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Whose power? Our own or the power of another person or group of people?
Power of what? Power in the wrong hands? Power that ignorant people have over one another? Power that great people (according to me) have over one another. Power of my detergent? Or, and this is real important to me, the power of someone who is responsible for giving me my next raise? I’m really afraid of that one.
Sorry fayetteSIPP. I love ya. Just don’t know what you want so had to make it up. I’m not afraid of power. Only how it’s used and the level of responsibility of the person who is powerful and how it directly affects me.
Great comments , I actually had a guideline to power but it dropped off the Post (LOL) someone around here has POWER…I will give it in a Response.
Perhaps we are afraid of power because with power comes responsibility AND accountability. In our culture, making a mistake is tantamount to having a moral failure. Just look at all the crap people get for a gesture or a slip of the tongue. Look at all the frivolous law suits. Who wants to deal with all that? lol
I dont know who “we” is in this question. Is “we” a reference to woman-kind?
Sorry, thats a generalization I can’t accept. Some women are afraid of power; some men are afraid of power.
I am not afraid of power. I wield it. I use it. ANd when appropriate and not in violation of my personal integrity, I succumb to it
But the latter occurs damn rarely.
Power,
We hear terms “fight the power”. “The powers that be”. Power to the people
Most of the time power is thought of as a rule over, a way to intimidate,
Control and “bully”…as women we usually don’t go around thinking about our “power”. Men thrive on power all kinds of power,
I once did a post on the Power of Women got little response because I explain what a group of women did to turn a little country around from violence, Of course there was a few Vibrant women who understood what power I was talking about. The power to persuade for the good of mankind is one good use of power.
I once saw a young neighbor’s grandson walking the street, when he should have been in school, his mother was “away” and his grandmother was sickly. I asked “What are you doing out of school? He answered I was expelled” I was shocked, this child was only eight years old…how could this be? So I had him to get in my car and drove him back to school, the teacher said he was hard to discipline…”So we expelled him.” Now here is how I used my “power” This child is too young to be placed on the streets , who is going to be responsible for him in the event he gets injured, molested, or abused , when he should have been in school ?
“Who are you?” are you a relative, “No” I answered, I am a “concerned neighbor” and I would not allow any child of this age to roam the streets alone. To make a long story short he was accepted back in school. My power was to let them know I would not be quite and go away without the issue being solved.
Some of tools are:
Controlling the senses and mastering the mind
Humility
Truthfulness
Compassion
Passion to learn and grow
Wise use of time, Love is the greatest weapon,the greatest enemy are lust and greed .If we are true loving beings the our love will give us the power to extinguish hostility ,we will vibrate with such intense energy, if we are empowered with the ability for others to join, understand, or go on their way.
Power,
We hear terms “fight the power”. “The powers that be”. Power to the people
Most of the time power is thought of as a rule over, a way to intimidate,
Control and “bully”…as women we usually don’t go around thinking about our “power”. Men thrive on power all kinds of power,
I once did a post on the Power of Women got little response because I explain what a group of women did to turn a little country around from violence, Of course there was a few Vibrant women who understood what power I was talking about. The power to persuade for the good of mankind is one good use of power.
I once saw a young neighbor’s grandson walking the street, when he should have been in school, his mother was “away” and his grandmother was sickly. I asked “What are you doing out of school? He answered I was expelled” I was shocked, this child was only eight years old…how could this be? So I had him to get in my car and drove him back to school, the teacher said he was hard to discipline…”So we expelled him.” Now here is how I used my “power” This child is too young to be placed on the streets , who is going to be responsible for him in the event he gets injured, molested, or abused , when he should have been in school ?
“Who are you?” are you a relative, “No” I answered, I am a “concerned neighbor” and I would not allow any child of this age to roam the streets alone. To make a long story short he was accepted back in school. My power was to let them know I would not be quite and go away without the issue being solved.
Some of tools are:
Controlling the senses and mastering the mind
Humility
Truthfulness
Compassion
Passion to learn and grow
Wise use of time, Love is the greatest weapon,the greatest enemy are lust and greed .If we are true loving beings the our love will give us the power to extinguish hostility ,we will vibrate with such intense energy, if we are empowered with the ability for others to join, understand, or go on their way.
Now it shows up twice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THE TRUE POWER IS LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!! LEARNING HOW TO USE IT, AND SHARE IT.
i think some people or should i say some women, are afraid of power because from a very early age they had to follow somebody else who they thought had the power being a mother, father, older brother, husband, boss, etc. The fear can be from being told to be submissive from a very early age, “follow the leader and no lip”. But then there are other women that have been taught all the opposite. I fall in the latter. My mother from a very early age told me study, but don’t be just book smart, be street smart as well. Learn as much as you can from others, from the street bum to the high level executive, do a good job, have good attendance because you may miss something if you don’t, get promoted and then when you are in a position of teaching others, then you have the power, you are in control, you are the leader, people look up to you for advice, etc. Be fair and do not forget your background or beginnings. Be humble, respectful and be grateful. Once you do the right thing, you will not be afraid of power because you have earned it.
Of course i get pissed off sometimes and all of those teachings go somewhere else, but just for a short while.
) This world is very hard to some people more than others, so you have to take a stand and even if you are afraid of power at a specific time, never let it show because some people will take it for weakness and that is not a good thing.
This is a good “take” on “power”. I was an elected official for 12 years in a municipality, 6 on the council, 6 as mayor. Choose not to run again, although I know I could have won, because my dad and husband died during my last term and decided to more closer to my mom. I had one prayer (other than asking for wisdom when making decisions), it was Lord, don’t let me cry publically because it might be for joy or even frustration, but the men on my council and in the audience would take it as weakness. He answered that prayer. I did not cry, although I had many “trying meetings”, until the night I handed over the gavel to the newly elected mayor (by the way, I hand picked my predecessor) and the police dept., historical society presented me with flowers, the town presented me with a placque, and the girls in the office had a special luncheon for me. Then I cried.
I like this Lynnette, I grew up with a “power” to “teach” people how to treat me, by how I treated them and How I treated myself, never letting anyone “make me” feel less and I would not treat them as if I were more, but equal (if they did not expect me to fall into their mind stream) I was one of two( the 2nd person kept his belief a secret) in a school of over 2,0000 that went to an integrated church, kept Jewish Holy days, and lived in an all Black community…and nobody teased me or made me feel different and the reason was because I was “proud ‘ of my belief , my family , my school and my church …I found if I was concerned about being truthful …so my word was my power, when I lost my purse at 15 yrs; old my $10.00 and my glasses….before I got home that evening , a teacher of mine and her sister gave me the money to cover my glasses and my money. Why?….because they knew I was telling the truth and they had faith in me .I yes I never forget my back ground as I travel to my FRONT ground.
There is a wonderful quote from Marianne Williamson about fearing our own power. She seems to have a spiritual handle on power.
God bless, J
Spiritalk , i don’t think you can get any “spiritual” than LOVE that is he greatest power of all
Amen to that.
God bless, J
Power….in the dictionary it has many different definitions, and when I think about all of them, I have no fear, only frustration.
Those who think they have power are corrupted by it, but that kind of "power" isn’t what it seems, it is a delusion and most of them are frankly delusional. They can make life miserable for a great many people, if those people allow it. I’ve never allowed anyone that sort of power over me, I simply ignore most of what they do, and life goes on much as it has my entire life. The only power that concerns me is the power I have over myself, the power to be myself, to be free and to take the responsibility for that freedom. Frustration comes in when someone thinks they have power over me and I then have to spend my time to assure them that they do not and never will. Acknowledge the power you have over yourself, give it up only to your Maker and you need never fear the delusions of grandeur that others apparently have.