As Valentine’s Day approaches I noticed an article on CNN.com that had the results of a survey from reader’s Digest. The survey asked only 1 question- Would you marry your spouse again? Interesting. The Reader’s Digest poll surveyed people in 15 countries. A whopping 68% of the people polled said they would marry their spouses again. China had the highest percentage at 83%. The US came in at spot #12.
On average, men were more dissatisfied with their wives than women with their husbands. In Malaysia 48% of men said they would make different choices before saying “I do.” In the United States, Brazil, and Great Britain, respondents over age 45 are more likely than younger people to feel satisfied with their choices.
Since I’m currently in mid-spat with Doug I probably shouldn’t answer this question right now.
So the question is, without your spouse seeing your response right now-
Would you?
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So 1 for the “no”side.
Yes, but only if he got rid of his crappy friend. Gawd, I hate that jackass (not the spouse, the friend)
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Good luck with that.
no
So far, the no’s have it.
Yes and again, and again, and again….. You get the picture! We’ve been married over thirty years and still counting. Sure we’ve had our ups and downs, every relationship does, but I don’t think I could have picked anyone better. He always telling me he is the smartest one…..he got me, look what I got! He’s been a “keeper” for a long time!
You sound like a very lucky lady.
No, if I had known then what I know now….no way
Wow. Sometimes people don’t show their true selves for awhile do they?
Very much so… in fact we will be renewing our vows again this year.
llacy2001 –
This is so wonderful! It’s the dream I had for myself. I’m glad it came true for you. You’re very blessed.
As for me, well, it’s never too late, is it? I still have the dream; I just don’t have the new husband yet.
I’m sure yours is out there somewhere kiddo. Sit tight. I bet he’ll show up when you least expect him.
I am very blessed, thank you. After my first marriage I had no desire to trust a man again with any part of me. Men were great as friends but I told myself I wouldn’t let myself give ALL of me to them. Fortunately, God had other plans for me. My husband is my best friend, my lover, my dragon slayer, my soul mate, my cheerleader, my pain in the side (LOL), my biggest fan and my kick in the pants when I need it. He is my extraordinary Ordinary Man….now you might wonder why I love that he is an ordinary man…but for me that is a very HIGH compliment for him. My Ex was far from ordinary….the word bizarrely strange comes to mind.
My extraordinary Ordinary Man is my reward for surviving 31 years and surviving with at least one or two brain cells.
I like your comment.
Helen.
Good for you. You are blessed for sure.
Without hesitation. I have a man in my life that is not only my lover but my best friend. He understands my needs and desires and he is always there for me. He still holds my hand when we are out and always treats me like a woman. I am totally in love with him and have been for the last 25 years. He makes me so happy. Yes I would marry him again.
Samantha
Sounds so wonderful!! I’m very happy for you and it’s good to know it can happen. That’s the type of relationship I wanted when I got married.
Sounds like you’re another winner in the lottery of love. Congratulations.
Now the ratio is starting to normalize. I knew there had to be more happy campers out there.
sounds like johhny and me twenty six years ago. we were still holding hands after 51 loved being togathr. you and i were blessed
Yes Carol
That is exactly the way i feel. Blessed.
well all I can say is his first wife didn’t like him drunk and liked him even less sober. so the answer is yes I would marry him again but only at the mid life seasoned sober man he is today.
Thank goodness he finally found his way.
No to the first and no to the second! I’m no day at the beach but there are things you found out after you wed, and say what! But I am glad for the daughter my second help me with making, see not all bad!
Well I’m glad you got a loving daughter anyway.
After two children and going on 32 years of marriage to the same man, I say YES. I am no picnic in the park to live with, but he, too, has his “special days”. We respect that and we work well together. I am very blessed and even more so Lucky!
Aren’t those “special” days just great?
Absolutely, married for almost 33 years lots of ups & downs..we grew up together l I am 51 & He is 54 lots of times I thought we wern’t going to make it but we have so far… now we are tackling menopause & andropause…its not easy when your taking turns going through hot flashes & night sweats at the same time.. ya gotta have a bit of a sense of humor to cope sometimes …I used to wonder why men leave there wives after 30 years well now I know its cause we go a little crazy i am pretty fortunate to have someone so understanding …He says after this long its spite that keeps us together lol …So yes I would marry him again tomorrow….
I guess in your case then, spite is a good thing, congratulations. Whatever works for you two, you know.
Yes, I absolutely would remarry my first hyusband. And hopefully will again. We were married very young and really did not know how to openly communicate with each other. We split divorced and I married someone else who was an alcoholic. 6 months ago we found each other again but unfortunately he lives in UK now and has for past 7 yrs. Right now finances keep us apart. But in only phone communication and maturity both being well into our 50′s we have learned to be open and honest about our feelings. We have both continued to keep loving each other and it has been 30 yrs since we split. He is still the soft spoken, kind and sensitive man I fell in love with all those yrs ago. I just wish that we had realized it long before now.
So yes I would and I will again marry my former spouse (as soon as we get our finances straight and get him back into this country) Incidentally he never remarried.
That almost a fairytale story. I hope you’ll be able to get together again soon.
No, I would not marry him again. I was 22 when I got married and did it for the wrong reasons. I am thinking about a divorce after 30 years of marriage. I married him for sucurity, and to get away from an abusive father. although, at the time I thought I was madly in love! He is 10 years older than I am. I suppose looking back I was looking for a better father figure. How yucky! He has taken such good care of me and our children, but I don’t feel sexually attracted to him, never really did. I feel very guilty about this. He thinks I owe him now to stay with him. He is 63 and wants us to be together until the end. Years ago he wanted an open marriage. I always said no, until 5 years ago I met a great guy who I love being with. (lots of passion) Do I owe my husband to take care of him now? I am very confused and feeling very guilty!
I know that I’ll not be popular for saying this, but I’d probably leave. My mom always said that growing older sucks. I now see how difficult growing older can be and that’s with someone you truly love. Who knows? If you leave, he may find his true love too. Perhaps some other women will weigh in here with some good advice.
This was a stupid post I wrote. My husband read it and was very hurt. I didnt think it would show up on google. I thought it was just a place to vent with only vibrant nation members. Anyway I was pretty angry at him at the time. I am with him now and always will be. I love him.
In a heartbeat.
Consider yourself very lucky indeed.
WITHOUT A THOUGHT-YES..
MY HUSBAND HAD A VERY RUFF CHILDHOOD, LOST A BROTHER WHEN HE WAS 12 (HE FOUND HIM DEAD) A YEAR LATER HIS PARENTS DIVORCED AND HE WAS THE MIDDLE CHILD OUT OF FOUR BOYS. HIS MOM FELL INTO A VERY DEEP DEPRESSION AFTER HIS BROTHERS PASSING AND HAS NEVER BEEN QUITE THE SAME SINCE THEN..THERE WAS NO NURTURING GROWING UP..
CONSIDERING ALL HE HAD GONE THRU HE TURNED OUT TO BE A WONDERFUL LOVING MAN WIHOUT ISSUES..
I AM HIS WIFE, HIS BEST FRIEND, AND HIS MISTRESS..
WHEN I MARRIED HIM WE TOOK ON CARING FOR HIS MOTHER, WHO IS NOW IN A NURSING HOME. SHE NO LONGER KNOWS WHO WE ARE BUT WE VISIT HER DAILY AS SHE’S CLOSE TO OUR HOME.
HIS BROTHERS RAN AT THE THOUGHT OF CARING FOR HER BUT HIS HEART WAS IN THE RIGHT PLACE AND WE BOTH DID THE RIGHT THING AND I WILL NEVER REGRET DOING SO.
BEING ALL THESE WOMEN TO HIM HAS WORKED FOR US AS WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 15 YEARS AND HE IS 6 YEARS MY JUNIOR SO I GUESS I AM DOING SOMETHING RIGHT!
WOW!
Absolutely, without a doubt YES! And if I knew all those years past (45 of them), what I know now, those 45 years would have been spent building and loving, we’d had more children, we’d had more fun, we’d invest a little better, we’d made more friends, we would have worked a few less hours, we’d have spent less time fretting. It has been a wonderful journey. Sunday (Valentine’s Day) I will be telling him again that our hands and hearts are stronger because we’re together.
Isn’t it just amazing how very smart we are when we get older when instead so many of us think we’re so smart when we’re young?
lack of experience and knowing can be ultimate bliss
How very right you are.
WITH AGE COMES WISDOM..FIRST A GRAPE THEN A RARE CHAMPAGNE WITH AGE*..
Id rather be a rare champagne than a raisin. Thanks.
Wow, well said!! You are very lucky to have such a good marriage! Congratulations and have a wonderful Valentines Day!!!
Thank you. Hope your Valentine’s Day is super.
Although he is not my ‘spouse’ anymore but my ex, yes, I would remarry him. In an odd way I am gratefull to him for having made me who I am today. Independant, secure in my beliefs, his are different, and happy with the person I am. Of course there are the five children we had together. I still have a lot to discover about myself since I have been alone, but I figure being with him is a chapter in my life I would not want to erase. The book is still unfinished.
Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone. We all have love to give, it doesn’t have to be for a mate.
anir
I think it’s nice (and unusual) that even though you’re no longer together you still have no regrets and in fact, would remarry him.
Remarry him back then! Not today.
Cheers!
anir
Yes, I’d marry him again. We met when we were 15, he was my first “real” date at 16 and married at 20. He has always made me laugh and I really think that if you laugh together, you can’t help but love each other. Tonight, he brought me a bottle of local wine and bag of dark chocolate peanut M&M’s. How could you not love a man who stops in a snow storm to buy you something like that?
You’ve got a keeper for sure. Is wine good with M&M’s?
Anything’s good with wine!
You make a good point.
yes ohyes, we were maried 51 yrs and we were gong for anoher 50, when he died, i was alone on 52, (some of our children came to be with me and also the day he died)it was 15 mos. ago and hurts so much, am sooooooooooooo loney. but i would do it again. i told my grand son who married this sept. grandpa was not perfect, i was not and our marriage was not perfect, but our love was so strong it got us thru. anything our marriage grew stronger each year and we were happier each year, we could not be angry at each ,it made us too unhappy. go blessed us our children ae going for 50 too 3 have passed 25.
ky. carol, I feel your love and your sadness. I lost my husband a year and a half ago, so I know a little of how you feel. We only had 7 years together. How precious your 51 years must have been.
- Joan
I am so sorry for your loss Carol. I thank God I’ve not experienced that myself. You must feel blessed though that you had such a long, wonderful marriage. Most people can only dream of that.
In a flash, I would marry him. I couldn’t have a better partner, honestly.
We’ve had our ups and downs of course but I could never find someone else to bolster me up the way he does. No matter what, I always know he has my back.
That’s such a huge thing in a marriage that sadly, a lot of women never get.
no.
I am confused Miss Lynette- not that that’s anything new. No…. to what?
no, i will not marry him again.
Gotcha. Sorry. I’d forgotten the question, senior moment you know. Thanks for the clarification.
No.. He gets meaner as his ego gets bigger ..