Do you view men the same way you would a take out order at your local fast food joint?
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You know how you pull up to the Wendy’s™ drive through and ask for your single with lettuce, cheese, pickle and ketchup? You love doing this because you get exactly what you want and it’s so satisfying!
Are you this way with men too? Do you want a man of a certain height? Build? Weight? A certain look? Particular profession? Or maybe a certain amount of wealth to his name?
Does any of this sound like the criteria you have been using to attract Quality Men into your life?
I remember when I first started dating in my 40’s and was reading a man’s profile that said. “I’d like a blond, petite, professional woman who dresses well.” I thought WOW, this man thinks his computer can just spit out a woman made to his specifications.
I was bummed because he was so cute and I really wanted him to notice me. Well he wasn’t going to-I’m not blond or petite. At the time I was a student and in all honesty, I had major dressing issues wearing only upscale jeans and black t-shirts. What can I say? It’s a left over from my flower child days of growing up during the late 60’s -early 70’s.
But I do remember thinking, this man is missing out on a lot of great women by being so narrow with his ideas of what makes a Quality Woman for him.
We all get a picture in our head of who we think we want that will make us happy. Today, being in a very happy relationship with a man who is totally opposite of what I thought I wanted, but is probably the best Quality Man I’ve ever met, I can tell you those pictures in your head can be deceiving.
With so many expectations of who a Quality Man should be, you end up narrowing the number of men available to go out with and that’s what starts the mind set of “There are no good men are out there to date.”
There are great men online. It may take a while to find them but they are there if you are willing to try out different types of men than you are used to dating.
It’s always a good idea to come up with a list of what you’d like in a man. Although I must warn you, I made lists over the years and got men with almost 90% of the qualities on them. Yet the relationships failed and that’s because what I thought I wanted and the type of men I felt safest with were not the best one’s for me.
So what I want you to do is make your list then consider changing one quality on it and start looking for men with that different quality. It may not feel comfortable at first because change is hard. It really is. But the benefits might be so worth it. What could happen is:
#1 You will open the doors to more Quality Men
#2 You will find there are a lot of great men out there that you were never aware of before, and
#3 You might find this different type of man is a lot of fun and far better for you relationship wise then the men of your past
Let me know the quality you decide to change and how it’s ends up working for you!
Until next time-
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