Vibrant Nation

Note to Self... Don't talk yourself too seriously... remember when your 60 you will think 50 was young so think young now.  Schedule yourself in your calendar, use the name of someone you admire.

Be happy where you are... love who your with... let them go when it's time... take a bubble bath with a man... take a vacation alone .... if you want a man in our like make room for him ... In life fake it untill you make it.. but never in love.

Listen to that place that only you know within.  It speaks quietly and softly to you-guiding the way.

HI kATE,

I am writting to you to let you know, everything remains the same.....Dad and I have a younger daughter, named Christina, and we love her as much as we love the two other children, Toby and Molly.  I am still in grade school, making cup cakes and I still refuse to be a scout leader.  I am still sneaking around with a newport hid in the China Hutch.  Sometimes, as usual, I can not wait till Christina goes to school, so I can have a cig. and cup of coffee.  Things remain the same.  I still worry about the kids and that everything will go well.  Always planning the holidays and praying that everyone will be safe.  Pasta on wednesday, and church on Sunday with a big breakfast.  My life remains the same and I am only getting younger cuz I have to learn how to be young....text messaging is my favorite,,,,,I say a prayer before my message OMG.  I am good....LOL Kathie

I have so many emotions looking back at my younger self. I look at the sweet, shy little girl who's mother didn't support and help her when she needed it. My father was killed in the Korean War when I was three. I didn't get a very good start in life and wish I had been a stronger person and not someone always looking for someone else to save her. I'm going to be 60 next month and look back amazed how time flies by. I want to instill in my grandchildren not to waste one second and enjoy life. I am just now (the last few years) enjoying and appreciating life. I wish everyone the same.

Be still and listen . You have a great deal to learn .

Look at how far you have come.. But don't forget the struggles because they have help you develop into the confident, educated and professional woman who doesn't have all those fears.  You even love your name now.

make good happy memories!

This year I turned 50. So many of the voices in hear speak such wisdom. I am awed listening to the women here...and I recognize myself in their voices. My life has been less than plentiful when it comes to women encircling me in community in my life. How I long to have more female company, community around me as a means of understanding myself and feeling connected through the recognition and appreciation of them. As I read the post cards here it was like a thirst was being quenched. Thank you.

Deb, only sit and watch the clouds go by for a short time. Stay in the race and do not stop. If you stop; you could stop for a long time and it's tough to get back in...sometimes you never do. It sounds sad but then other doors and windows open that allow you to continue to grow in different ways than you would ever suspect. Learn to look at faces versus clothing, houses, cars or jobs. See people for what they are...just people. Get a higher education of knowledge so that you can critically think. It's important. Doing this will help you sort through all the bullshit life will throw. Have women friends. Do not waste time finding them. Nurture your relationships. Call. Send cards. Notice achievements. Give positive reinforcement. Quit being critical. For every thought you think, say something positive because that is who others want to be around.

Spend more time with your Mother because she will be gone in the blink of an eye in 1996.  She loves you very much, wants a close relationship with you, shower her with love and be her best friend.

KEEP YOUR MIND CLEAR AND OPEN TO NEW THINGS,THE QUIET PEACEFULL TIMES,ARE FOR US TO ENJOY.NEVER LOOK BACK ON THE PAST ,AS A MEMORY,IT WAS A JOURNEY TO WHERE WE HAVE ARRIVES.TAKE NEW CHANCES,THEY WON'T HURT US NOW.BUT,TRY TO EXPLORE NEW PLANETS.WE HAVE ALREADY BEEN ON A TRIP.MOST OF ALL NEVER GIVE UP HOPE FOR PEACE IN OUR HEARTS AND ABOVE ALL LAUGH OFTEN,BE IT AT OURSELVES OROTHERS

FROM BLUEBYOU58

To my 25 year old self - I'll be 52 this year and I cannot believe it. I don't feel that different from being 25. More sincerely confident [I faked it then, I am it now and not afraid to admit it]- I am more real now as in the Velveteen Rabbit - you will read it before you are 30 but it really won't make sense to you until now. Enjoy your health because it will raise it's head to see just how strong you really think you are - but you will endure that too. Keep good friends and lose the toxic ones. Never be afraid to explore the world or what interests you regardless of what others may have to say about it. LIVE YOUR LIFE as only you can. Be kind but never be a doormat. Oh, and you will have children but it won't happen for quite a while and not as you could ever have imagned. But they will BE so much of what you have prepared for in ways you never knew were being prepared. Love often, laugh daily.

Life moves one direction - forward.  Every one is fighting a hard battle, be kind.  Will it matter in 5 years - if not let it go.  Don't take yourself so seriously, laugh, love and relax.  And those days at home with the little ones really do fly by.  All at once they are grown ups with their own children.  You'lll find your passion.  

"I resolved to take fate by the throat and shake a living out of her." ~Louisa May Alcott