Today’s Featured Comment
Barbara Elaine Singer- “Life Reinventor Coach”
How fast or how slow someone recovers from a tragedy is not about a magic pill, but how fast they start telling a different story. Look at what RedHeart, 4 years and struggling, wrote:
“I start and end every day thinking about my ex; I am doing everything to try to “move on,” but I feel there is a limit to how much I will be able to heal the wound.”
She repeats her story of hurt, tragedy and being wronged every morning and every night. Re-hashing all the painful details, charged with emotion. This just recreates a prison in the mind- a circle that she walks around and around in. Your thoughts become your words which becomes your life. STOP TELLING THIS OLD BROKEN STORY ! It is cementing it in your memory when you want it out of your mind. This is not who you are today, it is what happened to you in the past. By not telling that old story, you are not pretending that is did not happen and that how you were treated wasn’t horrible, but it serves no purpose now other can keeping you trapped. Today is a new day. TELL A NEW STORY!
The hypnotist’s words were exactly that! I changed “will to I am” because it is present tense and more powerful, but same idea.
1. I am letting go of my sorrow and pain.
2. I am moving forward and live each day with joy and happiness.
3. I am releasing all negative thoughts about my husband.
Every time you catch yourself repeating the OLD story, immediately switch over and repeat these three statements or other “I am” statements and add 2 or 3 of your own. Write them down and keep them in your purse until you can rattle them off my memory.( I would drop #3, because your x is not in your life and doesn’t need to be in your daily mind.)
I like these positive “self talk” statements:
Everyday, in every way, I am getting stronger and stronger.
I am happy, healthy and whole.
I am rich, well and happy.
I see love and beauty everywhere I look.
I love my new life where I get to make all the choices.I am attracted to happy fun people and make friends easily.
I am beautiful and have lots of offer.
I am completely free from the past and joyfully look forward.
I am open and eager to see what comes next.
Tell this story every morning and every night and see how much better you will feel! And when you have an impulse to do something, DO IT! Watch for new opportunities because they will pop up out of no where. Author and speaker , Louise Hay has an amazing DVD and book, called “You Can Heal Your Life” thats talks more about this. She is in 80s now and going strong and says life just keeps getting better and better and this decade is her best….and because she believes it, it is!!
[This comment was originally posted in this conversation. ~ Eds.]
I'm not going to have an affair. I'm getting divorced. I wouldn't have an affair. I feel guilty talking.
Roadrunner - absolutely nothing drastic about it. When you first get the botox (forehead and eyes) you will see a change that will level off in a few days or one week. It looks completely natural. You CANNOT frown no matter how hard you try! Be very 
I disagree. I HAVE a new story, but it is the old one that is still painful. I don’t dwell on it, or talk about it, but it was real and the pain is real.
“I will let go of IT, when IT lets go of ME.”
The story is about you. The story is only about you. The story can only be dissected by you and for you. There is no one else in the story, it is YOUR story as told to YOU by you. Glean from the experience all that you can about you. Determine what drew you to those circumstances, how old is that pattern, how likely are you/we to repeat the experience because we did not extract essences from it. My story does not have me, I do have a story and I can tell you what I learned about me from those patterns. Now that is an exercise i heartily recommend. It is a vaccination against more of the same old same old. Anything else is like picking a scab over and over and over and then healing takes forever.