This definition is from the web (wordnetweb.princeton.edu) ”marked by or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest”. It continues by examples: “feeling sexy”; “sexy clothes”; “sexy poses”; “a sexy book”; “sexy jokes”.
Have I ever felt sexy? No. Have men found me sexy? Never asked but obviously something attracted them to me but then again, it could have been just to have sex. Am I okay with that? Absolutely.
Have I ever been aroused by a book or a movie (the kind at the back of the video store!)? Yes on both counts but then again, arousal can be judged to be purely physical. We can debate forever on what is, what is not, who is, who is not. Look at the women who overdo plastic surgery in the hope it will rekindle or attract a ‘newkindle’. Just to clarify, I am not against plastic surgery, it’s a personal choice & if it makes you feel better about yourself – go for it. However, we know that there are people who take it to the extreme & the reasons are not to feel better about themselves, it’s to make some else feel better about them.
Heidi Thoughts:
- Sexy has a lot more definitions than perky & perfect bodies.
- Some find power, money, etc. sexy. Others find confidence sexy.
- If you feel good about yourself, than men or women will sense that.
- Each of us needs to define our own sexy & work it.
Have to be honest though, there is nothing more sexy than a great pair of shoes.
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I think this is where I seem to do very well at, I believe in me, so I walk the walk. 6 feet tall, and size 20, boy cut hair, with pearly white teeth, check smile! Works for me. Nice post
Dr. Angelou knew what she was talking about when she wrote Phenomenal Woman:
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing of my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
The palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
from And Still I Rise by Maya Angelou
copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou
To HeidiG….I think you nailed it. When a young woman wants to look sexy, all she has to do is show some skin. A little cleavage, bare midriff, or a mini skirt, hopefully all not in the same outfit. We no longer have that option. Our sex appeal has to come from within. Confidence, knowing who you are, good posture and APPROPRIATE clothing. If you feel sexy, you can communicate that without being obvious. What a relief!
I agree! At 54, I feel the sexiest I’ve ever felt! That “glow” comes from experience, confidence, energy, just plain happiness about life in general! PS – I really don’t think the standard for the majority of men is Barbie-like – at least not from my experience!!
Reading your blog as just great, thanks P.S. I quote you! ha! ha! ha! soo good
When a young woman wants to look sexy, all she has to do is show some skin. A little cleavage, bare midriff, or a mini skirt, hopefully all not in the same outfit. We no longer have that option.
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Bull cookies! We can still bare our shoulders, cleavage, back… take a look at your avatar, is that you, Judy Steinberg?
Heidi, I love your post… I agree with the other women that it is all about your attitude. I think it goes even further than having confidence in how you look. It has to do with being comfortable in your own skin. And, that doesn’t always mean I like how I look it just means that I’m okay being myself. When I am with a man, I try always be my authentic self. I laugh when I feel like laughing, eat normal food, and say what I feel like saying (within reason, of course… hehe). I think men find that sexy at any age. At least, that’s what my three sons and male friends and boyfriends have said. They enjoy a female who likes to be a female and that means being true to who we are. It’s funny but I feel sexier now at 52 and a size 16 than I felt when I was 16 and a size 10. Experience… Attitude… Authenticity… that’s what it’s all about… well, and being able to laugh (even if it’s just at yourself sometimes).
I was appalled with the lead in , sexy is more than having a perfect body. So having a perfect body is just the starting place? I don’t think so. Because if it is that means than none of us are sexy because no one of us has a perfect body. Ask anyone who you think has a perfect body and they will set you straight.