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Sep
29
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Is masturbation the answer to defeating vaginal dryness and dyspareunia?
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Did you know you have a part of your body whose only function is to create pleasure? The clitoris is comprised not only of the glans, but extends beneath the surface to include thousands of nerve endings. Women who experience vaginal dryness and dyspareunia (painful sex) are encouraged to experiment with self-touch, partner-touch, and/or vibrator-touch, using pressure all around the visible part of the clitoris, not just directly on the glans.

Don’t be embarrassed! What some people can’t admit to doing is common in the animal kingdom: dogs, cats, horses, bulls, rats, hamsters, deer, and whales all do it. And so can you.

In fact, in addition to improving sex after menopause, treating dyspareunia (painful intercourse), and encouraging more lubrication for those suffering vaginal dryness, masturbation is actually boost your health in many ways. Self pleasure has been credited with:

  • Building resistance to yeast infections.
  • Combating pre-menstrual tension, cramps, and backaches
  • Relieving chronic back pain and increasing pain thresholds
  • Providing stress relief.
  • Boosting the mood by releasing endorphins.
  • Acting as a natural sleep sedative.
  • Building stronger pelvic floor muscles, which can lead to better sex.
  • Putting a little pep in your step… It’s a natural energy booster.

If it’s been a while since you’ve gone solo, be prepared for it to take a while to “get there.” As Dr. Pepper Schwartz explains in The Vibrant Nation Guide to Better Sex After 50, “Masturbation, with our without a partner, takes some exploration in order to find out what works for you. Some women have not stuck with it long enough to figure it out. And they have made some mistakes.”

Schwartz warns that the most common error is to over stimulate the head of the clitoris. It’s very sensitive organ and can be irritated easily. Also, what once worked for you may be a bit different now that you’re discovering sex after menopause. If you learned how to masturbate effectively long ago, those techniques may not be work as well today because of the change in hormones, blood flow, lining of the vagina and sensitivity of breasts and clitoris. As Dr. Schwartz says, “Your body may have changed and so you might have to re-think how your body wants to be treated now.”

If you’re trying to combat female dryness, or if you’re experiencing painful sex after 50 — also known as dyspareunia — you might try masturbation to increase the flow of your own natural vaginal lubrication.

Sep
28
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4 products that promise to make Kegel exercises for women easier
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Kegels are a group of muscles named after Dr. Arnold Kegel. They’re located at the pelvic floor in the shape of a figure eight in both men and women. Kegel exercises for women can improve urinary incontinence issues as well as sexual performance.

When you can’t enjoy sex, you stop wanting to have sex, and this leads into a whole host of other problems that could change your future relationships and sexual enjoyment. Kegel exercises for women are an effective treatment against dyspareunia, more commonly known as painful sex.

By strengthening the muscles associated with the pelvic floor, the muscles that directly affect the vagina and the bladder, Kegel exercises for women increase blood flow to the genitals, thus increasing lubrication that prevents dyspareunia. Because Kegels strengthen those muscles that are engaged during orgasm, women will also notice increased intensity and frequency when it comes to sexual release after practicing these exercises. The exercises help to prevent vaginal thinning that occurs in some women as estrogen levels change through menopause.

Because it can be difficult to tell if you’re doing Kegel exercises for women correctly, there are several “helper” products on the market:


GyneFlex
GyneFlex is a resistance exerciser designed by a gynecologist to strengthen vaginal muscles.

 

 

 

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Verseo Super Kegel Pelvic Muscle Thigh Exerciser
Regular exercise with this vinyl-padded stainless steel exerciser promises to strengthen pelvic floor muscles while helping slim and tighten thighs, buttocks, and lower abdominal muscles.

 

 
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LELO Luna Beads
Made with body-safe, phthalate-free silicone, this set of two 28-gram and two 37-gram beads is intended to help you develop increased resistance over time.

 

 

 

 


Kegel Pro – Vaginal Exerciser
This kegel exerciser promises to help you increase your orgasms, enhance sexual stimulation, and heighten sensation for you and your partner.

As you practice Kegel exercises for women, don’t expect to notice changes overnight. Kegels, like any other type of exercise regime, strengthen the pelvic floor over time. In the interim, use vaginal lubricants to prevent dyspareunia. With an understanding partner, using lubricants can become a fun sexual experiment that adds to the overall enjoyment of intimacy.

Sep
19
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Prevent painful sex with Kegel exercises for women
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Kegel exercises for women are an effective treatment against dyspareunia, more commonly known as painful sex. When you can’t enjoy sex, you stop wanting to have sex, and this leads into a whole host of other problems that could change your future relationships and sexual enjoyment.

The pelvic floor

No, it’s not a new exercise mat you’ve just got to have for the latest craze — the pelvic floor is a system of muscles inside your body. Also known as the PC, or pubococcygeus, muscles, the pelvic floor is responsible for sexual climax and bladder control. For these reasons alone, Kegel exercises for women are invaluable.

Time and stress weaken the muscles that make up the pelvic floor. This weakening may lead to leaking bladder problems and painful sex, dyspareunia, that dramatically change your life. Losing control of your body is a devastating experience; many women may begin to feel “old” or less vibrant as they find themselves suffering from bladder weakness and lack of sexual enjoyment. But those muscles of the body can re-strengthened with Kegel exercises for women.

Kegel exercises

Kegel exercises for women strengthen the muscles associated with the pelvic floor, the muscles that directly affect the vagina and the bladder. Kegels, as they are commonly called, increase blood flow to the genitals; this increases lubrication that prevents dyspareunia. Because Kegels strengthen those muscles that are engaged during orgasm, women will also notice increased intensity and frequency when it comes to sexual release after practicing these exercises. The exercises help to prevent vaginal thinning that occurs in some women as estrogen levels change through menopause.

Have you ever stopped urinating mid-stream? If so, you already have an idea of how to perform Kegel exercises for women. The same pelvic floor muscles you need to control your urination are engaged during Kegel exercises. When your bladder is empty (that’s important), practice the same squeeze-and-release method you might use to stop and then start urination. Squeeze and hold the muscles for three seconds and release to perform one Kegel. Repeat this 10 times, if possible, to do a full set of Kegels. Slowly increase your exercise regime until you are able to do 10 squeeze-and-releases at a time at least three times a day. Do your Kegel exercises regularly every other day to keep your pelvic floor strong and your body under control.

Avoiding dyspareunia

Don’t expect to notice changes overnight. Kegel exercises, like any other type of exercise regime, strengthen the pelvic floor over time. In the interim, use vaginal lubricants to prevent dyspareunia. With an understanding partner, using lubricants can become a fun sexual experiment that adds to the overall enjoyment of intimacy.

 

Sep
9
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Masturbation helps combat vaginal dryness, boost health
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Vibrant Nation member “Enjoying New Life” is doing just that! She’s a recently single woman who said she has read the medical studies that “say us 50 year old non-sexually active women need to masturbate in order to not dry up like a prune…”

Enjoying is right. Doctors often encourage women who experience vaginal dryness and dyspareunia (painful intercourse) to experiment with self-touch, partner-touch, and/or vibrator-touch, using pressure all around the visible part of the clitoris.

In addition to treating dyspareunia and encouraging more lubrication for those suffering from vaginal dryness, masturbation has been shown to be a boost to your health in many ways. For example, masturbation and self pleasure have been credited with:

  • Providing stress relief.
  • Acting as a natural sleep sedative.
  • Boosting the mood by releasing endorphins.
  • Boosting energy.
  • Building resistance to yeast infections.
  • Combating pre-menstrual tension, cramps, and backaches
  • Relieving chronic back pain and increasing pain thresholds
  • Building stronger pelvic floor muscles, which can ultimately lead to better sex.

Other Vibrant Nation members were quick to support Enjoying New Life.

ThurmanLady said, “The point of your post is absolutely right. It’s good for you in the sense of maintaining your “female” health. It’s also good for lots of other things, as orgasms are definitely a good thing for your complete well-being.”

Scribbler added, “…Your body is your own personal temple. Treat it with love and respect. ‘Use it or lose it’ applies here – not to mention your sanity is involved. Research indeed that for once has solid merit.”

If it’s been a while since you’ve experimented with self pleasure, be prepared for it to be a bit different than you may remember. As Dr. Pepper Schwartz explains in Vibrant Nation’s Best Lubricants After 50, “What once worked for you may be a bit different now that you’re discovering sex after menopause. If you learned how to masturbate effectively long ago, those techniques may not be work as well today because of the change in hormones, blood flow, lining of the vagina and sensitivity of breasts and clitoris. Your body may have changed and so you might have to re-think how your body wants to be treated now.”

 

Sep
8
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Apex: Kegel Exercises for Women Just Got Easier
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How do you know you’re performing Kegel exercises for women the right way? What if you’re doing more harm to your muscles than good? How can you be sure? The Apex device takes a lot of those questions out of the Kegel equation, and for the first time it’s available without a doctor’s prescription.

The Apex Device

The FDA has cleared the Apex Device to be sold over-the-counter. Studies have shown that the device doesn’t just improve stress incontinence in women — it cures it. The same muscles that control the bladder also surround the vagina. If the Apex Device can cure stress incontinence and help women establish better bladder control, just think about what it can do for your vaginal muscles.

One in three women were cured of stress incontinence by the Apex Device. That means no more leaking, and shows that their muscle strength improved. The device is made to stimulate and strengthen the pelvic floor. In other words, Apex actually does Kegels for you.

Kegel Exercises for Women

Dr. Arnold Kegel invented the exercise that targets those all-important vaginal muscles, after noticing the severe problems that women were struggling with as they moved into menopause. Loss of muscle tone in the vagina is extremely common at this time. Women who have given birth vaginally are at an even greater risk for muscle weakness, but this problem occurs commonly among menopausal women of all types.

Kegel exercises for women are made to be simple. You squeeze the pelvic floor muscles for a few seconds, release and repeat. Doctors recommend doing several sets of Kegels per day. Every woman knows about Kegels. They’re often talked about in women’s shows, and may even appear in comedies as a joke. What many women don’t know is how to perform them correctly, or if they are.

The truth is, performing Kegel exercises for women improperly can cause you even greater problems. Incorrect Kegels may distort the muscles and make your problem more noticeable. Incontinence isn’t the only issue that haunts menopausal women. When the pelvic floor weakens, sex can become painful. This is a problem known medically as dyspareunia. Thinning vaginal walls and female dryness turn sex into a painful act. This can make you avoid sex, and that will only allow muscles to become weaker. It’s also incredibly unhealthy for your body and for your relationships to refrain from sex.

Kegels can re-strengthen those muscles, but only if you perform them the right way. That’s where Apex comes in. This device, and others like it, make it much easier to perform Kegel exercises for women. It uses a resistance balloon that tightens and releases your pelvic floor muscles for you. This prevents vaginal atrophy and prolapse that caused sex to become incredibly painful as menopause progresses.

Even if you don’t try the over-the-counter Apex Device, do something to perform those Kegel exercises for women. There are many devices out there to assist you, not to mention tons of smartphone apps to help guide you through the process.

Sep
8
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Apex: Kegel exercises for women just got easier
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Too tired to do your Kegels? Apex, a new product from Pour Moi, can help you achieve better sexual health with practically no effort at all. It’s the world’s first automatic Kegel exerciser.

Performing Kegel exercises

For women, the importance of Kegels can’t be overestimated. These exercises strengthen the pelvic floor, which sounds like something frightening but is actually a specific muscle group. The pelvic floor surrounds the vagina and supports the bladder, so it needs to stay healthy. When these muscles become weak, you may experience a less satisfying sex life. You may even experience incontinence, particularly stress leaking that occurs when you laugh or otherwise exert yourself.

Kegels were developed in the 1940s to specifically target these muscles and keep them healthy. There are any number of tools and devices that will help you do your exercises, and Apex is the latest way to exercise your pelvic floor.

Automatic exercise

It is very common to perform Kegel exercises for women incorrectly. You have to know exactly which muscles to engage and how to engage them in order to do Kegels. Perform them incorrectly, and you may actually do more damage to your muscles. Since women usually perform these exercises alone and since there are no real physical signs that accompany this type of toning, it’s very easy to do them the wrong way.

The Apex device was created to help with that. It’s made to stimulate your muscles to work the pelvic floor. A small resistance balloon expands and contracts in order to engage the right muscles. Despite the French name, Pour Moi is based in Wisconsin and uses locally sourced material for all of their products.

Through electrical stimulation, the Apex engages those pelvic floor muscles – literally performing Kegel exercises for women for you. Insert Apex into your vagina, engage the device and start doing your Kegels – without doing anything more.

Pelvic floor strength

A strong pelvic floor allows you to maintain more control over your bladder and enjoy a healthier, perhaps even more enjoyable, sex life. Strong muscles keep the bladder in place to prevent the slipping and weakness that’s so common among women. A weakened pelvic floor is a common problem, and it’s not your fault. Muscles naturally become weakened over time, more so if you have given birth vaginally.

Kegel exercises for women aren’t restricted to age. Any woman of any age can benefit from getting in the habit of performing Kegels, no matter how they’re performing them. A strong pelvic floor keeps the vaginal muscles healthy. This prevents atrophy and, for some women, increases pleasure during sexual activity.

Have you tried the Apex or another Kegel exercise device? What works best for you?

Jan
8
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How’s Your Posture When You Do Kegel Exercises for Women?
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Unless you’re a member of an actual royal family, you probably don’t think about your posture enough — certainly not when you’re doing Kegel exercises for women. But the truth is, position matters.

What About Your Tailbone?

Where is your tailbone while you’re doing Kegel exercises for women? It seems like a strange question, but if you don’t know you may already have a problem. It’s very common for women to sit with their tailbones tucked in, but that’s not how you want to perform your Kegel exercises for women. Your tailbone needs to be straight so that you can engage the right muscles the right way.

When you’re performing Kegels, you’ve got to think about your positioning and posture a lot. There are two positions that put your muscles in an optimal place for performing Kegels. Lie on your back, supine, with your legs stretched out away from you. You can be on your bed, the couch or the floor, depending on what feels best to you.

There is one other ideal option for performing Kegels. Lie on your side with your legs bent and stacked. Make sure you feel comfortable. Use a pillow to support your neck from either position.

More Than Positioning

While you’re doing Kegels, you may target other muscles that ought to be left alone. Lots of women find themselves holding their breath during Kegel exercises for women. You may also squeeze your glute muscles or inner thighs. Doing this puts more pressure on abdominals, and it doesn’t target the right muscles.

But even if you do perform them correctly, doing Kegels alone may not give you the results that you want.

Many argue that you don’t want your pelvic floor muscles to be tight. You want them to be flexible. So instead of committing yourself exclusively to Kegel exercises for women, try other exercises that will strength the pelvic floor. Squats target the pelvic floor, and it’s much easier to know if you’re in the right position while you’re performing them.

A strong, flexible pelvic floor keeps you sexually healthy. It keeps vaginal walls strong, helps to fight against female dryness and makes sex feel pleasurable instead of painful. The best way to keep those muscles healthy is through a varied exercise routine where every motion is performed correctly. Kegels for women are just like any other exercise. It’s not about how fast you ca do them, it’s about doing them the right way.

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How to Perform Perfect Kegel Exercises for Women
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Developed by a doctor specifically to strengthen the female anatomy, Kegel exercises for women help you maintain and even improve your sex life. But if you do them the wrong way, you do yourself damage. There are many different aids and devices that will help you perform Kegels perfectly every single time.

How to Do a Perfect Kegel

Kegel exercises for women are deceptively simple. To perform a full repetition of the exercise, you need only to tighten and then release the vaginal muscles. But you need to target a specific set of muscles, you need to squeeze and hold, and you need to keep track of how many repetitions you’re doing and how often you’re performing them. That’s a lot to do, and that’s why there are so many cool devices that make it much easier.

Mui-Mui Balls are small, vibrating balls. All you have t do is insert them right in the vagina. These are sexually stimulating, which is a fun bonus. The balls vibrate on their own, but here is a remote control option as well.

The Elvie is a wearable, wireless device that you simply strap on. If you’re familiar with bullet vibrator use, you’ll be comfortable with the Elvie. This small bullet-like device goes right inside the vagina. It connects wirelessly to a smartphone app hat will guide you through your exercise routine.

KegelSmart is like a combination of the Elvie and the Mui-Mui Balls. It’s a small, bullet-like device that releases small vibrations to guide you through your Kegel exercises for women. If doesn’t have to connect to anything and you don’t have to get anything extra; you just follow the vibrations.

The Lelo Luna Smart Bead is meant to be a personal trainer, of sorts, that specializes only in Kegel exercises for women. It offers 5-minute workouts that actually progress with you as you build up your muscle strength.

The Skea is both an aid for Kegel exercises for women and a video game. This device features Alice In Continent, a heroine that you guide. You control the game with your pelvic floor muscles. It’s an unusual interactive device, to say the least.

Performing Kegel Exercises for Women

Whether you use apps and aids or just your own strength, you should be performing Kegel exercises for women. These exercises don’t just improve sexual health. They can increase natural moisture to prevent female dryness. They strengthen the muscles that support the bladder to prevent incontinence. They keep your vagina healthy and help you maintain muscle tone, which becomes more important as you go through menopause and beyond. They do a lot for your body, so do a lot of them to keep yourself healthy.

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Dr. Anna Garrett
Gotta Go, Gotta Go, Gotta Go RIGHT NOW!
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If you’re a woman experiencing the changes that go with menopause, you may be noticing that trips to the bathroom are becoming more frequent and less in your control. This can be annoying and embarrassing, especially if you don’t make it quite in time!

What’s the connection between menopause and that “gotta go right now” feeling?

During perimenopause and menopause, the level of estrogen, which helps to keep the tissues of your bladder and urethra healthy, begins to drop significantly. If you’ve begun to notice dryness and sensitivity during sex, this may be a clue that you’re at risk for bladder problems as well. Just as the tissues of the vaginal wall begin to thin and dry out, so does the tissue that lines the bladder. When that happens, your bladder becomes more sensitive to irritants (like caffeine and spicy foods) and more susceptible to “hair-trigger” releases.

Lack of estrogen can also cause the pelvic muscles, which are responsible for maintaining bladder control, to weaken, eventually resulting in incontinence. Women who have had hysterectomies may experience these issues to an even greater extent because the surgery itself affects pelvic floor muscles.

What kinds of bladder control problems can happen with menopause?

Overactive bladder problems take several forms:

  • Urgency: When you have to go, you have to go now.
  • Frequency: You have to go all the time, defined as a problem if you need to go more than eight times in a 24-hour period. This is especially problematic if you have issues pre-existing issues with insomnia!
  • Stress incontinence: that good hard laugh or unexpected sneeze can result in an unwelcomed wetness just when you least expect it.

The good news is that there are ways to lessen the impact of roller-coaster hormones. You might think that hormone replacement therapy would help here, but the data actually suggests it may worsen the situation. Dietary changes (avoiding spicy foods, caffeine and other bladder irritants) and pelvic floor exercises may be helpful.

Unfortunately, this one of those topics rarely comes up in casual conversation. No one likes to discuss it…even with their doctors! So many women suffer in silence and end up feeling isolated and alone. There are several medications that can help with bladder control, so if you have problems that are beyond annoying and infrequent, it’s time to speak up. You have LOTS of company!

Having issues with menopausal symptoms? Schedule a complimentary 30-minute Let’s Talk call with me here.

Oct
20
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Advanced Kegel Exercises for Women
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If you think you’ve gone about as far as you can go with standard Kegel exercises for women, take your routine up to the advanced level. There are additional exercises that target the same muscles as Kegels, and there are different ways to practice Kegels that will give your muscles a strong workout.

Advanced Kegels

Kegel exercises for women are pretty straightforward. It’s  a simple tightening and releasing of muscles. There are all sorts of apps and exercise aids you can use to help you perform your Kegels correctly, but at some point those muscles will feel strong and capable. At that point, you may be ready to move on to more advanced Kegels.

  • Ball squeeze: Use an exercise ball to increase your focus on your pelvic floor muscles, the muscle group that’s targeted by Kegels. Hold the ball between your inner thighs with your feet hip distance apart in a standing position. While squeezing the ball, do your Kegels. Release from the Kegel, and release your hold on the ball. Repeat.
  • Bridge: Place the exercise ball between your knees and lie on your back with knees bent and feet flat on the floor. Lift your hips up while squeezing the ball, squeezing your thighs and your glute muscles. Engage your pelvic floor muscles before you release back down. Keep your shoulders pressed to the floor while you lift up.
  • Ball squats: Stand in front of a chair with feet about hip-width apart. Place the ball between your knees and gently squeeze it as you squat down to sit on the edge of the chair. Stand slowly and repeat.
  • Clam: Lie on your side with knees bent and your head resting in your hand on your bent arm. Your hips and legs should be stacked on top of each other. Keep your heels together and separate your knees. Bring them together again, and repeat.

Kegels During Sex

Engage your pelvic floor during sex to give yourself a good workout with your Kegel exercises for women. While having sex or using a vibrator, push the pelvic floor muscles down to lower your vaginal walls. Not only does this engage your muscles, it also makes your G-spot more accessible. Practice performing Kegels during sex, and you’ll find that it can increase your sexual enjoyment.

Whether you’re ready for advanced Kegels or you’re just starting out, use these exercises. They’re designed to strengthen your vaginal walls. The pelvic floor muscles will even help you maintain bladder control and can increase your natural vaginal lubrication. Kegels can help you enjoy sex more, and they’ll keep your vagina healthy as you go into menopause and beyond.

Sep
29
Ellen Dolgen
Love Hurts. How to Cope with Painful Sex During Menopause
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http://www.shmirshky.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/Ellen_Dolgen_Menopause_Monday.jpg“Not tonight dear. I have a painful vagina.” Say what? If you’re making excuses to avoid sexual intimacy with your partner due to vaginal pain, you owe it to yourself (and your partner) to treat it.

“The big O” does not mean “the big Ouch.” Recapture the rapture in bed.

Pain during intercourse is called dyspareunia (Say what?). If you’re experiencing pain during sex, you could be suffering from vaginal atrophy (VA). Vaginal atrophy is a thinning and inflammation of the vaginal wall. VA occurs when estrogen levels drop. Estrogens, produced by the ovaries, maintain the structure and function of the vaginal wall, elasticity of the tissues around the vagina, and production of vaginal fluid.

Unfortunately, like the rest of your menopausal body, your vagina is aging too.

Hot flashes, sleeplessness, memory loss and weight gain get top billing when it comes to menopausal symptoms. But vaginal discomfort is every bit as difficult and critical to deal with as those symptoms. Vaginal symptoms can negatively impact not only on your relationships and sexuality, but can affect your quality of life and self-image.

If you’re experiencing these symptoms, you could have VA:

  • vaginal dryness
  • sex-induced pain or bleeding
  • itching
  • soreness or irritation
  • painful or burning urination
  • incontinence (involuntary urination)
  • pain when touching the vagina

You’re not alone. Vaginal dryness affects as many as 75 percent of postmenopausal women. Between 17 and 45 percent of postmenopausal women say they find sex painful, according to The North American Menopause Society (NAMS).

According to the Women’s Health Concern, only 25 percent of these women seek treatment. What’s more, according to the International Menopause Society, 70 percent of women say their healthcare providers rarely or never raise the subject with them.

The Closer survey revealed that vaginal discomfort caused 58 percent of the North American women who were surveyed to avoid intimacy and 64 percent to experience a loss of libido.

Pain during sex (or simply the fear of pain during sex) can trigger performance anxiety or arousal problems in some women, according to the NAMS. This also can cause dryness or involuntary — and painful — tightening of the vaginal muscles, called vaginismus. It’s a Catch-22.

What’s are your options?

  • Pelvic floor therapy. According to Harvard Medical School, this is a relatively new — yet safe and effective — technique. A physical therapist uses massage and gentle pressure to relax and stretch tightened tissues in the pelvic area. You also learn exercises to help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which may have been weakened by aging, childbirth or hormonal changes.
  • Personal lubricant or moisturizer. However, your vagina may need more than a lube job. Non-hormonal vaginal lubricantscan help decrease friction and discomfort during intercourse. Be sure that they are water-based and designed for vaginal use. Petroleum-based lubricants can harbor bacteria in the vagina and lead to infection, as well damage latex condoms.
    Vaginal moisturizers (similar to moisturizing your face (most women find these helpful to use every day) can help relieve dryness and rebalance the acidity of the vagina. Both lubricants and moisturizers provide temporary relief of symptoms but do not treat the underlying condition of vaginal atrophy.
  • A menopause specialist. If you’re lubed to the max and still have no relief, seek help. If you don’t have a menopause specialist, check out my Menopause Doctor Directory.
  • Pelvic examand Pap test. Also have your vaginal secretions and the acid level in your vagina checked. You may need to provide a urine sample if you’re experiencing unusual urgency or a leaky bladder.
  • Hormone treatment. Options include local estrogen therapy (LET) and systemic estrogen therapy. LET is estrogen applied directly to vaginal tissues, so it goes directly to the affected area, with minimal absorption of estrogen into the bloodstream. LET is available in creams, a ring and a tablet. Systemic hormone therapy (HT) allows estrogen to circulate throughout the bloodstream to all parts of the body. It’s available in many forms: a pill, injection, patch, gel and spray. Systemic HT is most often prescribed for multiple whole-body symptoms of menopause, including night sweats, hot flashes, and others. Some women need a combination of treatments.
  • Talk with your partner. Honesty is definitely the best policy. If you’re avoiding sex due to pain, your partner could misinterpret it as your dissatisfaction with the relationship (or the sex).

I can’t believe it’s been about a decade since my vagina first committed mutiny and my libido went AWOL. I’ve since vanquished my vagina problems and located my libido. You can, too. Get your symptoms treated, and you can put the va-va-voom back in your vagina.

Suffering in silence is OUT! Reaching out is IN!

 

Sep
21
VN Editors
What Not to Expect from Kegel Exercises for Women
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Developed by a physician, Kegel exercises for women do have a positive effect on your body. But before you start doing them regularly, you should know what not to expect from your Kegels.

The Reality of Kegel Exercises for Women

Kegel exercises for women were designed by a physician in order to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. This important muscle group supports the bladder and surrounds the vagina. The way these muscles function greatly impacts your sexual health. The pelvic floor commonly becomes weak in women over time. Loss of estrogen creates loss of muscle tone in this area. Many women who have given birth find they suffer from greatly weakened muscles.

Regular Kegels strengthen these muscles again. When performed properly, Kegel exercises for women can give you better bladder control and better sexual health. But some women expect too much from their Kegels. What won’t these exercises do for your body?

     

  • Vaginal tightening: Kegel exercises for women are highly-touted by some because they help to tighten the vagina. Some women say this leads to more powerful orgasms and much better sex. However, do not expect Kegels to restore your vagina to a teenager-like state. All the exercises in the world may not tighten your vagina as much as you would like, particularly if you’ve given birth vaginally, though regular Kegels will have some effect. If you find that your vagina just isn’t getting tight enough, there are other options. You may wish to pursue vaginal restorative surgery.
  • Organ prolapse: Weakened muscles and vaginal trauma (such as giving birth) can cause organ prolapse. This means the muscle are not well-supported, and they may begin to sag. This can lead to incontinence and discomfort. Kegel exercises for women can help tighten those muscles that support the bladder and prevent leakage, but if muscle damage is significant surgery may be required to fully repair all the damage. Consult with your physician if you continue having problems even after regular Kegels.
  • Weight loss: They’re called Kegel exercises, but you’re not going to notice any visible changes or weight loss no matter how often you perform them. You will feel the difference inside your body, but you won’t be able to see any visible differences from doing your Kegels.

Doing Your Kegels

There are some things Kegel exercises for women can’t do, but there’s a lot that they will do for your body. Regular Kegel exercises help strengthen and thicken vaginal walls to naturally increase moisture, preventing female dryness and dyspareunia (painful sex). They’ll give you better control over bodily functions and, in some cases, more intense orgasms. Know what to reasonably expect from Kegels, do them regularly, and you will see the results.

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Will Pilates Work As Well As Kegel Exercises for Women?
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According to some fitness gurus, Pilates can be as effective at strengthening the pelvic floor as Kegel exercises for women. Find out what you might be missing by not using your own Pilates program.

The Pelvic Floor

It sounds a bit like a Pilates move itself, but the pelvic floor is actually the group of muscles the supports the bladder and surrounds the vagina. Have you ever interrupted the flow of your urine mid-stream? You were using your pelvic floor to do that.

Among many women, pelvic floor muscles become weak over time. It’s very common to lose muscle tone in this area, but it creates all sorts of nasty problems. Weak pelvic floor muscles make it harder to control the bladder, which can lead to leakage. The weak muscles can also cause the vaginal walls to become thinner. This makes sex painful, a problem medically known as dyspareunia.

Kegel Exercises for Women

Kegel exercises for women were specifically created to target and strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. This makes vaginal walls stronger and keeps the entire region healthier. But Kegels aren’t always easy to do correctly. That’s why there are so many different implements, tutorials and smartphone apps out there. Many women perform Kegels the wrong way, and this can actually make problems worse.

Maybe you should try Pilates instead?

Pilates and the Pelvic Floor

Like Kegel exercises for women, Pilates can strengthen your pelvic floor. Pilates is an exercise program that is designed to improve strength and flexibility all over the body, but some of the maneuvers make it easier for you to access and work out your pelvic floor muscles. Pilates targets the entire body, and that means the pelvic floor, too.

Unlike Kegels, Pilates help you strengthen and tone your entire body. Where Kegels have no physical effect on the rest of your body, Pilates can if you practice routines regularly.

Some women say that certain yoga positions target the pelvic floor muscles as well. Anything that targets and strengthens your pelvic floor muscles can make sex more enjoyable and less painful. Having a healthier, stronger vagina can even prevent problems with female dryness.

Pilates and yoga classes are often available as local workout classes. Look for classes at community centers, YMCAs and churches. If you don’t find any local classes that appeal to you, or you’d rather work out alone, look online. The Internet is filled instructional exercise videos that can help you master Pilates, yoga and many other workout doctrines.

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Turn Kegel Exercises for Women into a Video Game
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Isn’t it time you started having fun with Kegel exercises for women? With the Skea, it’s possible. This device uses video gaming to make your pelvic floor tightening routine a lot more enjoyable.

Gaming for Better Vaginal Health

Skea actually stands or Smart Kegel Exercise Aid. It’s a video game controller, and you use your pelvic floor muscles to play. The Skea uses Bluetooth to function. All you have to do is insert it into your vagina and squeeze your way to a perfect score.

The Skea controls the game Alice in Continent (note the pun). Alice has to chase rabbits, jump around a lot, avoid the lava and collect collagen elixirs. You control where Alice jumps with the squeezing of your pelvic floor muscles. And in this fashion, you perform Kegel exercises for women. When you perform the movement correctly, the device gives you a tickling sensation to know you’re doing well.

Do Your Kegels

A Kegel-based video game sounds a bit silly, yes, but also incredibly intriguing. The Skea gives you an objective, a goal to meet, and that makes it much easier to concentrate on doing proper Kegels. Exercises for women generally aren’t entertaining, but devices like this make everything different. The tickling sensation is especially important. You’ll know exactly when you’re performing your Kegels the correct way, which is incredibly beneficial. Doing these exercises improperly can actually worsen the problems that Kegel exercises for women are meant to correct.

Kegels specifically target the pelvic floor muscles, a muscle group that supports the bladder and the vagina. Through time and menopause, these muscles tend to become weaker. Women who have given birth are especially susceptible to this type of muscle weakness. Kegels target the muscles that are weak. This will give you better control over your bladder, particularly if you suffer from stress incontinence (light leakage during moments of muscle strain).

Kegel exercises for women, when performed the right way, will also strengthen the vaginal walls. This can prevent vaginal atrophy and dyspareunia that results from thinning, weakening vaginal walls. Kegels can even help prevent female dryness.

Some women say that strong vaginal muscles lead to better sex with more intense orgasms. That alone makes these exercises worth a try.

Fun with Kegels

Even if the idea of a Kegel-based video game isn’t appealing to you, there are ways to have fun with these exercises. Many different apps and Kegel aids are available to help you perform the exercises correctly, and some of them include special features in order to make the routine a little bit more entertaining. Try them for yourself, and work on that Kegel workout.