Whatever we call it…..chivalry,gentlemen, manners, kindness…is it missing or is it dead?
Traveling home on my 4th plane of the week I began to wonder. In one of my trips there was a petite woman who seemed to be around 50. She was struggling to reach her carry on bag…as she reached to try and pull it you could see the bag was getting stuck on the edge of the bin. There was a large man standing right behind her…and another who was sitting in her same row. They watched as she tried to un-stick the bag…but neither made a move to assist.
I could not believe that someone could stand there and watch someone struggle and not lift a hand to help. In my day boys were raised to be gentlemen. They always walked on the street side when they walked with a woman. They carried their books or bags. They held open doors. They stood when a woman came to the table.
We fought and rightly so for our equality as women. But did that equality fight get interpreted to mean we don’t show common courtesy? The fact is we can’t change that our bodies and strengths are different. We make babies men don’t. We have lower body strength men have upper body strength. I too am a short woman…but I would step in to assist a man or woman older than me because I know they have limitations I do not have.
I want equal pay. I want laws that protect me from domestic violence. I want to have the choice to build a career or not. I want to have all the same opportunity as men.
But I also want to be feminine. I want my heels and dresses. I want to be treated like a lady. I want doors opened and my handheld as we cross the street. I want a man to reach the high things, lift the heavy things and make me always feel protected. I want to be all woman for my man and for him to be all man for me.
Ladies…what do you think…does our right to equality mean men should not be lifting our luggage? Are you feeling like chivalry is a lost? Does it matter? What’s your experience?