Have you noticed Christmas decorations in the store? Are you eyeing a pretty party dress and wondering if you’ll any place to where it? Has your party calendar been getting lighter every year? Are you wondering where you will spend Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Year’s Eve?
Ask yourself honestly the following questions:
- When you visit, do you stay longer than 3 nights?
- Do you ever host a gathering, party, Thanksgiving or Christmas feast at your home?
You do know the excuses that your house is too small or that you don’t have the time, NO ONE Believes? You do realize you are only getting an invitation, if you do get one, is because you are a family member? Does that explain why everyone is aloof to you?
- Do you ask what you can bring to a potluck, dinner or party invitation and then don’t bring it?
How many Thanksgiving dinners have gone with-out rolls because you forgot? It’s rolls for Pete’s Sake!
- Have you ever brought something for a potluck and surveyed the table and put your contribution back into your car?
You know we saw you do it!
- Have you ever done any of the following:
Brought a dish that you needed to cut up, mix and assemble without a serving dish, knife, and peeler or baking tray?
Asked to bring an appetizer but arrive an hour late?
Brought your kids with their friends?
Drank too much and got too familiar, obnoxious or sick?
You know we notice all of this and you are still wondering why you aren’t invited more often?
Here are some suggestions to blaze the trail to become a good guest:
Get off your hiney, stop making excuses and learn to be gracious!
Start with family. Invite them for brunch, lunch or dinner and ask them to bring NOTHING.
Don’t want to clean your home? Take them out to dinner or brunch and pick up the tab. Tell them you are doing this to make up for all the times they hosted you.
Now repeat with friends.
Grow up and become a ‘Mench’ and maybe your calendar will fill up with invitations! There is still time.