Don’t do this…
Not being in places where you can be seen and found by available men on a DAILY BASIS!
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Men can’t find you if you hide every night at home snuggled up with your beloved cat or dog, reading your book or watching one of your favorite TV shows like “Dancing with the Stars” or “Glee.” You need exposure to men, whether in person or online. If you’re afraid to put yourself out there, no one is going to know you’re even available.
Start going out at night and on the weekends. Consider taking classes one or two nights a week where you think men might be that have similar interests to you. Try Bridge lessons or golf lessons. Men love practicing their golf swing year round and can easily be found at both indoor and outdoor driving ranges.
Even the library has single men coming in to check out books, tapes and movies. Make a list of every place you think a man might be. I think you’ll notice available men are everywhere. You just have to get yourself out in public areas so you have a chance of meeting a great one!
Have vision that is too narrow when it comes to the kind of men you are willing to date.
Ask most women what they want in a man and a type similar to Richard Gere’s character in “Pretty Woman” comes to mind. He’s rich, sassy and has a heart. We’ve been fed on stories like these most of our lives whether they came from the movies or from the fairytales we read as little girls. And it’s jaded us to who a great guy might be- giving us unrealistic expectations of who “Quality Men” really are.
Stay open to dating all kinds of men with all kinds of looks, backgrounds, and interests as long as they are economically self sufficient-meaning they can hold their own and won’t be financially dependent on you. Yes, it would be nice to have a handsome and rich man sweep us off our feet but most of the guys who look like this are usually “The Charmers” who literally have the pick of the litter when it comes to dating women.
It’s important to be attracted to a man. Sometimes it takes a little time. The guy who was only ok when we first met him can actually grow on us and become quite cute as we get to know him better.
Give up on dating after a bad date!
There is no doubt about it, without the right skill set and support in place, dating can be hard. It’s so easy to get bogged down by all the profiles you see online. And, having friends with no one to fix you up with can be so disheartening and frustrating that you just give up on dating.
Do this instead…
Dating has a learning curve just like every new endeavor does. Dating requires learning a whole new set of skills that I share with you in these blogs and in my coaching programs. The more experience you get with dating, the more you will know about the type of man you really want in your life. So when a date goes bad, chalk it up as being one more man closer to the real man you are looking for.
Until next time-