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VNers, I saw this and had to stop to read, he as a very good point! Yes, I know we can not tell parents how to dress their daughters, but daughter get their signs from home! Do I look pretty? I want to look like an teen or young sexy idol…TRACK
http://edition.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/04/19/granderson.children.dress/index.html
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Sick! And, as I tell the kids around me, not in a good way. He’s absolutely right – it’s parents who do this and I still haven’t figured out WHY? Why would any parent want their little girls to look like that? I loved this line from the article: but I’m his father, not his friend. Too many parents appear to want to be their child’s friend or are, basically, afraid of their children. I like what my mother (and probably most mothers) always said when I wanted something that another girl had: “So, if she jumped off a bridge…”. No is a great word. I wish more parents used it. And this only applies to the little girls that ask for these things first. Those parents who are the instigators, and want this for their little girls, should be slapped… metaphorically speaking… maybe. ♥
From what I’ve observed, parents believe all the kids are doing it and the one thing they want is for their daughter to be popular. And in the parent’s mind, this is about being pretty and sexy and desirable… I really don’t think it starts with the kids – 3-4-5 year old girls love anything brightly coloured that moves when they twirl. Decorated with animals, flowers, stripes – they love it… I never met one that chose a slim black shift with a big satin bow on her bottom on her own… never mind the black hose and heels… But if she’s mother’s little fashion accessory…
Story, Love the way you put it! “Mother’s fashion Accessary”…TRACK…N IT GETS HER (MOM) ATTENTION ALSO…
Or dad… I had a relative who saw custody days with his young daughter as opportunity to get chicks… handsome young single guy at the beach with adorable baby girl and no mom in sight… he bragged how he dropped daughter off and went home with pickup… Ugh…
As daughter got older he saw less and less of her and they did not get along at all.
I am very grateful to have missed this particular trend all together. Little girls around here dress pretty much like little boys except maybe for color choices & a sequin here & there. They run and climb and bike and hike and swim and scooter and chase their dogs and are CHILDREN. If anyone had items like those mentioned in the article on sale here, I suspect that they’d soon be relegated to the sale rack, to the 80% off rack, and eventually to the cast-off piles. I need to believe this, do believe it; so hope it’s true.
Oh man! This one just gets up my nose… As the mother of two daughters I was very unpopular a lot of the time, even to the point that I made my 14 year old oldest daughter get rid of a pair of brand new very high heeled leather boots that laced up the front and threw her pelvis forward when she walked… a month’s worth of babysitting down the drain – but there was no way I was going to let her walk out of the house in those! (Compromise was reached when I contributed to a pair of Dr Martens boots – the opposite of sexy!)
It was tougher with the younger one, but there were lines that were never to be crossed – and they weren’t. I was the tough mom who their friends came to with the things they couldn’t talk to their own parents about. (Including the shocking day when a 15 year old asked me ‘in a blow job, do you suck or do you blow!’ Yikes!)
They now 24 and 31 and wonderful young women, both went to university and are working on great careers. I couldn’t be more proud of them – and they have both thanked me for not letting them do some of the things they cried and screamed and stomped their feet that ‘everyone else was doing it.’
11 years ago I married a wonderful man who had an adult daughter with a daughter of her own. The daughter absolutely adored her child, truly loved, loves her more than anything in this world. She has spent a fortune she did not have on dressing this child – exactly as the man in the article describes. Thongs and bras by the time she was seven. Plunging necklines, especially distressing when she developed very ample breasts by ten. Her bikinis were so tiny she may as well have been naked. Mother’s only comment was that all the girls dress like that…
This little girl is now thirteen and is the mother of a nearly 3 month old baby. Mother was genuinely surprised. She had no idea she was having sex and hadn’t even discussed it with her because she was too young. She was a good girl… And I doubt she is making the connection now… I don’t think she has a clue that she was sexualising this child from infancy, leaving her defenceless against an older guy who seduced her – and of course can not be bothered with her now…
Of course all things must pass and the children will grow up – but will anything be learned? Or will this generation of baby be wearing black satin dresses, lip gloss and heels by the time she is four?
I’ve read several articles about the sexualization of young children to market clothes etc. It can be a challenge for parents to dress their young girls. This trend breaks my heart for all the reasons in your post.
It’s so sad that we can’t protect our children – it’s business’ right to market to them and the right of the parents to dress them however they see fit. There is no right for children to be children and not to be sexualised by adults – no right, no matter how wrong it is…
Ugh!
I was the unpopular mom, and we must remember I was the older one in the group! My daughter used to say, but the other kids mothers lets them do this or that” my response was “I was not their mom!” No designer clothes or shoes. No hanging out after 8pm. I took her the the parties and picked her up! Didn’t allow males older by 2-3 yrs hang around, she was more then pissed, l.o.l., however, in college all her new friends and some old ones, confessed of incest, molestation and touchy feely males n females, but my child “thanked me” for protecting her! I felt like a billion dollar bill…that’s my job n I did it well and with honor! Her dad thought I was a nut, “Oh Well”…TRACK
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P.S. She went to private schools, and when they could used street clothes, she was soo cute, teachers used to thank me! Worth the attitude
This brings back memories of shopping wars I had with my daughter. I hated the day that she graduated to the preteen department – which I called the slut section. Back then little girl’s clothing was just that. But when shopping recently for my 10 year old niece, who still wears children’s sizes, I realized there was now a pre-slut section. My daughter is 27 now. And I went clothes shopping with her this past weekend for the first time in years. It made me laugh when we passed those buttocks and boob exposing clothing stores and she declared them obscene.
watruw8infor, Hahaha! My daughter 27yo this year too! My sister n I made alot of her clothes, which made it a alot easier…pre-slut wear! l.o.l., funny if not so sad…TRACK
UPDATE: Opinion that came in:http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/us/2011/04/20/natpkg.opinion.lz.tramp.clothes.cnn?hpt=C2…TRACK