This weekend I’m scheduled to attend a blogger event in Orange County — about 75 miles from where I live. It’s taking place on Sunday evening and part of me wants to attend and another part of me wants to stay home, curl up with a good book and enjoy my favorite television shows. The first-time blogger event is by invitation only, and I feel good about being recognized and included. It could be a great way to meet other bloggers.
On the other hand, I have a very busy weekend ahead and I really don’t want to make the long drive. Yet, I still keep going back and forth. So what’s my problem? I’m suffering from Fear of Missing Out, otherwise known as FOMO. I first read about it in the New York Times last April.
Basically, it’s the old ‘grass is greener’ concept, but FOMO sounds way more cool.
FOMO affects everybody at one time or another. However, the advent of social media — where we’re connected 24/7 – has more of us are experiencing the fear that something else could be more interesting, exciting, amusing or just plain better than what we are doing right now. And, if we participate, then we’ll surely regret it later. As a result, many of us (count me in…because god knows I don’t want to be left out of the loop) are cramming more and more commitments into our work and personal schedules, because we can’t stand the thought of missing out.
FOMO also brings chronic indecision, making it difficult to live in the present. I see this in myself as I’m constantly trying to hedge my bet about future events, and then regretting what has happened in the past.
To me, it sounds like a circular problem with no good solution — and it probably is.
So while I don’t have the answers to controlling FOMO, I do know that for this weekend, I’ve made a decision. I’ll not be attending the Blogging event. That’s right, my FOOE (Fear Of Over Exposure) trumps FOMO every time.