With age, illness does happen. Here are some suggestions to continue your sexual life anyway. All other comments and thoughts are welcome.
Let’s get real: illness sucks! Even if you don’t get hit with
one of the biggies, like heart disease, cancer, or stroke, all sorts
of other things happen that can mess with sex, like prostate
problems, vaginal illnesses, urethra leaks, vaginal prolapses,
men’s breasts that grow, women’s breasts that shrink or go flat,
nipples that become less sensitive, limp penises, and low
libidos from dozens of different causes.
So what can we do? How about saying, “No way will I let
(insert name of illness or injury) take away all my fun!” If you
have any part of you that can still move and feel, if you have a
partner or even if you don’t, if you can think even one sexy
thought, you can still have sex. It may be hard to let go of past
expectations and accept what is now possible, but once you do,
whole new sexy possibilities can open up for you.
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Agreed….I’ve had a couple of opportunities to be challenged; the first time crossed over New Year’s Eve. One of my favorite singers was performing in Vegas. With the help of a friend, I dragged myself there and had a great time…two nights of back to back shows and fun. I was much better in a couple of months.
A few years later, I had another challenge, the doctors were not sure they could fix the problem and I was looking at potentiially being off work and heavily medicated from there on. I seized on the opportunity to take a holiday cruise throughout the Caribbean and Panama Canal. I asked the doctor, what do you think? She said, “what can it hurt?” A couple of months later, my health turned around in a big way. 3 years later…I”m still working and my medicines are at a minimum.
Yep…you just have to have fun or make opportunities for it when it seems like you shouldn’t. It makes all the difference.
And be gutsy too, like you.
I have been facing some health issues right now but own a home alone and have many bills & stress. I really feel that some time off would help drastically. Most of my problems are stress related and I just can’t do my job without feeling constant stress. My job is making me physically ill.
I don’t know how to go about asking for a sabatical or if they would even agree to it. I fear that if I don’t I will end up in the hospital.
I took off today because yesterday I left work in tears and curled up in bed for hours. I know some of the meds are making me this way but I am at my wits end. I wish I didn’t have to work with so many nasty people…
I’m at the end of my rope.
PS Dr. She, my sexlife is the only thing going well in my life! I have a wonderful loving man, Thank God!
Oh Dear, Carolann1. Life is too hard to do alone. Talk to friends, see a counselor, share on VN, as you are doing. If you don’t take care of yourself, I agree, you run risks. YOU are your first priority. Like a tree: If you aren’t well watered, your branches may wither. Get some help…Therapist, financial counselor, and friends, anti depressants, acupuncture, perhaps a local spiritual group: –Reach Out!! As you are doing here. However, good sex does keep you healthy. Can he help out even more. And congratulations on the good sex!!!
Excellent advice…also, even if you can’t take a large vacation like I did, take mini ones…local ones. I used to have what I called my retreat time. I have friends that have a home high on a hill in God’s country (Rimrock, Arizona) where the eagles fly free and the red rocks are stories of legends and make you feel good just to be around them. When my friends would go away, I would be in charge of watchng the dog, feeing the wild birds and keeping the wild havelinas out of the gardens — vegetable and flower. I would load up my car with books and notebooks, and sit high on the hill and rebalance myself. Cost: only the gas to get there. Return on Investment: Priceless.
Give it a try…check out your friends…you be surprised what you find.
AGREE, Wise one.