. Vibrators, for example, are a great way to spark natural lubrication. Vibrators and other toys can be used with a partner. Many models are designed for two people to enjoy, in fact.

By controlling what you eat and taking more time in the bedroom, you can beat female dryness in many cases. If natural methods do not work, you may want to consider over-the-counter lubricants or prescription vaginal estrogen cream.