I just read a fabulous post titled “I Will Try Again Tomorrow,” by ebrownn, another Vibrant Nation blogger. She’s a published author who has recently been living in her car. Her observations in the blog post are downright transformational. Read it and you will understand.
A little earlier today, I got a boatload of bad news via phone, Facebook and email about friends dying, dogs dying and very sick babies. I knew that if I was going to get any work done, I would need a spiritual lift, so I went to my bookshelf and found “Faith in the Valley” by Iyanla Vanzant (pictured here). I opened it to page 240 which is titled, “Oh, Lord! Why me?!!” And of course, it was the perfect message for this moment. After I read the page twice, I set the book down and opened my email box, vowing to find some good news. What I found was a message from Vibrant Nation about ebrownn’s blog post. Her smiling picture reminded me of Iyanla, so I opened it. Wow, it was the same kind of powerful message about exiting a personal pity party. And for both ebrownn and myself, and probably Iyanla too, the pity party exit door – and the answer to the “oh Lord, why me?” question - is all about writing, communicating and accepting pain as part of growth.
Here’s an excerpt from this wonderful page by Iyanla about transformation: “If life is going to work in your behalf, you must give yourself permission to grow. If it no longer makes you happy; if you are searching unsuccessfully for ways to make it work; if you know in your heart of hearts that whatever it is, it’s over – let go and grow. Be willing to search for new ways to grow. Be open to new environments to grow in. Always be on the lookout for people who are growing and are willing to help you grow. Never feel bad about your growth. Some people will not support you. Others will try to make you feel bad. You might be afraid…If you need a little taste of the pain you will create when you do not allow yourself to grow, stick your feet in the shoes you wore to the high school prom.”
Losing a loved one or helping a friend who is dealing with illness, poverty or grief is hard, but it’s also a way to grow. Thank you for that reminder, ebrownn and Iyanla!