Recent research from Cornell University suggests that internet profiles are often inaccurate when it comes to online dating sites. The fact of the matter is men and women lie about personal information in their online profiles, including height, weight, age, but also income, politics, education, and smoking tobacco.
In a poll conducted by Cornell University, they found female online daters were most likely to lie about their weight (59%), followed by height (42%), and age (13%). Male internet dating profiles were most inaccurate about height (61%), followed by weight (55%), and age (24%).
So what do you think? Is it OK to lie on your profile? I will admit that I did not reveal the fact that I had a child on my profile. It was only when we were actually engaged n conversation that I let it be known and their reaction told me if I wanted to continue to get to know them.
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No it’s not okay to lie on the profile. But people do it. Maybe that’s why you’re suppose to submit pictures. But then again, who will vouch for the fact that the picture is the real you. Oh, the games people play. And the entire time those who lie or present a false front will soon have a reckoning day . . . what’s with that? (stupid) But there’s another problem. The dating sites that do the personality profile so they can perfectly match up personality types and basic standards and beliefs is very deceiving. The biggest reason is that most people cannot accurately answer these type questionnares. And the questionnaires aren’t sophisticated enough to have a lie scale built in. I know a woman who did the personality type sites and kept getting hooked up with guys that she had no interest in. I asked her how she answered some of the questions. I knew this woman well and her answers were not in anyway close to the way I saw her. She basically did not know herself. I didn’t find this so unusual.
It’s really a lot tougher to ‘live’ the lie than to tell it. It’s hard work and as we all know — we sometimes can’t remember which lie we told and to whom. Soo, there would have to be some agreement between the telling and the being. Good luck to all.
P.S. If we have to lie — can he really be Mr. Right? It sort of suggests we don’t trust the person to know the truth – not strong or well enough? Something to mull.
I’m on a dating website and I lie about my age. I’m 66 and my profile says I’m 60. I have mixed emotions about this, because I’m not a person who lies, but I’m exceptionally healthy, energetic and am often mistake for 50. I don’t want to be contacted only by guys who are 70+, which are not a good match for me. The pictues I put up are all current and no one has ever questioned my age, and age is the only thing I’ve lied about. I’m dating a man now who is 9 years younger. After we got to know each other a bit, I told him I was older than I’d said, and his response was, “I don’t really care or need to know your age.”
This is my rationalization for why it’s OK: The dating site forces you to give your age. But if I met any one of these men at a party or a bar, and we got into a conversation where we found mutual interests, I wouldn’t suddenly say, “By the way, I’m 66.” Nor would the man ask my age. So why must I provide that information to the people on the site who, at that point, are judging me on very superficial information? Bottom line is you have to meet the people no matter what the profile says to see if there’s really any chemistry between you or if you click. If things seem to be working, then you can correct any mis-statements.
I have met many men who lied about their weight and height. Those lies are immediately recognizable when you meet, while age is not, so it seems a little silly to do it. I’ve had some fun dates with men who described themselves as “athletic and toned,” who in reality were 30 pounds overweight, but I didn’t feel any physical attraction, and at our age, excess weight in a person is a serious health consideration as well as an aesthetic one.
I think IF I’d lied about my age on the dating website where I met my boyfriend, he wouldn’t have cared either! I’m 9 and a half years older than him as well. I haven’t ever been able to see myself with or be comfortable with men my age since I was divorced lo those many years ago. The men who are truly youthful and take care of themselves physically and mentally who are older than us are RARE! Reagrding the height and weight; well, my boyfriend is 5’9″ and 145 so i have no worries. However, I’ve gained 25 lbs. since my period stopped and it’s starting to get to me.