Do the things that make you feel the way you do like to feel, and don’t do the things that make you feel the way you don’t like to feel.
It sounds ridiculously simple, doesn’t it? First of all, though, you have to identify which is which. Try looking at your life and making two lists. (Remember to include the time you spend thinking about things you say you don’t want to think about.)
The results may surprise you.
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If your going to be financially secure enough to venture out and see whats available in the B & B field...take your time and check it out. If you have to jump into a job..just to have one..you will not be happy. Hope you get the time to find wh
Not as simplistic as we would think, Seawriter, e.g. I enjoy posting on VN, but I don’t always agree with the political based threads and the conversations there make me feel angry. But you’re correct in that through free will I can either choose to ignore those topics or post my comments and then ignore the subsequent comments. I want to be heard and to offer another point of view which might appear alien to my VNsisters.
Truth be told, I should be devoting my time to writing as I have a mid-April deadline and that should be my priority. I really want to focus on that work, instead of wasting my time and energy on political and other controversial topics here on VN. Truly I must line up my ducks.
Be happy.
Yakkity, what is the writing project you’re working on that has the mid-April deadline? I always notice how clearly stated your posts are. It doesn’t surprise me to learn you are a writer!
btw I pretty much steer clear of the political threads, too. I like the personal stuff. To me, that’s where VN feels like a fascinating gift.
I wish it were that aimple….for instance I would like to leave my present job because it is a 40 minute drive to where I live (in good weather) with my SO….I can’t tell anyone at work that I live there or I will get fired….so the long commute does not make me feel good, lying about my living/dating situation does not feel good….but the reality is I am 60 years old, I have been in this job 11 years, it provides me with adequate income and health insurance, nothing to sneeze at in these economic times…I hve been searching for a job to be closer to him for the past three years….no deal…..I am too old to get hired….so what do I do, quit my job, lose my income/insurance, live in fear, or give up the person I love? We will never be married, so it is just not a matter of whether it makes me feel good or bad, it gets very complicated sometimes.
Yes, I agree that it gets complicated. You just listed a lot of good things that come from your job, though. There are ample reasons to stay put because the things you listed are things that ultimately make you feel good. It’s not perfect, perhaps, but ultimately you’re reaping huge benefits from staying, right? If you weren’t getting such a high yield, then it might be time to reconsider. That’s all I was getting at. But you certainly don’t have to agree with me.
Is a move possible for the two of you? This kind of stress is not good for a person…I’d definitely keep the job, but living in fear has got to go.
Why would you get fired? Must you live within a particular district or some such? Perhaps there are exemptions that can be had? Is he open to perhaps relocating to just within the required district?
No a move is not possible for him because he owns a restaurant (for 40 years) in his present locaton and that is his source of income…..I have worked for 11 years for a very legalistic church…enough said….we can’t get married because of some financial difficulties I have which would put his business in jeopardy. I had thought about a “committment” type of marriage ceremony with a pastor etc. just to get us somewhat “legal”, but I just don’t think he will see the necessity for it as he already feels married to me…It is just easier to move my job (secretarial)….just no jobs even being posted anywhere, everyone has a chokehold on their jobs…it is a very small town that he lives in, and I have searched for a couple of years in a 30 mile radius…..nada….and the interviews I had, well very promising jobs that I felt I interviewed very well for, but after all, they would rather look at a cute 20 something than a seasoned 60 year old…..I am batting 0 there…..lots of part time stuff, but then no benefits and I need those. One person who interviewed me said he gets at least 60 applications for every job…
The hardest part is having to be apart in the winter, the weather is so severe I am terrified to drive and it increases my commute to over an hour each way on treacherous roads, so then I have to keep an apartment in the town where I work (shared with my 27 year old son, who is probably less than happy mom is around to cramp his style..It is really a difficult position to be in because I have finally found someone who gets me and who I get…and we have a great relationship….it seems so weird at this stage of my life that my life is being compromised by geography….Thanks for responding…I probably should start a thread about my dilemma. I have always lived very simply, how did my life get so complicated??
I hope you can clear up your financial difficulties to make marriage possible; that way you might be able to make it with a part-time job till you are able to go after your antique/collectible/gen’l store business…which could work well with the restaurant, couldn’t it? A restaurant I used to frequent was divided and a portion of it was filled with old/antique items. It was fun to browse while we waited for our table, and I made quite a few purchases that way. At the same time, I brought friends there to shop and more than once decided to have a meal or coffee and dessert since we were there. It smelled so good…*s*
Unfortunately, it is with the IRS — backlash from my divorce – a huge amount of money that I will never be able to repay…your suggestion for the store sounds like fun….it would take some renovation, but could work..
You’re right, being very aware of what makes you feel good and avoiding those things that have a negative impact is so ideal. There are many choices we can make along these lines.
Of course, there are some things we must do in life that we are not thrilled about, but we certainly can eliminate many negatives just by slowing down our decision processes.
I am constantly working on the negative thinking…chop, chop! lol
This is going to make me think, interesting, might take awhile…