I was raised as a Methodist although I don’t attend church anymore. I am spiritual and not religious. Just last night I posted a news story on my Facebook page from Yahoo news about the Pope and the molestations in the Catholic church. It seems my opinions upset my brother-in-law who is easliy insulted/offended. He was personally insulted by my opinions. Why? It was just an opinion! I don’t see what the big deal is. Now he defriended me in facebook and wherever I go he won’t be there. He’s done this before with my family and his own.. I just don’t get it.. So what if I said “Shame on the Pope and the Catholic Church about the molestations” etc. .. Is this a reason for him to so horribly personally offended? This will make our lives difficult at family functions on the holidays. I mean he won’t stay in the same room as me, let alone my parents house. I’m disowned. My sister is very upset by this, she’s hoppin mad at me. I’m not sure if it’s for her husband’s sake or her own. Anyway he demands that I ask for forgiveness in the Catholic church!! Isn’t that ridiculous?
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March 21, 2010
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I don’t know anything about your brother-in-law other than what you just posted, however, it sounds as if you have threatened his personal sense of stability. Many people will attack anyone or anything that dares to expose discrepancies in what their established set of standards have set as “law”. It also sounds as if your brother-in-law has successfully used this behavior before to control both your sister and, by extension, you. His demand that you ask for forgiveness in a church to which you don’t belong is merely a self-righteous attempt to justify his actions.
You’re reading my thoughts and printing them, thanks! I also have pointed out something for information sake, and people have got turned around, that’s their problem! Do not let him control thoughts and conversation. …PASSSIVE AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR…Your sister will have to deal with him, and she is concern about just calm and quiet living with him for herself, she knows his way!….TRACK
Sounds like a personal problem, (of his)….and your sister is just mad because you upset the apple cart(for her)….just MY opinion…=]
Families are easily upset at the best of times. But this particular incident has nothing to do with the Catholic church but more to do with your BIN looking for an excuse. He can now ditch the in law events with impunity. Isn’t it nice to find a scape goat? (sarcastic)
It does not look good, nor very mature on his part. If he has a problem with the events, it would be much better to stand up and be a man to his problems, rather than try to pin it on others.
This is more about relationships in the family than anything you may have written out the church. The church is certainly big enough to withstand scandal, it has been doing it for years.
An open discussion on religion is not yet possible. No subject (except perhaps sex) raises such ire on the internet as the church.
…..and politics…=]
Of yes, I forgot that one. My mother used to say that in polite society there are 3 things not to discuss – sex, religion, politics – in no particular order – they are all hot potatoe topics. LOL
God bless, J
I was raised Catholic in the 50s — Catholic schools, the whole deal. To really believe what they teach is to brook no discussion, let alone disagreement. It is the one true church, the pope is infallible, and as a Catholic you must believe all that they teach or risk burning in everlasting hell fire. To understand your BIL’s reaction, you would have to understand his belief system, and it is pretty bizarre. But to him, it is absolute — and he’s entitled to it. The fact that he doesn’t allow you to have your beliefs is over the top.
Religious extremism is religious extremism. I equate the habits that nuns wore with burkas. I think that the celibacy laws that are imposed on priests and nuns are appealing to people with sexual issues and who want access to children and a safe place to practice what would never be acceptable in wider society. But those are my beliefs. I place them here with trepidation and a profound hope that they don’t hurt anyone’s feelings. Religion is so deeply personal that all any of us can do is allow others to go their own way in peace.
There’s another post on VN that links interestingly to this one: http://www.vibrantnation.com/conversations/76103-if-the-church-were-christian/
People of any given denomination of religious affiliation or of no religious affiliation are basically comfortable with their own opinion, their limitations. Unfortunately, these people are not willing to exit their comfort zones. Therefore, once someone actually penetrates the comfort level, that person such as yourself feels the impact of the struggle to maintain the same appreciation. Someone else may come along and basically say the same expression that you have, and because the statement is no longer new it will have a different impact on the same individual. Actually see yourself as getting to the heart of the matter with this person. He is actually thinking about your statement. I am not sure of what you stated to your brother-in-law; however, if may have opened his eyes. On the other hand, there are people who will begin to associate the behavior you exhibited with some reference of the respective doctrin the religion is based on. Whichever the case, it is said in my religious denomination — Free Will Baptist, Leave it at the alter. What that means, is, in a case such as what you have described here: The situation is bigger than you, turn it over to your God. Enjoy! Thank you for the post.
Helen
3-30-10
Thanks for your views on the subject ladies! I was pretty harsh saying ‘Shame on the Pope and the Catholic church for allowing this (molestations) to happen time and time again without the law stepping in. etc. I guess mentioning the Pope was what did it. I have even MORE views on the Shroud of Turin.. I wonder what would happen if I said my observations and opinions on THAT subject?! LOL I have NO idea why people are so forgiving of any child molester, they do keep repeating the crime after all. All child molesters should be imprisoned for life! No exceptions because they can’t seem to control their compulsions.
Put your thoughts out there. It is always interesting to [hear or] read the response threads to respective topic post. Thank you for your post.