This has been the summer of self discovery. First and foremost I discovered I had completely lost my groove. Sadly, I then discovered I had been so worn down, worn out and worn through I didn’t even remember I had one. Through no ones fault but my own, my get up and go had got up and left.
None the less, just like Stella I did get my groove back. It wasn’t on an island paradise or tropical cruise this it was rediscovered. I regained my funk in the most unlikely place and with one of my favorite people. I found the groove I didn’t even know I had lost, yet still managed to miss!
It went something like this. My darlin little sisy took her (slightly older) sister to her favorite outdoor spa for a little R&R. I must interject now that one of the things I love most about my sisy is her ability to enjoy life. Iam the overly cautious (again slightly older), uptight sister. Not to be redundant, but I went on this little trip groove-less and wound tighter that a clock.
As my darling sister and I sauntered from one luxurious outdoor pool to another I found myself actually starting to immerse myself in total relaxation. I hadn’t been really silly in so long and I caught myself laughing often, loudly and proudly. The sound of joy is medicinal for sure.
But, then it got even better. With a glass of wine in hand, we sat together in one of the smaller pools. There we were just two crazy sisters without a care. It was like we were kids again (only with wine). It was great to feel so free and at that point I did what I NEVER, in my life would have normally done. I did what my little carefree sisy had done on her 50th birthday, I pee’d in the pool!!!! This was one of the craziest things I had ever done, because I really didn’t give a diddly, PIDDLY, doo what anyone else may think. If the water turned a shade darker blue who the heck cared. That was the freeing part I didn’t worry about it, I just did it.
That simple, silly and a little inappropriate act soothed my soul. At 56yrs old that pee became a right of passage for me. It allowed me to not only retrieve my lost groove but to realize the importance of the fact I still have one!
Yes I get that you meant in the work place, not dating. But the original poster did use the example of Julia Roberts getting what she wants from a man by using her femininity. I don't see that as strong. As you know she was a hooker? This comparison 
Hello Pammy: I really enjoyed listening to you. So glad to hear you’ve gotten you groove back. I can really relate. I seemly lost it, after my husband had passed in 2005, then my son began to get me interested in plays , DVD’s and just traveling. I felt for so long I couldn’t really enjoy myself alone. I forgot to mention going to ,movies also, which I hadn’t been to a theater in years. I told a short trip alone on a train to Emeryville, my daughter stays there and I stayed with her. We traveled on bus took long walks discussing our goals for the coming years and if God blesses us to be here we plan to hold one another accountable for our doings . It feels good to know that you’re capable of really loving and appreciating your self. I always felt in order for a person to enjoy being around you, you must like being around yourself. Very small things in life are what ,makes us a big person. Thank God for opening my eyes.
lou,
First, I’m sorry for your loss. I know what it is like to lose a spouse.
How wonderful it is that your children and you are close and sharing special time together.
You sound like a wise woman. You sound like a grateful woman and I really appreciate your sharing.
Good morning Pammy: Thank you so much for your response. I must continue to give God the praise for the good He has given . You’re so sweet..I’m not a wise woman ,just a grateful one. Sometimes my spirits begin to sag from time to time , but I try to remember that God expects more out of me.
Have a great week!!!!!!!!
so glad you’ve gotten your groove back .. there’s hope
Oh yea, I got my groove back and then some. Hope you too are feeing groovy!