| Oh no! Where did my libido go? |
We are all probably old enough to remember the old television commercial with Clara Peller, who yelled, “Where’s the beef?” Just the other day, my husband and I were yelling at one another about the same thing. Not in a bad way. We weren’t mad…or even sad….just curious. What’s happened?
MOJO….where did you go?
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i use a combo of shea butter and aloe vera moisturizer. Works great. I use shea butter on my lips, around my eyes and nose (dry areas), My father swears by vasoline.
p.s. I dropped your name on Gina's post, Barb. ;)
Hi again. I have to laugh. My friend Gina Mcnew just wrote a blog post about the myriad of skincare and beauty products women use compared to men. And how it gets crazy as we get older. I laughed my butt off! I thought you ladies would enjothank you so much Lisa, that helps a lot. I know he tried to blame me for so much stuff, but like I told all of his family and mine none of that added up to a divorce. I do realize it's his needs, it just hurts so bad to think how many years he'sI used Noxzema from the time I was old enough to wash my own face, all through school and into adulthood. Then I decided it wasn't 'sophisticated' enough and went with higher priced, higher end products. About 5 years ago, I went back to 
i do not know, many ladies here say it is still there, mine has gone elsewhere but not in this house. Dr. She says use it or lose it. Well, i guess i have lost it.
Here is some advice from Debi Drecksler… the Ask Bubbi advice columnist (www.ashevillenow.com).
It’s there (MOJO)…It’s just hiding under the piled up junk called LIFE! Get rid of the clutter and you will find it!! Learn to be SILLY again!! Go “parking” and make-out in the car! So what if a cop flashes a light on you…When he sees the two of you…he will wink and say, “Continue On!”
Go get a milk shake and stick both straws into it. It will force you to really look at each other!!
Let your sweetie take you shopping and pick you out a sexy negligee. Giggling is mandatory!!!
And finally…Do NOT allow yourself to get into a RUT…Put a little FUN and at least one surprise in every day!!
Like everything in menopause, it has changed. Your sex drive is still there in some form, make time for each other and snuggle, that may lead elsewhere or no where. At least you have established a physical, and hopefully emotional, connection. Aim for balance in your life so you have energy and feel good about yourself.
Make love dates. Seriously. Put them on your calendars, look forward to them, anticipate what you’ll do together, and discover that by “date time,” you’ve both been enjoying mental foreplay and are ready to come together.
Treat it like anything else we do in our busy lives: Focus, we should think about it all day, plan scenarios of how to make it happen, budget time and money for it, read about it (fun magazines, romance novels), practice for it, follow through even though you have other pressing events (sleep, work, fatigue) and then it will always be available. Treat it like all the other important things in our lives before it’s too late. After all, that’s how we treated our mojo when we were younger – Something I have finally realized. .