My husband and I are retired; him for 2 years, me for less than 1 year. We are incredibly lucky to live close to our three grandaughters. They are 10, 7, and 3. We have traveled extensively over our lives (he is 67, I am 65). We are relatively healthy. Here is the dilemma. We visited old friends in a town in NC that we absolutely fell in love with. We have been down there twice and each time we find something new we love about it. Last week our friends took us to a new community that has everything and is close to the little town we call “Mayberry.” We can afford this house if we sell our house here (in PA). We are comfortable financially and perhaps we could “stretch” to own both, but I don’t think I would want to do that.
Well, here’s the problem,as you probably have already guessed-do we leave our comfortable, familiar life close to our grandchildren? Do we, perhaps, just go down there for a few months out of the year and be happy with that? My argument for moving is that our grandchildren will get older and as much as they love us, they will have friends, activities and really won’t want to spend time with their grandparents as they do now. My husband golfs and has tons of friends here to do things with. I am more of a loner but I keep myself quite busy and content without a million friends. He could make friends very easily down there; I could live my life anywhere but to be fair, I am having reservations about it too.
We have been back now a few days and haven’t discussed it. Quite frankly, I am hesitant to broach the subject. He loves this area as much as I do but I already know he’s not gung-ho about moving and leaving his idyllic life. To move or not to move, that is the question. Thoughts?
Sounds like a ‘Reason to Stay / Leave’ list. Stay for you grandchildren…or go and give them a neat place to visit. You are very important to them…go with your heart. Best wishes…