Do you ever feel like just running away? Packing up and leaving all your worries behind.
Somedays, like today. I feel overwhelmed and just wish I could move away, far away. I am so weary of the money woes, drama with my children, looking for work, losing my home. You know the normal daily worries. NOT…
Hmmm, would my troubles be gone? What would it be like to start brand new?
Have you ever thought this too?
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thank you so much Lisa, that helps a lot. I know he tried to blame me for so much stuff, but like I told all of his family and mine none of that added up to a divorce. I do realize it's his needs, it just hurts so bad to think how many years he's
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You mean like when you are standing out on the front lawn, gazing off into the distance, thinking to yourself “Now’s your chance!…RUN!!!” Yes. Yes. Yes. The only problem with running away is that wherever you go, there you are. If you are miserable here, you’ll be even be more miserable there. It is OK to take a new job or move to a new location, but not unless you are in a good space.
Can you talk to someone? Write this stuff out in a journal? Apply the serenity prayer? Can you get away for a day or two for a retreat or to visit with an old friend? What do you need to do to bring yourself back to a good space?
yes i have… and i should be able to do it since i do not have any small children, but don’t, so that is another question, why don’t i?
The reason you don’t is because sometimes it all gets so overwhelming that you are literally frozen into place, not able to move, not able to think, not able to decide what to make for dinner … you are quite literally unable to do anything. The VN sisters are right – when you run away you are still there and that is where the problem is that needs to be addressed, not with the money, the kids, the house, the job or anything else. These are just situations. It is how you decide to handle them (or not). Take one small step at a time. Don’t try to tackle a mountain, start with a small mound. Often a small success is the foundation on which we stand to take on a bigger challenge. I fled from PA to upstate New York and after the honeymoon period was over (just me and a cat), I had to learn to live with myself and that’s when it all came tumbling down. It has taken me years to get to a place where I can live each day as it comes and the only pressing questions I ask myself are ” Am I happy today? Am I content today? Am I at peace today?” If the answer to any of these is no, I find out why and try to set it right. Everything else is icing on the cake.
Hang in there. We’re here if you need us.
That was my first thought too….I was in the car the other day and said to myself, why I could keep on driving until I get to my son’s house in Charleston SC (14 hr. drive)….didn’t do it…probably because I want to keep my job….
Sorry to hear about your misfortune. I’m in a rough financial spot too, but unless I win Lotto (which I don’t play) I won’t be able to run away.
Instead, I like to fantasize about a future time when I know things will be better.
First of all…I don’t run…that would make things I don’t want to jiggle jiggle.
When I want to get out from under I go visit my friends ranch. Yes, there are still a few here very close to Los Angeles. As a matter of fact I just signed up for 4 weeks of horse camp. Do I ride? No. Again it’s the jiggle thing. The camp is about watching how horses relate to each other. They teach you about boundaries. They teach about not holding grudges.
I’ve gone to this before and it’s an amazing experience doing this with a pack of other worn out women. The best part is that it’s incredibly affordable, only $120 for 4 weeks. My friend says, it’s not about the money, it’s about sharing the experience.
Can’t wait to put my boots on!
Birdlover, close your eyes, imagine exactly what you want, ask the universe for it, and start planning how you will achieve it. Make yourself a map.
Thanks jb will do… My eyes are closed now…A tall handsome man is approaching with a rocks margarita, and a million bucks in his hand. Heck, with the guy, just give me the money to pay off my bills and take a trip to Costa Rica to do the zip line… and away I go….Don’t laugh I am not kidding…Ha ha…
Can you send me the link to this place? It sounds great!
A friend of mine in the west end listed a condo for sale almost across the street from me. She had called to ask my opinion and input and ask if I could take some photos for her. So I walked across to see it.
It’s so small there is only room in there for a sofa in the living room, and a bed in the bedroom. Bar chairs at the kitchen counter. Lovely hardwood floors. That was it. And a small balcony.
and the first thing I thought was omg I could move across the street and only own two things. A sofa and a bed. Both of which I would order and have delivered. I could run away and truly live with just two things.
It all just looked so uncluttered and serene. Then I came home and felt my own one bedroom apartment was like an absolutely palace. perspective is everything.
I think the better question might be, “Who Has NEVER Thought of Running Away?”
I am right behind you with all the same sort of ‘stuff’ to deal with. Can’t believe I’m in this position and have been here for so long.
Let’s stick together and keep this support for one another going forever!
Thank you all for your comments. While I strive to be PRESENT IN THE MOMENT sometimes things just get overwhelming. Sometimes I feel like I just don’t matter. I guess we all have our low moments.
Running away is an escape. Knowing we can’t run away from our problems but face them head on.
Flowerbear your comments: I ask myself are ” Am I happy today? Am I content today? Am I at peace today?” If the answer to any of these is no, I find out why and try to set it right. I think I need to ask myself this daily…
Today is a new day! Time to shake off that funk, and turn it around… I have much to be grateful for. I love my VN friends!
Thank you for your support and helpful words.
Dear Sweet Birdlover: Of course we can all relate to what you are feeling. It happens when you feel you’ve lost control of your current world. All of your problems are externally created and driven. Right? I know that you don’t really believe that. When I start feeling like I’d like to run . . . I remember that this will pass and vow to stop creating situations that make me unhappy. If I ran to somewhere to start over, I’d just create the same situation and still have to figure out how to straighten it out. I’d have to pay attention to “how I got there”, so I could take a different path. I love that saying “When God takes something from your grasp, He’s not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better.” Hang in there darlin’! Here’s a hug ( ). -Dyna
Hi dynamomma…
A loving mother to us all here on VN. Again you come through with your profound words of wisdom. Yes, my chant for today is:
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me…
Hope you are doing well…
Hugs back at you
Yes, yes, yes. I want to be able to run and dance again. Run away from the illness that now has trapped me into near immobility. Dance into the light of the dreams that I honestly thought I still had time to enact. Run away from the town where I have lived for the past 4 years, yet still feel like an alien. Dance again in the stillest part of the star-flecked night, on that mountain that I once climbed. Run after my pupppies, dance with my dear husband.
Any one of these, just once more.
I am so sorry to hear of your illness. I imagine yes, you would like to run away from it. You have created a beautiful picture. Hold it near and God willing, it will come true.
Prayers to you my friend.
Take care.
You are so kind. What I have now are memories and the budding connections to new friends like yourself and the lovely women here who dream out loud and thus create a commuity of collected/collective experiences that diminish isolation and bring joy to share.
When I need to get away from it all, I go for a walk & think of a beautiful beach, the waves hitting the shore line & me walking in the sunshine along that shore. Maybe one day i’ll own a house by that shore & not have to dream about it. But it gets me through the rough times in my life so I keep walking & dreaming to get away!
Sounds beautiful! I think we need to all have visual inspirations and dreams like this.
Be well.
Thanks you too.
Yes, I had a job I hated, things were not good with my husband and I day dreamed of it. It was hard to take the exit to work especially when the gas tank was full. I thought in 5 hours I could be on the beach. I think most women have had these thoughts.
I have this same thought periodically. I have two married daughters and five grandchildren who I adore. They are the ones I would miss. However, I think I might even get over that because sometimes I allow myself to give them more time than I really want to. Basically I want to be alone more and more to enjoy my interests and be with my husband and I feel entitled to that–like I have paid my dues raising my family. It is my time now and no one is allowing me that time. I am supposed to feel good that I am still needed so much? Bah, humbug. Yes I think a lot of my old troubles would be gone. Of course I would still be living with my own quirks, it’s true, but not dealing with so may others. Just me and a cat for awhile at least. Somewhere on the water ……. I could go on and on and on…… Than I wake up and realize how lucky I really am and how blessed I am. Hang in there.
Gypsy Lee