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Tricks for Applying Mineral Makeup – Advice for and by women 45+
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~ udpated 11/23/15 – VN Editors

Despite some experts insistence that mineral makeup is simply the best for older women, some Vibrant Nation members have tried and didn’t like the result of using the powdery foundation.

For example, susanpariseau said, ” I tried two different mineral makeups BareMinerals and Raw Minerals and wasn’t happy with either. I have fine lines on my face especially around my mouth, unsure if from smoking or just in my chemistry but the makeup highlighted every line it was horrible. I just use a bronzing lotion and go natural now.

TXButterfly had a similar experience after buying a starter kit of Bare Minerals. “…I feel like it settles into the lines on my face and makes me look dried up and wrinkly,” she said. “Am I applying too much? To tell you the truth, I’m cosmetic-impaired: somehow I just never learned to use foundation, and I’ve never been able to do it in a way that looks natural to me and not ‘made up.'”

TXButterfly may have hit upon the problem, because many VN members have talked about the trick to mineral makeup being its unique application. In other words, it’s not only important what brand of mineral makeup you use, but that you know the tricks and tips for applying mineral makeup.

Tips and tricks for applying mineral makeup

The following are makeup tips and tricks for using mineral makeup provided by Vibrant Nation members:

Sue6 provided several pointers for creating a smooth and even finish when using mineral makeup:

Start with a moisturized but dry face – Give yourself a minute to allow your moisturizer to dry before applying your mineral powder.

Swirl, tap, and buff – Put a bit of powder in the jar lid and swirl your brush into the minerals. Go around the lid three times with the Buki brush to pick up the product. Next, tap your Buki brush two times to release excess powder. Then, buff it onto your face. Start with a thin layer and add layers as needed. Remember to brush in a downward direction on the sides of the face to avoid fluffing up the small hairs on the cheeks.

Use a Buki brush (also called a Kabuki brush) – Sue6 emphasized that it’s vital to use the right type of brush to get a flawless finish with mineral makeup. “…It’s worth investing in a good buki brush,” she advises. “A buki brush is a soft dome shaped brush that is especially effective at applying mineral powder and buffing the product onto the skin. It is designed specifically to apply the product evenly around the nose, mouth and eyes.”

Find the right shade for your skin – Remember that mineral powders reflect light, so you’ll want to choose a color that’s a shade or two darker than your usual liquid foundation. “If your foundation looks powdery after you’ve applied it, wait five or ten minutes and check again,” Sue6 advises. “The minerals meld with the oils of the skin and look natural in a short time. If they continue to look powdery your shade is too light” and you should consider switching to the next darker shade.

VN member SIZZELN agrees that finding the right color is key to a beautiful finish, and you may need more than one shade depending on the season. “…My person who mixes for me, I need two shades. One for winter (lighter) and one for summer (darker), brown skin American. In between seasons blend the two going darker or lighter with season.”

Don’t use too much mineral powder – Mineral makeup is intended to be applied in layers, Sue6 advises. “Start with one light layer and see if the coverage is what you want, if not apply additional layers till you reach the glow that simply can’t be duplicated by other types of makeup.”

Stay hydrated – Some members have complained that mineral makeup makes them look dry. Anna Carlson says, ” I love Bare Minerals – I use a face serum underneath, then apply. That might help with the dryness.”

Where’s the best place to buy mineral makeup

If you’re ready to buy mineral makeup, Vibrant Nation members have also provided some tips for finding the best deals on the sometimes-expensive cosmetics:

    Cobrateacher says,
    “I love the quality and especially the priced at ELF (Eyes, Lips, Face) Most of their products are only $1 each, and the mineral products are usually $5. I’ve often gotten free shipping or discounts, too. I wouldn’t bother if the quality weren’t truly wonderful!”
    Pamela4 says,
    “I buy my favorite makeup brands on e-bay. E-bay sellers can only sell new makeup so everything is new. …I love Jane Airdale Mineral Makeup and I get it on e-bay. Recently, I spotted a Bobbi Brown “Summer Nudes” eyeshadow tray that included 8 shadows at Macy’s but it was $64. Not happening. I got it on e-bay for $34.99.”
    dbeth52 says,
    “I buy my BareMinerals make-up from Sephora, QVC, or BareMinerals site. Whichever has the best deal. Over the years, I have tried lots….drugstore brands, Avon, Arbonne, MaryKay, etc., but BareMinerals works the very best for me. No breakouts, no T-zone shine after a few hours like with all others, and my face looks and feels great.”
    rkaster says,
    “absolutely the best I have used. Mineral Foundations. Beautiful, face, eyes, nail colors. Great anti-aging skin care too! Even have tips on this site.. check it out!!”
VN Editors
How to get brighter, whiter grey hair color
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Is your grey hair color looking dull and drab? Would you enjoy wearing your natural grey if it was brighter, whiter and more vibrant? Many women use grey hair dye because they don’t like the flat, dull look of their natural greys. There are ways to brighten up that color, and get a purer, more beautiful tone to your hair.

Baking soda

Grey hair color is more porous than hair that’s still naturally pigmented. Because of this, grey hair absorbs more elements and minerals from water, more chemicals from hair products and more atmospheric elements that create a dull, faded or yellowish look. Get rid of all that junk with a simple baking soda treatment.

Add regular hydrogen peroxide to ¼ cup of baking soda, just enough liquid to form a loose paste. Get your hair thoroughly wet with plain tap water, then use your hands to spread the paste throughout your locks. Massage the paste right into your hair thoroughly, then allow it sit for approximately 15 minutes.

Rinse the paste out completely with water, then pour 1 cup of apple cider vinegar through your hair as a final step. Do not get the vinegar into your eyes. You don’t need to re-rinse after applying the vinegar. Towel-dry your hair by patting it gently; do not rub because this will cause frizz and breakage.

Perform your baking soda treatment once weekly to remove yellowish tones naturally. Baking soda cleans your hair, so you don’t have to shampoo before your grey hair treatment.

Shampoo for grey hair

Use a clarifying shampoo for grey hair with blue or silver tones. Shampoo that’s formulated for grey hair color has blue, silver or violet tones added to it to counter-balance the yellowing effect of chemicals, water and the atmosphere. Use a light shampoo and conditioner. Very thick mixtures are more likely to leave a residue on your hair that will dull and darken the grey color. Rinse hair thoroughly after shampooing and conditioning, and then rinse it again in cold water. Before styling, try using a silver toner on hair to bring out more brightness and shine.


Brighten up your face to make your hair look brighter by association. Stick to cool shades of make-up that are light in color to lighten up your overall look. Pink, peach and warm tones in light shades will help brighten up your look as well. Use grey hair dye to add a few white highlights to your color. A few white highlights will go a long way toward brightening up those dark, dull locks.

VN Editors
What to wear to make your grey hair color fashionable
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Following the grey hair color trend won’t instantly make you look modern, especially if you aren’t flattering your new color with the clothes you wear. Grey hair color is striking and it’s definitely in style, but the clothes you wear will make or break your overall look. When you know what colors to wear with your grey hair, you’ll always look fashionable.

Grey hair coloring affects everything

When you go from colored to grey hair, color in your face and clothing will look different. The make-up you use and the outfits you frequently wear won’t look the same, and may not suit you quite as well. Grey hair color will affect everything else you’re wearing, and make your overall skin tone look different. Keep your look fashionable, and make your grey hair shine, through fashionable wardrobe choices.

Red is grey’s best friend. The two colors naturally work together to create beautiful contrast. From bold ruby red to deep crimson, red goes beautifully with grey hair color. If you don’t want to wear red all over, pair it with nude and neutral shades. Light tans and nudes echo the warmth of the red, but help to tone down the brightness of the color. When coupled with grey hair color, nude and red look modern, powerful and very fashionable. Add grey, blue and black accessories and accents to pull the entire look together with your grey hair. Color is one of the most important elements of fashion, and if you can use it well you’ll create a complete look that always works.

If you can’t afford to buy a whole new wardrobe (who can?), get some red accents and accessories. Place a red scarf around your neck; this will set off your hair and immediately warm up your skin tone. Use red earrings and/or a red necklace to contrast beautifully against your hair. Summer’s a perfect excuse to break out the bold red sunglasses, and instantly turn the temperature up on your look for a bargain price. If your natural skin tone is cool and pale, look for reds with cooler blue undertones to them. Women with warmer skin tones should seek out brownish and yellowish reds that will suit their coloring.

Expand your color palette by creating a basic wardrobe in white and black. These colors will contrast gorgeously against grey hair color, and give you plenty of room to play with any colors you like. Use accent pieces, like belts and shoes, to show off bold pops of color. Purples look great with grey in just about any shade, from rich berry purple to light lavender. Bold jewel tones are always a good choice to make grey hair color stand out; the bolder colors immediately pull out those silvery tones in grey. Greens and yellows may makes your grey hair color look greenish or yellowy in tone, particularly in sunlight, so you might want to stray away from filling your wardrobe with these shades.


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Best makeup over 50: Mineral makeup we love
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Why is mineral makeup great for women over 50?

Susan Posnick, who has her own line of makeup, says that mineral makeup is the best for women over 50 for several reasons.

First, mineral makeup allows your skin to breathe. Traditional foundation and powder “blocks the skin so that it can’t breathe,” Posnick explained. “And especially today, many of the liquid foundations use silicone which makes for a beautiful liquid foundation, but doesn’t let the skin breathe in the same way.”

Secondly, mineral makeup has light-diffusing properties that help soften the appearance of lines and wrinkles. And finally, minerals don’t settle into lines and wrinkles the way traditional liquid foundations and powders might. “…What you see is that the powder settles into fine lines and can make the skin look dry. And as we age, those lines of character can become a little stronger, a little more obvious–you don’t want your makeup settling in,” Posnick said.

Certainly, mineral makeup has gained popularity in the last few years. As member Jeannie Smith said, “There are so many out there. I started with Bare Minerals and am now with Smashbox because it seems less drying.”

Riaholz agreed, saying, “I know how hard it can be to find a mineral makeup that works for you. I had tried many, and was about to give up when I found a brand called 24-7. I found it at CVS and decided to give it a try. It is reasonably priced and at least on my skin goes on beautifully. Of course the problem with this is you can’t try samples because it is the drugstore. The store assured me I could bring back anything with my receipt that did not work.”

Mineral makeup products most recommended by women over 50

What follows are some recommendations for mineral makeup from Vibrant Nation members – women over 50 who’ve tried the mineral makeup trend and reported back on what helps them look their best day to day.

VN member Lois Joy Johnson is a writer and author and a leading expert on the looks and lifestyles of women 50 +. Former Beauty and Fashion Director of MORE magazine, her The Makeup Wakeup has guided many members to try new things with their beauty routines. She has two favorites when it comes to mineral makeup:

La Bella Donna Compressed Mineral Foundation

“It’s more expensive than most mineral foundations, but this soothing pressed powder is amazing for covering blemished skin,” Johnson said. “The bonus is you won’t end up with a cakey, flaky look. It can be applied dry or with a damp sponge and works well for rosacea and blotchy or sun-damaged skin. You can even use this base over tinted moisturizer for a hint more coverage or to mask flushed areas.”

Bare Escentuals BareMinerals SPF 15 Foundation

If you don’t like the feeling liquid makeups and creams leave, but want subtle coverage and sun protection, Johnson suggests this loose mineral powder that buffs on fast. “It leaves your skin feeling naked, and the original formula (not the newer matte one) gives a radiant look to dry skin—hard to believe powder does this until you try it,” she promises. “There are no parabens, sulfates, synthetic dyes or fragrances, petro chemicals, talc, oil, waxes, or preservatives to think about either.

damselfly09 says
I don’t often sing the praises of any makeup because I’m 63 and when it comes to wrinkles, I’ve got my share. They are more like gutters than wrinkles. They come from spending years in the sun and tanning bed and not properly caring for my skin.

Well, the same beautiful daughter-in-law who turned me on to the “Soothing Care” by Monistat [as a primer for the face], also turned me on to the best mineral makeup I have ever used in my entire life. The Signature Minerals are the softest, smoothest minerals I have ever used. I also have never seen another mineral makeup that completely covered everything including shadow, concealer, and all in mineral form. Everything I need to do my face except my mascara is made by Signature Minerals and is in one little pouch. It has never been easier than it is now to look great.

Mineral makeup is the best thing for older skin as it makes your skin look smooth and flawless. I cannot tell I have this mineral makeup on my skin but it makes my skin look smooth and youthful. I always get compliments about how I don’t look like I’m 63 years old.

The best part about these minerals is that they give away free samples at their website. I love getting “free” samples anytime! That is the base coat, eye shadow, concealer, blush and all. The samples they give away of the foundation powder are not small samples either. You just pick your colors. You can get your samples of Signature Minerals at

Pamela4 says
I use Jane Iredale and it is the best I have found. I get a lot of compliments when I wear it. I use the makeup and the bronzer together.

Mo Brock says
Ditto on the Motives by Loren Ridinger. The Liquid Powder Mineral Foundation is the absolute best!! Try it; I think you’ll like it. I’m not a cosmetics guru … but finding this foundation has made me a believer.

Cheryl Bowman says
My favorite is Mary Kay Mineral Makeup. Great deal for the money, feels fantastically light! easy to match color! Great brush you can take with you for touchups if you like!

MySunnyFlorida says
I love Bare Minerals – using the Skin Rever Upper 1st takes care of any dryness!

carolyne49 says
Jane Iredale. I am a beauty professional and love this line. Jane has rosacea and that is why she started her own makeup. Look into this line. It is not drying and does not settle in the creases.

FancyFrancie says
I’ve used Bare Minerals for at least ten years; have turned others onto it; I love it. Occasionally have tried others, but none compare, in my book. If you use a moisturizer, dryness shouldn’t be an issue.

birdiebabe says
Arbonne’s mineral powder gives a flawless-looking finish with realistic coverage. The formula contains minerals and pigments that are blended into a light reflecting powder. Provides sun protection – SPF 15 – available in 15 shades. Totally love it!!

VintageIsVogue says
I LOVE Bare Minerals. They were one of the first – the original – and they are simply the best. I’ve tried other brands to save [money], but I’d rather purchase Bare Minerals – and know I always look my best. Ulta 3 usually carries gift sets for about $60 which should last several months depending on how often you apply your makeup. Like any good makeup application – make sure you moisturize (and tone if necessary for us oily gals).

Susan Lide says
I use Lauren Hutton Mineral Make up. It’s great for my skin as it has moisturizers in it and does not irritate my skin. There are also other products in this line that I use – she specializes in products for our demographic group.

Anonymous says
I use Bare Minerals Foundation with SPF 15. It is a loose powder you apply with a brush and you control the amount you apply. I apply it very lightly and it covers fine lines, pores, and evens skin tone. It buffs beautifully and is light and looks very natural. I think it is lighter than liquid foundation and I will never go back to liquid again.

grammayumyum says
LOVED Bare Minerals, especially their Mineral Veil that makes your face just glow. I found them to be a bit expensive, and have supplemented with over the counter Physician’s Formula mineral makeup, but nothing compares to the quality of Bare Minerals. I sound like an ad, and I never could be a salesperson, but this stuff sells itself.

Be sure to start with a good moisturizer, and, yes, apply lightly. Their ads show how much the brushes have to be tapped free of excess minerals before applying to your face.

For more great tips and tricks for applying mineral makeup,
see Best Makeup Over 50: Tips and tricks for applying mineral makeup

Susan Posnick
6 age-defying makeup tips for women over 50
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  1. Use highlighting color to lift and brighten.
    Next to sun protection, a highlighting color can be the most valuable tool in your makeup wardrobe. As we age, gravity makes things fall. Careful use of highlighting color can counter the appearance of this:

    • Brow: Use a little bit of highlighting color just underneath the brow and a little bit above the brow to lift, open, and brighten the eye.
    • Cheeks: Use the same highlighter at the top of your cheekbone to make it more prominent. Again, it’s a lift up.
    • Mouth: Use the highlighter around your mouth where those little lines sometimes settle in. Just sort of outline the mouth to make it look a bit fuller. This also softens the lines around the mouth.
  • Open your eyes.
    I think women over 50 should always use some eyeliner. Apply it above the top lashes and don’t go too thick; it can be a very thin line and then you can smudge it out a little bit by the eye. Keep the eyelid lighter in color rather than darker in color because it will keep the eye looking open. Choose an eyeliner color that flatters your coloring–something that defines the eye but isn’t too hard. Black is good, but sapphire blue can be beautiful, or coppery brown, or a deep purple.


  • Go easy on the lip liner.
    Definite lip liner was popular about 20 years ago. Today, too much lip liner has a dated, aging effect. If you’re going to wear a lip liner, wear a very neutral color just to cheat the lip line a little bit.


  • Enhance your lip color.
    You want nice, moist, pretty lips–but with some color. I think glosses are great, but I think once you’re over 50, put a little color with that gloss.


  • Don’t be afraid of a little eye shimmer.
    Many women over 50 are very afraid of eye shadows that have shimmer in them. 20 years ago, you needed to be afraid because the particles were so big that they made the eyelid look crepe-y. But today, everything is so refined you don’t have to be afraid of a little shimmer. This is a big change.




  • Flatter your neck and jawline.
    There are things you can do to flatter these areas which can be a problem for some women. For example, under the chin and onto the neck you can apply a little bit of contouring color (two or three shades deeper than your foundation color) to shadow it back a little bit. Another trick is to apply highlighting color above the jaw line and below the bottom of the cheek, to lift the face.


Finally, learning these tricks is easier when you’re shown how to do them. If you go to a department store, approach someone whose look you like and who is age-appropriate. But you may get better attention at a smaller apothecary because in an apothecary they are not selling a specific line–they are selling what works best for you.


The Makeover Guy
8 lessons from 8 makeovers of women over 50
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As women age, the more beautiful they become–but often, the less attractive they feel. Who they are isn’t coming across in how they look. And so, they feel invisible.

I wrote a makeover book for women over 45 because I like them. We “get” each other. Younger women tend to gravitate towards the trendy and trivial whereas women who’ve sort of “been there, done that,” like I have, are impatient with hype. My clients are smart and they’re ready to hear it. I wrote my book, Staging Your Comeback: A Complete Beauty Revival for Women Over 45, as a labor of love–focusing on techniques I’ve used for over 20 years in my professional career, and addressing the specific challenges women face as they grow older and as their bodies change.

Here are some of the lessons women 50+ can learn from makeovers in my book:

1. Growing old is optional

Rici is the perfect illustration of what happens when you do next to nothing because “it’s just too much work.” Looking natural does not mean doing nothing, especially after 60! It takes makeup to look naturally attractive.

Rici’s “before” look evoked granny in the rocking chair with the knitting–but that image simply didn’t match the Rici I met. With a great hairstyle and highlights, shaped brows, and yes, makeup–we see the true Rici, a woman who wants more from life, who wants to live.

2. Your hair speaks volumes

Nancy has a great personality that her “before” look didn’t come close to capturing. Technically, there was nothing wrong with Nancy’s look–but, as I suggested, she might want to save it till she’s 70.

Much of Nancy’s transformation had to do with simply getting rid of her grey and going for a cut that truly suits her. Short, blond, and bangs all promote a youthful look. The spirit of who Nancy really is radiates in her “after” photo, and that’s what any makeover is all about.

3. Classic doesn’t have to mean boring

Linda’s “before” look was classic to the point of failure. Her hair and clothes were shapeless, her makeup colorless, her workbag completely lacking style. Did someone say “schoolmarm”?

Her “after” look is still classic, but it lets Linda’s vibrant personality shine through. To me there is nothing sexier than a woman in a straight black skirt, a beautiful silk blouse opened one extra button with a killer pair of heels. Plus, the matching hem, hose, and heel work together to elongate her legs. Bam!

4. Give yourself a liftBy age 40, about 40% of women have experienced some hair loss, and the hair loss accelerates during menopause. The right haircut and styling can make a big difference.

For example, Carol thought she needed shorter layers on top for height. In truth, she needed color for texture and more length on top for support. Take control: Give yourself some lift and keep it there by back-combing and using a fine mist hairspray, preferably aerosol.

5. Dress the woman you are today

As you try to find the balance between growing older and looking modern, don’t fall into the trap of becoming “mutton dressed as lamb.” You won’t look younger, you’ll simply look vulnerable and insecure.

Cheryl’s transformation shows the importance of dressing age-appropriately. Rather than tell a story about our past, our image must declare the person we’ve become. In her “after” photo, Cheryl shows just a hint of cleavage (all that’s needed!) and her skirt length, just below the knee, is flattering as well as sexy.

6. Build a foundation

Maybe in the 1960’s and ’70s you burned your bra and let it all hang out, but as time passes, the spirit may still be willing, but the flesh does become weak. It’s time to recognize that the single, most important garment you can wear under slim-fitting clothing is the appropriate foundation.

Lynette’s makeover shows how the right shapewear smooths, slims, and firms. Also, choosing an outfit that creates a monochromatic line slenderizes and balances.

7. Minimize

Lynda told me she hadn’t really “gone out” since the 1980’s because she’d been self-conscious about her weight. But after weight-loss surgery, she lost 155 pounds. And although I thought Lynda was beautiful, she couldn’t seem to see it.

In Lynda’s makeover, warm colors brighten her face while monochromatic color blocking is slenderizing. The lapels draw the eye up and out, away from her midsection. The V-neck elongates, and the necklace draws the eye to Lynda’s face. Finally, fuller leg pants help balance a bigger top.

8. Keep it current

Gail started out with home hair color from hell and a dated hairstyle, plus dark makeup that was aging–and a little scary. Part of the problem was that Gail had spent her life spending money on her children’s clothing, makeup, and haircuts–but had trouble feeling that she deserved those things for herself.

Gail’s makeover stayed true to her beauty buzzwords–simple, clean, and natural–but the softer hair and makeup are much more feminine and the trapeze silhouette works well for her A-shape body.

Why do I feel so lonely all the time even when I’m with my family or friends, no matter what I do or where I’m at.
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i feel so lonely all the time, i don’t know why.. i am so blessed, i have a beautiful family, they are healthy, i have a home,car, food everything i need, i just feel so lonely.


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Best makeup over 50: Lipsticks we love
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When you’ve reached the expiration date on your lipstick, or you’re just looking for a new brand to try, your choices are almost overwhelming. Lucky for you, Vibrant Nation members are ready with lots of recommendations for the best lipstick shades and brands available, especially for mature women with lips that may need a little extra definition or plumping.

Since dark lip liner and oozy liquid lipsticks and dark gloppy glosses are on our list of 10 taboo beauty items, you’ll want to find a paler shade that gives you a youthful look while keep your lips moist and healthy. Consider these recommendations for the best lipsticks for women over 50 from the members of VN:

VN member Paula Ellen

I like using Blistex Silk & Shine under any lipstick I use. It makes your lips very moist and pretty, and I think it makes the lipstick look better, and last longer since you use less. Plus, the Blistex smells and tastes GREAT!

That said, I use Wet ‘n’ Wild #911B in summer and #912B in winter. It looks ridiculously pink, and I have to admit it was a leap of faith for me. I am not a fan of pink but for some reason it looks good on me. Go figure. The universe loves to play these sorts of jokes on me. Wearing anything darker just makes me look like a clown, so I have stayed with this shade.

Marla Heller
I love Elizabeth Arden 8 hr tinted lip balm. It is absolutely the best. And you can get it untinted for bedtime use. Every other lipstick makes my lips peel.

I use Burt’s Bees tinted lip balm. Love it!

Found a great color lipstick today by Elizabeth Arden called Breathless…it is more a neutral color of rose, love it! Has no shimmer, more a creamy matte, but beautiful on!

Chanel Hydrabase which I have loved for over 25 years… I like Hydrabase because it’s so creamy and feels good on my lips for hours.  It’s almost like a balm.  I even wear it around the house rather than a balm.

I cannot afford to have botox every 3-6 months so I tried several lip plumping products.  I started out with the more expensive department store options.  Slowly I tried less expensive products.  Now I use, are you ready for this?, Sally Hanson Lip Inflation.  I absolutely LOVE it. It comes in colors and in clear.  I love the glossy look it adds and I find it plumps ever bit as much as those expensive brands.  Who would have guessed?  I usually buy it at Walgreen’s.  It sells for about $6.

Kelly ann Cavender
I use Sally Hanson too. Try their invisible lip liner, it keeps your lipstick where it is supposed to be… on your lips! I love many of Sally’s nail polish, and grooming tools.

Shelby Jean Etheredge
I use Sunright lip balm SPF 15 from Nuskin.  They also have lipstick.

Sharon Lee 123
I have switched to pencils entirely. They don’t bleed and there are many colors. They seem to last a long time on the lips. I find them easy to apply too! … My favorite [lip pencil] is by Almay because its glides on easily and seems to last a long time (but not through a meal). However, I’ve tried all the brands from expensive to cheap and they are work best for me. And so many colors! The ones in pencil-like tubes are softer and easier to apply. Sometimes I put a dab of lotion on my lips and let it dry thoroughly and that seems to help it “set.”

From Sarah Swenson (Seawriter)
My favorite lipstick right now is Dior Addict. (doesn’t that sound HORRIBLE?)

I use color #583 which is a beautiful shimmery pink that blends perfectly with my coloring. (I have very fair skin, green eyes and blond hair).

I like it because the color lasts, it stays smooth and not bumpy or chunky, and the color is so pretty.

I used to swear only by Chanel lipsticks, which I still like, but this Dior Addict has trumped Chanel, at least for the time being.

Jane Edenfield
So far I am impressed with Mary Kay and M.A.C.

I line my lips and wear mostly colored gloss. I am now using the Sally Hansen plump gloss. Suggested by someone here.

Jackie Brown
My new favorite lip color/gloss is a by brand called “Ruby Kisses” which I discovered at the beauty supply store. I wouldn’t say I can’t live without it, but the colors are lovely and the gloss long-lasting and moisturizing. Best of all, it’s only $2.99 for a palette of three coordinated shades and a clear gloss.

I’m not sure..i haven’t had much luck with drugstore brands OR department store brands.  I just ordered a Paul and Joe lipstick that i saw in a magazine and loved the color… Loved it!!  Stays put, color is great!!  Paul and Joe Limited Edition RPM (beige-pink)  Costs a lot but it’s worth it to find a good one!

Another great lipstick – Laura Geller.  Feels great, lasts a long time, great colors, but cost a lot.  I buy it off her website or $15.50/tube.

I have been using Cover Girl Outlast Lipstick since 2000. It is wonderful. I put it on in the morning, eat, drink, sleep, get up the next morning, take it off with my moisturizer and put on fresh for the next day. I have been asked many times, “How do you wake up in the morning and still have on lipstick?” I can kiss my grandkids and they know it won’t be on them. Never leave marks on your coffee cup, your hubby. It is great!!! It comes in a box, has the lipstick in a long slender tube, then a moisturizer you HAVE to put on after a minute. That is what makes it stay on.

Carol Orsborn
Revlon Just Bitten Lipstain and Balm by Revlon. (My shade: “Forbidden.”)

bubbyof5 provided a few tips to “keep lip color on for hours longer than usual.” She recommends:

1. Exfoliate your lips weekly.

2. Use lip liner pencil all over the lips.

3. Apply lipstick with a brush, especially first time in the day.

4. Powder lips (even blush will work).

5. Blot with tissue between lips.

6. Reapply lipstick or gloss.


Are dry lips your problem? Check out these best lip balms to protect and hydrate your lips recommended by members of VN.

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Women 50+ Know: Hair color that covers the gray
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1. Aveda
From gardenangel in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I go to an Aveda Spa for my hair. It seems less harsh than other hair colors and looks very natural. It does take upkeep, but it’s worth it.”

From amy phillips in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“May not be the cheapest avenue but my hairdresser uses Aveda hair color. She uses foils and two colors. Works really well for about two months.”

2. Clairol Beautiful Collection
From martijoyce in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I use Clairol Beautiful Collection Dark Warm Brown, found at beauty supply stores, not at drugstores, Target, etc. It’s not a dye but a semi-permanent color. I wash my hair every day so I have to color my hair every week cause it fades. But it’s not hard on your hair and doesn’t have ammonia, etc. in it but things that are good for your hair…aloe vera, jojoba and vitamin E…and my hair feels great after!”

Clairol Natural Instincts
From bhc in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I use Clairol Natural Instincts. I like it because it looks natural, leaving the greyest hairs a bit lighter – like multi shades. However, it is not that permanent. I have to use it often to keep my hair looking its best.”

Clairol Nice ‘n Easy GraySolutions
From KariNYC in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
Nice ‘n Easy GraySolution really works for me. My hair is about 80% gray and it really covers better than anything I have tried.”

3. Garnier Nutrisse
From nancyen in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I have been coloring my hair for years. I’m 60, and a 40-year-old asked me why I’m not grey. I told her that I color my hair and she said that in a million years she never would be able to tell. I use Garnier Nutrisse and I vary the colors. I’m a light brunette and sometimes I use a dark blonde, sometimes a light brunette. I do only the roots, leaving it on for about 40 minutes and cover the remainder of my hair for the last 5-10 minutes. My hair has a lovely texture which I attribute to the coloring. Once in a while I use a root touch-up product if I’m in a hurry. I definitely don’t agree with the “don’t try this on your own” comment as I’m proof that you can do it and succeed.”

Garnier Nutrisse
From Raffila in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I started to cover the grey twenty years ago. For many years I went to a professional stylist/colorist. In between visits I experimented. For the past ten years I have been on my own and tried every hair color product on the market. Yes, I actually tried to work my way through every brand, even some I found in health stores. Also tried mixing my own chemicals in the same way as my stylist did.

In the end I became a staunch believer in Garnier Nutrisse. It gives even coverage, lots of shine, does not damage hair and most importantly does NOT fade. Some dyes from L’Oreal which look great fade away. Others tend to change color to brassy notes with each hair wash. Garnier promises 100 percent grey coverage and delivers.

Read the directions and follow exactly. They recommend you leave on longer. The directions explain how to dye the first time and how to handle root coverage. Follow those directions to the letter.

Do part your hair in small sections and use the bottle to drip down the part and your gloved finger to lightly spread the dye cream onto the hair on each side of part to cover the roots. This is key to having an allover even job. in the front. Be sure to go around the hairline with the creme and use finger to cover the roots (this tip is Not in the directions.) If you do it this way you won’t miss any spot in the front, which is critical. I wish you good luck…and add that I have no connection with this product line. It is simply the Best!

(A small vial of avocado oil goes into the dye mix, and I think it’s one reason why your hair shines and feels soft–you can save some of the included conditioner too, to add in a few weeks.) I also use their shampoo/conditioner. My daughter’s hair grows slower than mine so she dyes every 7-8 week and I do mine every six. Don’t let these pros scare you into salon color. I honestly look better with longer lasting Garnier color than I did with my stylist’s formulas. Now that I have practice in application, I feel confident I look terrific.”

4. L’Oreal
From comgal in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“L’Oreal has been my choice since it came out. I had my hair burned off in a flash fire when I was 16 and started coloring it to add body when it was growing back. I guess I have tried every brand there is and keep coming back to L’Oreal. There are some greys that won’t color but try putting the color on the worst of the grey a few minutes before adding the remainder to the rest of the hair.”

L’Oreal Excellence
From REDHEAD57 in I‘m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I like L’oreal Excellence products. It has the color that most matches my previous strawberry blonde color and leaves my hair silkie. I for sure am not ready to not be a redhead yet!”

L’Oreal Excellence To Go
From maggiel52 in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I use L’Oreal To Go. It’s fast (10 minutes) and covers all my gray.”

L’Oreal Féria
From debbie in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I use Féria. It leaves your hair nice and soft, covers your gray and leaves highlights in your hair so it doesn’t look like it’s colored. Good stuff.”

L’Oreal Natural Match
From Tink in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I’ve used L’Oreal Natural Match for quite some time now, and I like the results. I have found that going one shade lighter gives me better results. I especially like this one because of its no ammonia formula, since I have a sensitive scalp.”

L’Oreal Preference
From Sherrie Mathieson in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I like the L’Oreal Preference product line to achieve gray coverage.”

5. Redken
From suzy in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“If you want natural looking color, ask your hair dresser to use Redken. Professional color always looks better or maybe it’s because you paid for it. And always color a shade or two lighter than your natural color.”

Redken Shades EQ
From steelmagnolia in I‘m not ready to let my hair go gray
“My hair has been going gray for years and for years, I have gone to the salon & they use Redken Shades EQ. I have not had any problem with it. It covers the gray & leaves my hair feeling very healthy and in great condition.”

6. Revlon Color Silk
From Lynnette in I’m not ready to let my hair go gray
“I have been coloring my hair for the last 20 years. Basically any hair color will cover gray. I use ColorSilk from Revlon because i am all gray and have to do it every 3 weeks or so. I did the salon thing for a while, but could not afford it anymore and it was every 3 weeks just the same. Hair color products are amazing nowadays.”

I have a crush on my boss do you think he’s attracted to me?
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I work in a retail store and my (male) boss is such a sweetie. Some how our eyes always meet lots of staring.. and I caught him looking at me he smiled and raised both of his eyebrows..He just gave me a bunch of nice compliments he told me I was a good woman a savvy shopper and a sweet girl I melted I could not believe it because he is so amazing and so cute he dress nice such a beautiful man!  I have another problem though women there treat me nasty including the female boss I am a pretty woman i keep my hair nice and my nails done i am in my 40’s but look like i’m in my 20’s so this chick is nasty. what do you guys think?

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Grey hair coloring: Members recommend highlights to help you go grey gracefully
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Grey hair coloring can be confusing and frustrating. If you try to simply color the grey, you may find yourself at the salon far more than your schedule and wallet can withstand. If you use home grey hair coloring kits, you may find that you don’t like the results.

Vibrant Nation members have shared some of their best advice — and advice from their hairdressers — about grey hair coloring. Here’s a bit of their wisdom.

Use weaving to make grey hair coloring more natural

Bliss1249 admits, “It was hard for me to say goodbye to my beautiful auburn hair when the gray began to encroach, but coloring every two weeks to maintain the darker hair, was just too much. I ultimately decided to weave my hair with blonde. I can go much longer without having to have my stylist do touch-up color. I found that when we try to do it ourselves, it just isn’t as even and color also tends to absorb more in the ends.  I know this becaue I use to do it myself.”

Member Jkasper says, “The best way to cover gray is to add highlights to your hair. You will not have to worry about the damage to your hair that hair dyes do. You will also only have to touch up your highlights every 3 months. It’s a much better solution than trying to cover your gray every month or so.

Combine grey hair coloring with a great cut

VN member nellie says, “My hair dresser suggested growing out the color as much as I could stand, then having highlights put in and getting as short of a cut as I could tolerate. It took about a year to completely rid myself of the colored hair. I have never looked back! I get lots and lots of compliments – at least twice a week, from both men and women!”

Use highlights and lowlights to make grey hair coloring look more natural

VN member Barbara Hannah Grufferman trusts the advice of famous French hairdresser Frederic Fekkai. His least favorite choice is the “single process” route to grey hair coloring because it creates a single block of color, with very little contrast (especially if it’s too dark or too light). This can age you, draining your face. Even if your hair is dark brown or black — which shows up the gray much more than blond hair does — Fekkai encourages women to run the highlights and lowlights right through the brown and gray hair, creating a beautiful mix of natural colors. It’s a more modern, fresh look and, he thinks very sexy, because it’s an interesting way to embrace your hair, and your age, without going completely gray, Grufferman reports.

VN member Jan Murphy shared, “I go to a stylist that has put in highlights and low lights to blend in with both my natural color and the gray. So much gray was coming in that I was coloring my hair every three weeks. I know that the cost of having a specialist do it is great but it’s worth it for me. I feel great each time I have it done and quite frankly, it’s less often than when I was coloring myself!”

Do you have advice to share about grey hair coloring?

He isn’t interested in sex, intimacy, hugging, or affection. Why does he say he loves me?
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I’m smart, I give GREAT advice and wisdom; but I don’t listen to my own advice!  I’ve been married and divorced twice.  Now, I’ve been in a relationship for nearly 7 years, and he is not interested in sex.  Not that important to him, he says.  We go days with out kissing or hugging.  If I don’t initiate affection, we’d go weeks!  Good man, good provider, works hard, and we have a beautiful home!  I could go on.  And, I love him.  I’m a very young 53 year old, and he’s 50!  We still have a lot of years in us; and I want to have SEX!!!  Yes.  I’ve told him.

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Make your grey hair color pop with the clothes you choose
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A certain shade of green may make your eyes look bluer or your skin more yellow, and what you wear has a similar effect on your grey hair color. Maybe coloring grey hair isn’t the answer — and color-coordinating your look is. Learn what to wear with your grey hair.

Causes of grey hair

Science is still exploring the various causes of grey hair. Some say grey hair color is linked to stress, others say it’s not. But whatever causes grey hair, you’re likely to find at least one or two on your head before you blow out 50 candles on your birthday cake. As VN member ThurmanLady says, “Science or not, I’ve always said I’ve earned every one of my gray hairs!” Going grey is a bit like a rite of passage — congratulations, you’re a mature woman now.

Coloring grey hair is a time-honored tradition, a must in Hollywood and an easy process that anyone can master in the comfort of their own home. But instead of changing the color on your head, change the colors of your wardrobe to match your new grey look. You can always age gracefully and naturally with pride, but there’s no reason you can’t help Nature along a little with the right fashions.

Coloring your wardrobe to complement grey hair

Learn what not to wear with your grey hair color, and choose shades and tones that will complement your hair. If nothing else, going grey can give you a wonderful excuse to buy a whole new wardrobe.

  • Jewel tones. Bright, bold colors look great with grey hair. The soft, silvery tone of natural grey hair color matches well with vivid purples, blues, reds and greens.
  • Metal tones. Warm golds, rich bronze and slate grey complement grey hair color beautifully. The metal tones add sparkle and depth to your look, which will be echoed by natural highlights and lowlights in your hair.
  • Monochromatic. White and black also provide a pretty palette for grey hair color. Accessorize with brighter jewel tones or warm metals to add life and color to your ensemble.
  • Pastel tones. Pastels and grey hair color don’t always go together well. The paleness of your hair, if echoed through your wardrobe, will blend into a colorless overall design. If you love wearing pastels, add eye-catching metals or monochromatic tones to your ensemble through jewelry and accessories to serve as a contrast to the softer, paler shades of your clothes and hair.
  • Earth tones. Natural, earthy tones look wonderful on blondes and brunettes, but on women with grey hair it may create a washed-out and bleached effect that makes hair fade away. If you can’t get away from the earthy look, add a brightly-colored or monochromatic scarf or necklace to create some division between your clothes and your hair. The brightness and contrast of the accessory will help your hair pop beautifully.

Use specialized grey hair shampoo on your hair to keep it naturally beautiful. Chlorine and other chemicals may tint your hair a  greenish or bluish color, and no matter you wear you’ll look a bit like an Easter egg if with this tinted look.

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Best Makeup Over 50: Tips and tricks to conceal dark circles under your eyes, minimize under eye puffiness, and get rid of bags under your eyes
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Use makeup tips and tricks to conceal dark under eye circles, reduce puffiness and banish those bags. Tired, puffy-looking eyes will immediately age you, even if the rest of your face is absolutely fabulous. The right under eye makeup can hide all of this, and with a few little tricks you can shave years and years away from your eyes.

Prep the base

The best makeup tips and tricks can’t be seen. The secret of getting great makeup over 50 is simple: primer. Makeup Geek recommends 5 primers, a list that includes Clinique Pore Minimizer Instant Perfector and MAC Mattifying Gel.

  1. First, moisturize your under eye area. Always apply moisturizer before applying cosmetics to keep skin from drying out.
  2. Next, dab a pea-sized ball of primer on a clean finger and very gently rub the primer under your eye.
  3. Repeat on the other eye.
  4. Wait for the primer to dry, at least 1 minute.

Under eye concealer

How to conceal dark circles under eyes

Once your eye is primed and ready, you’re going to want to apply concealer. This is your best weapon when it comes to dark circles under your eyes, but it can be dangerous when used improperly. Prevention advises using an under eye concealer with a yellow undertone. Choose one that’s at least two shades lighter than your skin tone. For some dark circles, a more orange-based concealer may work better.

Apply concealer for under eye circles with a small brush or your ring finger, starting at the outer corner of the eye just under the lash line. Move from corner to corner.

Build the foundation

How to Hide Under-Eye Circles with Makeup

Once your under eye area is primed and concealed, apply your usual foundation. Your foundation should match the same color tone as your chest, and should be placed on your face in a single smooth coating. Always include the area under your eyes when you’re applying your foundation. If needed, use a small brush to get more even coverage, but don’t apply it too roughly or you’ll mess up your concealer. Dust the under eye area with a sheer, yellowish powder to help the under eye makeup stay put.

Under eye makeup

Once all the preparation is done, certain makeup tips and tricks can be applied to further hide the shadows and puffiness.

  1. Whiten the inner corners of your eyes with a dab of white eye shadow or a little dot from a white eye pencil. Use a brush to gently blend it in, and lighten up this dark eye area.
  2. Lighten up on the eyeliner, too. When you apply your eyeliner, use a very thin line and a waterproof brand. Waterproof eyeliner won’t smudge as easily. Smudged eyeliner makes dark under eye circles even more noticeable. A liquid liner creates very fine lines.
  3. Use light eye shadows to make eyes look brighter and wider, which helps make puffiness and dark circles harder to see. Shadows with a little shimmer to them will draw more light to your eyes, brightening dark circles.

Wake up your eyes

If your eyes are really tired and puffy-looking, apply tea bags to them for 15 minutes before you begin applying any makeup. Over 50 women benefit from the caffeine in the tea, which has a lifting effect and reduces puffiness. Soak the bags in hot water for about 60 seconds, then dip them in ice water long enough to cool them off. Apply them right to your eyes for about 15 minutes. Rinse your eyes with cool water, pat dry, and then go about applying primer, concealer, foundation and the rest of your makeup.

Tips and Tricks

Everything else you do with your makeup can help make puffiness and dark circles less noticeable. Brush a little white eye shadow beneath the curve of your eyebrow to make your eyes look lifted. Fill in your eyebrows to hide thinning areas using a pencil that matches your hair shade. And when you’re applying makeup, brush a little eye shadow beneath your lower lash line, just under your eyeliner. This will lighten up the area under your eyes and keep the eyeliner from smudging at the same time. Makeup over 50 isn’t all that different from makeup at any other age; you’re just using a few extra cosmetic tricks.

A little under eye makeup goes a long way toward hiding those dark circles. Apply your makeup evenly and with a very delicate hand, and avoid layering on a bunch of it. Heavy makeup will only settle in small wrinkles and make your eyes look baggy. The secret of makeup over 50 is that less is more. Apply it correctly, use the right colors, throw in a few tricks, and you’ll get a beautiful finished look.