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I’ve decided to challenge myself to 90 days of no gossip or negativity. I’m mostly positive but when I’m not I notice the toll it takes on my soul. Any one want to join me?
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I’m not into gossip, it’s just trouble for the vicitims & the gossips alike. I live in a small village & I totally avoid the famous gossips (who I know of at least!). I honestly believe that anyone who finds pleasure in critizing & even just yacking about someone elses business, is afraid of their own life.
HOWEVER, I can be my own worst critic & I know I should treat myself better & give myslef a break. I complain that no one seems to acknowledge the work I do, yet it’s me who keeps pushing for more, instead of sitting back & saying “Good Job!” And like you said, it ‘takes a toll on my soul”.
So, if you don’t mind me changing the rules to suit, I’ll join you in laying off the negative thoughts towards myself.
Maybe you should be more specific about defining ‘negativity’ in order to help avoid it?
Hi watermusic,
Gee, I already know I can’t do this, but I would love to! The gossip part,I think I can do, but the negative part, well, I have a touch of melancholy that just surfaces! It washes over me, from where, God only knows! I try to use it as an opportunity to ‘stop’ and wake up a bit, but sometimes, I just cover my head! I guess that is considered negative?!
What a challenge!
I mostly work with women. Not to be sexest, but boy do we gossip. O.K. I’ll give it a try and be honest if I do give in. You should hear all that goes on …. Oops!!!
Now the real challenge. Can we have a time limit on the negativity? Negative thoughts pop up in my head all the time but I can usually swat them away within 2 minutes or less. I’ll put a time limit of 2 minutes on my negativism.
anir
good idea
I have worked with all women and I have worked with all men. Trust me, there’s not much difference in the gossip department, in fact, men can sometimes be worse, more crass.
But that’s not the idea behind this exercise. I hate gossip, have been the subject of it more times than I care to note in my 57 years. But, sometimes when people are treating us badly it’s hard not to point out the negativity, which is also gossip in its own right. So, I’m in late on this game. I will try.
The negativity is a little bit harder. I am stage IV breast cancer with metastasis to my bone, in pain a lot and my husband is on dialysis waiting for a kidney. You can’t have much more negativity in your life than that.
Defining negativity: This is a one page article on it.http://74.125.45.132/search?q=cache:wJ45z_oPuiUJ:www.personal-development.com/chuck/negativethinking.htm+negativity&cd=9&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us
I work with women and we gossip and call it venting, concern, sorting things out. I’m trying to live by these three rules, Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary? Anir, when I woke up this morning I became aware of which of my thoughts were negative i.e. unkind, untrue, and unnecessary and stopped them. 2 minutes sounds like a good mark. Evie, melancholy, IMO, is different from negativity. I read a book, The Soul’s Code, I think that spoke of the gifts of melancholy.
Read the article and agreee with it 100%. Especially the part that “we” are the ones who are responsible for our own positivity.
To keep me positive, I love to read Helenoflafolot posts on this site. she is so upbeat . “Worry” yourself healthy, happy, and successful really opened up a new way of thinking for me.
anir
I get carried away with the negative thoughts which many times are brought on by hormones. There are a few times a month where I can drive myself bonkers & not even realize it until I hear Dr. Phil say “Is this really a FACT?” & then I have to answer “No, not much of this is.”
I’m a big What-If-er. And it’s all set up for a negative scenario. Thanks WM for really bringing this to our attention! With the holiday here I’m REALLY going to pay attention to my bitchy inner voice.
Watermusic, thanks for the link to this very interesting article.
Okay, I’m in! This is a good thing…we have ‘habits’ that need to be looked into. This will shed some light on them! Thanks, watermusic!
Yes, thanks Watermusic, i’m in too!
I think I already blew it! OK…starting NOW!
Ha ha..met too…this is hard!
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Well, I’m still in. Did an 8 hour shift last evening. No gossiping, no negativity! But then again, I was working with two upbeat people and not very gossipy. It was very easy. Just gotta keep going in this way. I’ll see what happens when I get a real challenge.
anir
I will join you. Today will be my day one and April 8th which takes me to July 8th where I will be in Mumbai India with my daughter and her husband, awaiting or celebrating the birth of my grandchild. My daughter and son in law are both Canadian, and my daughter is in India to support her husband, whos intent is to promote his business as a hopeful world class photographer.
I am grateful you have opened the door to giving positive energy, it is a constant as to how we as a planet of beings could strive to be. As a pebble thrown in water, the ripples spread huge.
Sending support and good wishes.
Much gratitude…here is to 90 days of awareness and positivity. Love and light.
yes I would like to join you…I am almost the most negative person I know.
I am starting this for my New Year’s resolution for 2011.