Today’s Featured Comment
Hi Deb,
I just read your 90 Day Negativity Challenge paper and admire your courage and tenacity in taking up this daunting task.
I have been struggling and searching for answers to the “what’s it all about” question for several years. When I was working I immersed myself in my career and family which left little time to ponder the emotional state of my soul or if I even had a soul. I might add that I was raised as a Catholic, but am a confirmed atheist and completely zone out when confronted with traditional religion/God as the answer.
I did however, find your story enlightening and it kept me reading. Knowing you can change your thoughts and apply that process to unburden yourself does work. I have done this in the past. I think consistently living the changes in spirit that come about, is the tricky part, and often gets sabotaged by our old nemesis Negativity and Doubt. I hate how this stymies my creativity and distracts me.
I think it was Jan Arden, singer/songwriter who said ‘don’t believe everything you think’ a little piece of wisdom I try to remember. Thanks for taking the time to write and share your journey. Your commitment and insight to spiritual living has renewed my commitment to myself to do better and try harder.
Linda
[This comment was originally posted in this conversation. ~ Eds.]
|
to wiser now:
you have come to the right place! everyone is giving you great advice. you are strong, you will make it. so all i am going to say is to contact this person. she helped me so much when i left him one year ago, after a lifetime togethe
I wish everyone thought like you!
Remember the movie "Eat,Pray ,Love" with Julia Roberts and a scene where her friend Sophie said she couldn't eat too much pizza because she gained too much weight and had a muffin top.Julia Roberts or Liz said a man didn't really care because h
Rose:
Where are the friends of YOU and YOUR Husband before he passed? Those are the ones to keep in your life. All these "other" people who are popping up now are not friends as you can see.
I agree with the comment about finding a financia
Thank you for your kindness. It’s a process and one I’m still involved with. It was really a reckless whim and it helped to post here. NanaCatharine and Old Blonde especially took my under their wing and shepherded me along the way. I am happy to say that NanaCatharine is a dear friend. She’s the one who told me that she thought that I was doing deep spiritual work, taking a fearless moral inventory. She was right and that inner work is important and ongoing. What you put in your mind comes out in your life.
I agree with Lindaloo. Your journey has inspired me too and all these months later, I am still trying to keep the negativity off my life. It’s not always easy, but it is definitely rewarding. Thank you!
I really appreciated reading this first thing this morning because, frankly I needed the reminder. Negativity is so prevelent that it’s easy to slide into its slip stream. It takes effort to be aware of your thoughts and to take responsibilty for them. The greatest freedom we have is the freedom to change our attitude.
One more thing, ’cause I missed the window for editing, thank you for “Thanks for taking the time to write and share your journey. Your commitment and insight to spiritual living has renewed my commitment to myself to do better and try harder.” What a really lovely thing to read.
I too decided to end the negativity in my life. I ended a life time (50+ years), on and off friendship because of the excuses and pursuit of this person trying to always make me as miserable as her. She has had a lot of hardship in her life but holds onto it like a security blanket. Her jealousy of what other people have is also swallowing her up. Just an all around negative vibe for her. And doesn’t seem to want to shed any of it. I know that not all negativity can be kept away but I meditate and tell myself every day that I will only accept positive energy in my circle. It is working so far. Kudos to all of you who are now taking care of themselves by creating an even better you.
Misery loves company is poor companionship at best. We all get snarky, but no one wants to be around someone who is always negative about something.
If only we could be positive all of the time (something I am working on), but it takes more than working on it internally, but externally as well. As Michelle Obama said…
“Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down. And trust your instincts…good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourselves with.” Michele Obama.
I have a little different take on positive thinking. When I did my challenge I very clearly and very deliberately didn’t replace negativity with positive thinking. I wanted to see what was there in it’s absence. It is very tempting to hide the uglies in my life with pretty words. I know that because I was in that space this morning. That serves no one. However, without negativity, ie fear I was able to look at an unpleasant aspect of myself with some compassion. Being honest without being negative is a good thing to be able to do, especially with yourself.
I completely and wholeheartedly agree about relationships. Good relationships feel good even when they hurt and relationships hurt sometimes. It’s just part of the human experience.
I remember you writing something that stayed with me: always say a tittle for a tattle. Your example made me laugh, but I totally embraced it….
“She is such a b$^#@#….bless her heart!”
Thanks….
I have a first grade teacher to thank for that one.
Hi, I’m a very late comer to the 90 day challenge and wanted to let you know I’ve been reading your posts only in the pdf. When I first saw your thread I thought, it must be some squishy pollyanna type thing. I’m glad I decided to take a chance and look inside. Your journey is dovetailing with my own recent God-download moment that happened last month and is encouraging me to keep going and to enjoy the internal peace I’m having. Of course having a good therapist who encourages my path is also key. Because of what you’ve written I’ve been able to navigate through two major upsets with my siblings without taking it personally or taking the blame that wasn’t mine. I can take a deep breath when sarcastic comments come my way when I share what I believe to be true. I’ve recently been successful about not taking the bait that leads to arguments and hurt feelings. I’ve always battled negative self talk especially at work where I’ve been downgraded from having been the lead designer to being the old hack because I’m not young nor blonde. It’s working! Thanks, Lyn
I have to laugh at the idea of being a squishy pollyanna type. Nothing could be farther fromthe truth. I always think of pollyannas as the type who sprinkle sugar on poop and call it dessert. I am anything but, I call things like they are and with good reason. The most important thing I did during this challenge was not replace negative thinking with positive thinking. That can be just as destructive and another form of fear. I am also learning how powerful silence is. It is a great neutralizer.
After reading the challenge I surely know that you are no squishing pollyanna! I am looking forward to ready further and I know I will have more to tell you as time goes by. Thanks!