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Stephen Reily - VN Founder
CES Does Market To Boomers – It Just Didn’t Know It
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Maybe that is too much to expect of an industry that has spent the last 15 years filling just about every house and car in America with smartphones, flat-screen TVs, video game consoles, satellite radios, laptops, tablets and high-tech headphones.

If CES didn’t offer breakthrough technology, it did offer some innovative products for consumers who aren’t usually identified as the important electronics customer they represent: yes, Boomers, and every other person over 45 who may be the secret to the growth of CES and the industry it represents.

Some examples:

Samsung Home Appliances

On one side of Samsung’s giant booth displaying “bendable” television screens (a sign that TVs may have innovated beyond consumer interest) were home appliances illustrating a creative sensitivity to the needs of aging consumers, whether Samsung knows it or not.

Samsung’s four-door refrigerator is customizable by section, allowing homeowners to change the way its space is used – something of special value for Boomers whose nest is sometimes empty, but sometimes full of adult children, grandchildren and aging parents. Moving away from one product designed for one customer (the growing family at home) suggests that Samsung is paying attention to the aging population and the alternate ways that homes and families operate today. Samsung’s washing machine also features a drum that is wider but also shallower, making it easier to access and lift heavy clothes out of. And Samsung’s lower freezers also feature an easy-open door handle, which doesn’t require a back-wrenching yank to get at your ice cream for dessert.

Soundcast Speakers

Boomers also represent the biggest market in second homes and home renovations, and a number of home entertainment products are making it easier to enjoy these homes without unnecessary hassles. One of them came from Soundcast Speakers, a company whose high-quality portable speakers connect by wifi or Bluetooth to your source of music, whatever it may be. A home-renovator can now spare herself the investment in a high-maintenance, hard-wired sound system by connecting her iPhone with one of Soundcast’s lightweight “Melody” speakers, which can be used indoors or outdoors. Soundcast’s CEO Mike Weaver understands that loudspeakers play a role for many consumers who aren’t gear-heads but still want to enjoy music, and share it with their friends.

Siemens: Hearing aids and “gateway” appliances

I saw unexpected innovations even in a quintessential Boomer-oriented category like hearing aids.

Eric Branda, an audiologist at Siemens, the leading brand and researcher in this space, showed me a new interfacing device that Siemens calls the miniTek.

A smaller-than-smartphone device that allows its user to control the sound that comes from other devices, the miniTek even has a microphone that you can talk into. And you can control it through an app. If you separate it from the hearing aid itself, I could see the miniTek serving as a “gateway” device to hearing aids for Boomers, who often wait a decade before buying the hearings aids they need.

Trax GPS Trackers for Pets

While a number of companies featured GPS trackers for children, not many are connecting them to a fast-growing market in which Boomers play a big role: pets. But Swedish company Trax is promoting its small, real-time GPS tracker for pets as well as children. Trax was the first GPS product to raise money on Kickstart, and I predict that its marketing insights will capture interest from Boomers, who spend more money than anyone to achieve the pet owner’s peace-of-mind.

Boomers: The unintended consequences of innovation?

Most consumer electronics still say that they are chasing the elusive Millennials, whose lives are now chock-full of the consumer electronics their Boomer parents have purchased for them. But when you look at the actual work and new products those same companies are offering, they seem to be recognizing the genuine needs of aging consumers, who may hold the key to their industry’s future.

[This post was originally published on MediaPost. ~ Eds.]

Stephen Reily - VN Founder
How Will Boomers Buy Hearing Aids?
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For the last year or so, my interest in the Boomer marketplace and new products has gotten me thinking about the hearing aid market.

For decades, the hearing aid industry developed products with the idea that no one would buy a hearing aid if it were visible. And, in spite of many billions of dollars at stake, they never succeeded. Meanwhile, consumers have completely changed the way they think about listening devices hanging from their ears.

It is hard to find a major consumer product category more in need of disruptive innovation. How can the hearing aid industry disrupt itself to meet the needs of the biggest growth trend it has ever seen: Boomers?

Read my complete post on MediaPost.

Esmée St James - Hotwire Your Life™
Pump Up The Volume – When Aging Parents Need Hearing Aids
Family & Relationships
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‘I GUESS YOUR GRANDMOTHER was right, Pussycat’, my mother ruefully admits in the car on the way to get fitted for a hearing aid. “That certain something that annoys you about another person is exactly what will afflict you.”

After years of kvetching about having to constantly repeat herself to my father, my mother’s ear infection has left her practically deaf in one ear and the other one is not open for discussion.

In defense of my father, he did get a hearing aid at the time and even wore it for about five minutes. When I asked “Dad, are you wearing your ear thingy.. because you don’t seem to be hearing a word I’ve said”, I’d always get a cryptic, “Oh, it doesn’t fit right, keeps falling out” from him and the conversation would be adeptly nudged in a new direction.

Over time I’ve concluded that after a fifty plus year stretch of being married and now minus an office job to escape to, letting that hearing aid collect dust in some forgotten drawer is my father’s way of just tuning into some private time.

This is all just peachy as far as my mother’s concerned, she also likes her privacy. So much that the mere mention of a hearing aid has her cursing and spitting tacks in all directions. Fine. Not touching that one with an eleven foot pole.

Fast forward to a fabulous family wedding in Florida’s summer heat, my mother and I are sitting together on the hired bus headed from the post-wedding sunset sail to the   reception. Where more delicious tropical drinks beckon us.

Everything is just honky-dory and I have gotten quite used to SPEAKING VERY LOUDLY around my mother to avoid repeating myself more than thrice. I always know she’s faking it when she just nods and smiles at my musings regardless of the subject matter. “Your hair is on fire”, I test with a smile. “Oh, ha-ha… yes, yes… mm-hmm” my mother nods, her eyes betraying the fact that she hasn’t got the foggiest what I’ve just said.

As the bus nears the delicious tropical drink destination my mother reveals, in a hushed tone that the entire busload and those in surrounding vehicles can make out, “Did you know that the parents of the bride only paid for one fourth of the wedding!?”

I wince and discreetly turn around to survey the damage, praying the parents of the bride are riding in a completely different vehicle vibrating with the loud boom of heavy metal. The blood drains from my body as I spot them, sitting there right behind us… not moving a muscle.

There is not enough room under the bus seat for me to completely crawl underneath and wallow in my pool of drained blood. Instead I give my mother the elbow, hard and hiss “They’re right behind us ma!”. Huh, what-what, what!! What’s right behind us!?” she queries shrilly at the top of her lungs, concerned she may have missed something juicy.

She finally comprendes when I slowly draw my finger across my throat and bug my eyeballs practically out of their sockets. “Oh” is all that squeaks out from twixt her lips.

I can laugh about this now that both my parents sport spanky new hearing aids and yes, they are turned on.

After swimming through oceans of sinking sand to convince them that being able to hear is a good thing they now appreciate that if you want quiet, that should be a choice.

Okay, I laughed about it then too.

Choosing to shut out one’s mate now and then for some privacy is one thing, but shutting out the whole world is another matter.

Lately I imagine my folks snickering as they turn off their hearing aids the moment they hear my car pull out.

Grandma, does this give me good karma?

Esmée SJ



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Choosing your first vibrator: Reviews and 8 tips from 4 sexperts
Love & Sex
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The greatest strength of the Vibrant Nation community is the collective wisdom of women in the richest time of life, pooling expertise and experience on every conceivable subject. Vibrant Nation members can ask sensitive questions that are sometimes difficult to ask anywhere else, and know that they’ll get smart answers from women who understand.

For example, when 65-year old Erica recently asked for advice on choosing her first sex toy, she received plenty of knowledgeable advice and encouragement from not one, but four Vibrant Nation members – each one a recognized expert in women’s sexual health and sexuality after 50.

Here’s what Erica said:

“A couple of days ago, I went into an adult sex shop for the first time and I was so confused that all I could do was make a quick lap around the store and get out of there as fast as I could. How in the world do I know what I want?”

Read on for the eight tips Erica received from Vibrant Nation’s sexual health and sexuality experts Dr. Dorree Lynn, Joan Price, Dr. Barb DePree, and Patty Brisben.

Choosing your first sex toy: 8 tips from 4 Vibrant Nation “Sexperts”

  1. This is one topic on which Internet research may not be the best way to start.
    According to Dr. Dorree Lynn, author of Sex for Grownups,
    first forays into adult sex stores can be embarrassing and even intimidating, but “Going online and shifting through the gazillions of mostly useless and often expensive sex products can be pretty overwhelming too.” Besides, shopping online may feel more private than shopping in a brick and mortar store. but remember: when you shop online, you’re usually paying by credit card anyway. Says Dr. Doree Lynn, “You’re better off seeking the advice of a trusted friend or a knowledgeable sex educator.”

  3. Get a broad overview.
    Joan Price, sex blogger and author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty, says, “With so many types, sizes, shapes, and functions of sex toys these days, it’s understandable that a first time shopper would be intimidated. Once you get to know what you like, you’ll appreciate the variety of sex toys available. Until then, though, educate yourself first be reading ‘first timer’ articles such as ‘Why to use and how to choose vibrators’ from A Woman’s Touch.”

  5. Zero in on the features that most appeal to you.
    Once you have a better sense of what’s available out there, Joan Price says, you’re in a better position to decide which features are a priority for you. “If you’re looking for a vibrator, for example, ask yourself what kind of vibrator you want. Clitoral? Vaginal? Both? Strong or mild? Does noise matter? Do you want waterproof?” This will allow you to focus your search on just the toys that fits your needs and preferences.” 

    VN blogger Dr. Barb DePree, a gynecologist who specializes in midlife women’s health, writes extensively on women’s sexuality and shared a list of features to be aware of when narrowing your choices in vibrators:

    Size and shape

    • Vibrators come in sizes and shapes destined for specific as well as general use. You will find mini vibrators great for clitoral and prostate stimulation. These small devices may fit in the palm of your hand or strap to a finger (especially good for making love in the dark).
    • There are larger clitoral vibrators shaped to cup the clitoris and labia. These can be combined with a dilator or dildo, used during intercourse, or used on their own to help stimulate vulvo-vaginal tissues.
    • Midsized vibrators are often wand-shaped for vaginal and G-spot stimulation. Large women find these useful for the reach they provide, and they can also provide leverage for women who have difficulty with hand strength.
    • Massagers are dual use devices, used for vulvar stimulation as well as massaging muscles anywhere in the body. Attachments for these devices can transform them into vaginal and G-spot stimulating wonders.



    • Older women generally need more power, both a stronger vibration and a longer session time. For that reason, rechargable batteries or plug-in devices are usually a better bet than disposable battery-operated devices.


    • Hard plastics and stainless steel are easy to clean. Look for materials that are guaranteed to be phalate-free.
    • Silicone surfaces are wonderfully warm to the touch, with a skin-like feel. They clean up with soap and water or with cleaners made especially for sex aids, but owners need to be careful not to use them with silicone-based lubricants.
    • Some manufacturers now use anti-microbial plastics, medical-grade materials formulated to discourage bacterial growth.


    Heat feature

    • Vibrators that warm up before and during use are great for those of us who flinch from the cold.


    If the above list feels like too many variables to maneuver in one shopping experience, Dr. Barb DePree offers a recommendation: “For your first vibrator ever, why not start with one designed specifically for clitoral and labial stimulation? That way you’re sure to have a device that will help you improve circulation, keeping your vulvar tissues responsive and ready for sex when you are.”


  7. Read reviews of the sex toys that fit your specifications.
    Once you’ve identified the features you’re looking for, Joan Price says, you’re ready to read product reviews of various toys that fit your specifications. “Find a just a few toys that entice you, then read more reviews by Googling the name of the toy + ‘reviews.’ When deciding which reviewer recommendations to trust, remember that different reviewers have different likes and dislikes. Find a reviewer whose choices (and reasons for choices) make sense to you, then keep following that reviewer.” 

    Some Vibrant Nation members, such as sex blogger Joan Price herself, have shared numerous sex toy reviews on Vibrant Nation. Joan Price’s reviews are particularly helpful to members of Vibrant Nation because they are written from a mature woman’s perspective, with a consciousness of the unique needs of our changing bodies.


  9. Knowledgeable sales staff are a great resource.
    Gadgets are fun and can enhance your love life, solo or together, but as with all products, selecting what best suits your needs often takes some sage advice. Dr. Doree Lynn says, “If you can screw up your courage to ask for help, salespeople in adult sex stores are like good salespeople in all stores. They usually know their products and enjoy their work.”

    Sex blogger Joan Price agrees:”A good, woman-friendly sex shop has staff ready to assist, so try to get past your shyness and ask questions. Believe me, you’ll never come up with a question they haven’t heard many times before!”


  11. Consider attending a sex toy party.
    Sexuality expert Patty Brisben offers an alternative viewpoint about traditional sex shops. Says Patty, “Chances are, the people working behind the counters of those stores don’t know every detail of every product. Take for example shopping at a high-end department store. Each department, whether it shoes or handbags or clothing, has its own specialist, trained in their industry and appropriate sales techniques. Now compare that to the experience you would receive at your local megamart. You can almost guarantee that any employee you encounter won’t know much about any single product beyond what aisle it’s located in.” 

    Patty Brisben stresses the importance of a woman’s first sex toy shopping encounter be in a comfortable, educational environment, and points out that certain companies (such as Patty’s own company, Pure Romance) facilitate sex toy parties. These parties are a somewhat daring, but potentially more informative and personal alternative to shopping at a brick and mortar store or online. At a sex toy party, a trained consultant who knows the product line answers customers discreetly, permits customers to view and touch products out the box, in the comfort of your own home.


  13. When selecting a sex toy, focus on function, not flashy appearance or gimmicks.
    Fortunately, women over 50 are much less likely to make the mistake a younger person might of choosing a sex toy based on how snazzy it looks. A sex toy is for your pleasure, not a fashion accessory, so as Dr. Dorree Lynn says, “It makes sense to get items that will easy to use, feel great, and get the job done. Mature women like to feel good about using it and want to get the most benefit from it – like the ability to be aroused quickly and easily so we can enjoy our partners and still have time for a good night’s sleep!”
  14. Once your toy arrives, keep a few tips in mind.
    Dr. Barb DePree shared these tips for the new sex toy user.

    • When you have your new device in hand, be sure to charge it fully before you use it.
    • Start slowly and gently, using plenty of lubricant with the device, learning what your device will do and how your body likes it.
    • If it’s been awhile since you have had any sexual stimulation at all, be patient. Give your body time and a number of sessions to awake to this new sensation.
    • And if you’re bringing this new toy into an old relationship, talk through it, explore this device together. The more communication, the better.

  16. Have fun!
    “A sex toy isn’t dirty or shameful; it’s stimulating, fun, and makes sex less physically demanding,” says Dr. Dorree Lynn. “If we can use eyeglasses, hearing aids, canes, dentures, large-size type, wheelchairs, support stockings, knee braces, orthopedic shoes, wigs, push-up bras, vitamins, sun block, Botox, glue-on fingernails, false eyelashes, back supports, and all manner of other technologies to make our lives work better, why in the world can’t we use sex-enhancing technologies in bed? For adults from 50 to 100, sex toys make sex a lot easier, and for some, even possible.”

    Discover more tips and advice by downloading our free report, Toys for Grown Women: Vibrator reviews, sexual health benefits, tips for new users, where to shop, and how to choose the best sex toys after 50.

Dr. Dorree Lynn
Dr. Dorree Lynn Denounces “Sex Drive Magic”
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Dr. Dorree Lynn Denounces Claims Made in Mark Wallace’s book “Sex Drive Magic”


In early September 2011 I received an email from Dr. Patti Britton regarding my name, image, and credibility being used to support and market Mark Wallace’s book “Sex Drive Magic” and associated websites.  Yes, I was interviewed by Mr. Wallace earlier this year but I regret to report that I have been misquoted and misrepresented in his book.

Upon learning of this situation, I requested Mr. Wallace remove me from his websites and from his book immediately.  To my knowledge, so have several, if not all, of the other experts that Mr. Wallace interviewed and included in his book.

While situations like these are sometimes unavoidable, they, like many awkward and unavoidable situations in life, provide us with an opportunity to either learn and/or teach ourselves and others.  Hopefully Mr. Wallace has learned a lesson in referencing direct quotes from other people.  I have learned a lesson on how to handle situations like this, and we’re all about to learn the important things to know about sex toys, factors killing your sex drive, medications to avoid, and libido enhancing foods.

Allow me to set the record straight on these topics that were covered in Mr. Wallace’s book, just in case there’s any confusion.  Text from “Sex Drive Magic” will be identified as SDM and the transcript of my interview with Mr. Wallace will be defined by my initials DL.  I shall mark my responses in italics. NOTE:  The text from the transcript has not been confirmed by my staff, as all we received was the text copy (not the audio).  Punctuation has been added, but nothing else has been changed from the transcript.  That being said, please excuse any poor grammar, as the text is of a conversation, in which I expect my tone and message fluctuated in the way that happens when you’re trying to explain something verbally.


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SDM: Dr. Dorree Lynn is a psychologist, sexologist, life coach and best selling author of three books on sexual health and relationships.  She is a highly sought after speaker and media expert that has been featured in countless magazines such as Men’s Health, Time, News Week, USA Today and many more!

She was thoughtful enough to provide us with her expert insight as to how YOU and anyone else can raise libido and strengthen their relationship all at once using natural, safe methods that have been tested and proven to work.

DL: —

Thank you for the kind introduction, but I never claimed that any method was safe for everyone, nor did I claim that any method had been tested and proven to work.  And I certainly did not claim that ALL of them were safe and tested and proven to work.  Also, my three books are on psychotherapy, caregiving, and sex for grownups.  They are not all about sex and relationships.

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SDM: Important Information on Sex Toys:  As men and women get older, it’s natural that our bodies will begin to give out on us.  Your sex drive is no different from the other functions in your body.  So let’s think about this for a minute.  What happens when an elderly person has lost the ability to walk?

Give up? They get an “Aid” so to speak such as a walker, cane, scooter, or even a wheelchair to help them out correct?  Why not treat your sex drive the exact same way?  I strongly recommend (*in the book, the sentence ended at “recommend”)

DL:  (on talking about how sex doesn’t have to stop when you get older) Sex is your birthright.  And if you pay attention to it, it goes on forever.  And let’s start breaking the myth that it ends with menopause and you need a little blue pill, which doesn’t work half the time anyway.  And I will tell you why.

Sexuality, especially in the US, is just simply hormone driven.  You know, your brains are all in your penis or your vagina and you don’t think about it.

And then of course when you hit 50 or older and people kind of put you out on an ice floe because they think it no longer exists, the truth is that it’s the over-50 population in the US that is becoming, the over-50 is the largest purchasers of products.

We use eyeglasses.  We use hearing aids.  We use walkers.  We get ill.  We use all of these aids.  Why not use sexual aids as well?

In the copy of the e-book that Mr. Wallace sent me, the advice I had given on sexual aids had not been completed, it simply ended at recommend, and was highlighted in red as if to suggest it was never finished and later forgotten about.  I believe my quote from the transcript accurately addresses the issue nicely.

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SDM: 3 Factors that are KILLING your Sex Drive!: Aside from the usual “Stress” that can be killing your sex drive as well as your sex life, there’s also three other main sex drive killers that most people are being negatively effected by daily and don’t even know it.  They are as follows:  not enough exercise, not enough sleep, too much alcohol.

You absolutely need an adequate amount of sleep and exercise daily in order to be healthy overall as well as within your sexual functions.  Contrary to popular belief, alcohol is not the key to having great sex either while you’re under the influence or after.  Alcohol has the ability to weaken your sex drive over time.

DL: The simplest answer with lack of libido/sex drive is when you have no interest.  Period…There is always a reason.  People are not born with a lack of sex drive.  The brain is the biggest sex organ.  So if they’ve had an emotional or psychological trauma or it could be a religious inhibition, they don’t have an obvious sex drive.

And I want to be very careful about what I say here, because people who speak anti-sex, and you and I both know this, are 9 times out of 10 people who are doing something on the side.  And I’m not speaking against religions but that’s what happened with the Catholic Church and celibacy and preachers who speak against sexuality.  And all the rest, they’re living secret lives.

The more out in the open communication is, the quicker your sex drive is going to become available.  There are two reasons for lack of libido or sex drive.

One is physiological and that can be anything from hormone related.  And I’m sure you understand all of that, you know, the mixture between testosterone and estrogen and progesterone for both women and men.

And then, it can be thyroid related.  It can be in the pituitary, thyroid, adrenal system because those are the temperatures of the body.  Or you can have something that is simply misdiagnosed as it’s frequently misdiagnosed.

So you can have a physiological reason but nobody really knows in factly or very few people know in factly when it is physiological and when it is psychological.  And from my point of view, I rarely care how you intersect it first.  But if one doesn’t work, you try the other.

And in my own experience, I’ve had fantastic results as a psychologist and sexologist with increasing people’s libido primarily by getting they to talk about their feelings.

…nobody is going to convince me, except postmenopausally, when you have actual physiological changes or unless you have a testable physiological deficiency, hormone deficiency.  I believe it is more often something emotional and psychological.  People’s equipment works.  If you can masturbate, it means your equipment is working.

…Alcohol, cigarettes, too little sleep, all of that kind of stuff.  Most people live on a plane and pay-later (play now and pay later) principle.  Only pay-later creeps up faster than you think.  So yes, too much alcohol, not enough exercise, not enough sleep all impact desire.

Yes, alcohol, sleep and exercise can all affect (not effect) libido.  But Mr. Wallace made no reference to the bigger issue, the brain.  Because more often than not, it’s actually YOU that is killing your sex drive.

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SDM: Medications to Avoid: Stress is already a serious libido killer and Dr Lynn goes on to explain that it gets even worse after you seek professional help.  What happens is doctors prescribe antidepressant medication to you in hopes of treating your depression and maybe it works and maybe it doesn’t.  But what is for sure is that, all Antidepressants are HUGE libido killers.  They drastically lower your sexual energy and overall sex drive.

Mixing antidepressants with other prescriptions drugs that are being used to successfully treat other ailments will react badly for your sex drive with the antidepressants.  It’s like a two headed sword.

In the end, this actually kills your sex drive in 3 different ways:  the initial stress that leads to depression, the antidepressant drugs that you take, the mixture of antidepressants and with other prescription and OTC drugs.

So in essence she’s saying that you need to avoid antidepressants at all costs and use the stress relieving techniques that you’ll learn in this book.  The natural way is always the best way.

DL:  Stress is a physiological killer.  If it kills the natural production of hormones, you will get basically adrenal fatigue.  And with adrenal fatigue, there’s tremendous market for products that deal with the secondary sexual issues.  With adrenal fatigue you also get emotional fatigue and you get depression and you get lack of desire.  So it’s very hard to differentiate between lack of desire and depression.

…And one of the biggest issues, particularly as people get older, is that very few health care providers, very few physicians really understand drug interactions.  And frequently, if you give a drug and an antidepressant, it will kill desire immediately and the poor person doesn’t even know what happened to them…you have to become an informed consumer.

I would NEVER offer the general advice to avoid antidepressants!  In response to whether or not someone should use antidepressants and / or other prescription and OTC drugs, I would tell my client to consult with their doctor.  If they didn’t like the side effects of the medication, I would advise therapy and work with them to manage their depression through alternative methods.  However, I would never advise someone to abandon a medication that they need to be on in order to be mentally and physically healthy.

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SDM: Libido Enhancing Foods: According to Doctor Dorree Lynn, dark chocolate and oysters are incredibly powerful aphrodisiacs that can drastically raise libido very quickly and they taste fantastic.  Feel free to eat as much of these types of food as possible when aiming to raise your libido.

While there are many foods that if eaten regularly or at all for that matter can and will drastically lower your libido, foods such as these will actually raise your libido.  Increasing your intake will do lots of good just don’t overdo it.

DL: Dark chocolate has flavinoids and it’s great for your sex life as do oysters have.  They’re real foods that are sexual enhancers.

First, it’s flavonoid, not flavinoid. Second, chocolate and oysters aren’t good for everyone.  In fact, they can make a lot of people very sick.  For that reason, among others, I would never advise anyone to “eat as much of these types of food as possible!”

Second, the aphrodisiac effects of chocolate aren’t fully supported by the entire scientific community.  Yes, dark chocolate contains flavonoids, but many companies process the chocolate to a point where the flavonoids have been reduced if not removed all together.  You have to be educated when looking to purchase dark chocolates with high levels of flavonoids.  Flavonoids, according to, keep cholesterol from gathering in blood vessels, reduce the risk of blood clots, and slow down the immune responses that lead to clogged arteries.  The idea that chocolate is good for your libido stems from flavonoids’ ability to promote healthy blood flow.

Oysters have long been rumored to be an aphrodisiac, with many citing an oyster’s resemblance to a vagina.  However, recent studies have shown oysters to be rich in amino acids that trigger increased levels of sex hormones and a high zinc content that can aid in the production of testosterone.  However, there’s a reason that restaurants are required to post signs in their businesses warning people to eat oysters at their own risk.  Oysters are filter feeders, so if you’re eating an oyster you’re also eating whatever it’s been filtering.  This is one reason why people with liver and kidney problems should stay away from eating oysters.

The bottom line when it comes to food that will boost your libido is to eat as healthy as possible and to try to keep your body and mind as healthy as possible.  You can’t fill your gut with fast food every day and then come home and eat a dozen oysters and expect to get an erection like never before.  And when you plan your diet, feel free to include dark chocolate and oysters, as long as your doctor agrees that you’re healthy enough to eat them.

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While I am very disappointed in Mr. Wallace’s failure to accurately represent the views and opinions of the experts in his book, including my advice, I am thankful to have had the opportunity clarify my position on these issues and subjects.  As professionals, we all aim to provide insight and advice in ways that promote healthy and educated discussion and decision-making.  It is our responsibility, as professionals, to protect and educate innocent victims of miseducation.