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Married for 36 years. My husband had an affair for 10 months with my oldest daughter’s best friend.
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How are you feeling about it now? Betrayed, angry, hurt, relieved he’ll be out of your hair or…? Is he moving out? Did you daughter know about it all along? Have you threatened to remove his offending member? Are you kicking him out? Are you employed? Will this leave you in financial ruin? Are you curled up in a ball in the corner or are you kick-ass mad?
I’m so sorry. How can we help you?
There are loving women here who have been down a lot of hard roads and survived successfully. I echo Barbara’s sentiments. We are here to help.
I am so very, very sorry! What a betrayal. And…if I may…what an idiot! This site is a great site to get support, advice, validation, and strong shoulders upon which to lean. We are here for you!
The myriad ways in which women deal with this situation are as different as the marriages they inhabit. If you and your husband have a history of contentment, communition and trust, your response won’t be the same as that of someone who’s been miserable for years. For starters, your shock, disgust, and embarrasment are no doubt huge.
Is he contrite? Does he know his behavior was not merely hurtful but majorly idiotic? Can you two sit down and talk about this with or without a counselor? How strong is your resolve to mend the marriage? How strong is his? Can you forgive?
We are all so sorry you’ve been hurt in this way. We hope your heart will mend.
So he betrayed both your trust and also your daughter’s. Really don’t know what to say about this that would make you feel better. He, as one other poster said, is an idiot of the first degree. If it went on for ten months, then it was not a matter of impulse or rash decision.
My thoughts go out to you and your daughter. Personally I would kick him to the curb but that is your decision to make.
So sad. Since I had a similar situation, I feel sure you are devastated and just trying to hang on. Probably looking everywhere for clues you should have noticed. No matter what, please know this is his mistake and you did NOTHING to deserve this. Take your time deciding what you need to do. Above all get tested for STDs and do not try to keep this inside. He deserves whatever shame he has created among friends and family for his cheating and lying.
Trust is the foundation of any relationship and, based on his actions, that trust has been crumbled. Now what? It’s time to do some serious soul searching: Is he willing to share why he really made that choice? Are you willing to really listen to what he has to say? Are you guys willing to go to counseling to determine the how’s and why’s of his actions. Lots of soul searching in your future. Good luck.
My heart goes out to you…awful enough to find out your husband is having an affair, but to find out these circumstances makes it all the more despicable to both you and now your daughter. I don’t know if you are looking for advise, just need to get it “out there” and vent, or if you want others perspectives. Personally I don’t see where you can even consider “saving the marriage”! He did the ultimate and I don’t know how you could ever ever trust him. And never never blame yourself…he is an adult who must take responsibility for his choices, Regardless the state of your marriage prior. Bless you!
What a heartache. I would also ask what many others have: Has your marriage, up to this point, been a good one with fidelity? Is he truly sorry for what he did, or did he feel “entitled” to the affair? I’m certainly not excusing his behavior, but if this is a one-time, horrible mistake, you’ve had a strong marriage up until now, and you still love him, you can overcome it.
If not, if he’s pulled away, if this was a culmination of sorts of years of growing apart, while it doesn’t excuse his behavior, it may have been the thread that completely unraveled the marriage.
Also, while betrayal is betrayal anyway you look at it, I think there is a certain callous mindset when it comes to a spouse cheating with a family friend, relative or close associate … there’s something of an added knife through the heart. If you don’t know the person your spouse is cheating with, if it’s someone who has nothing to do with your life or children or you’ve never seen/known, it can be easier to move past. This is a betrayal not only to you, but to your daughter.
Take time for yourself now. Just yourself. Go for counseling on your own, think about what you need and want in your life, whether you truly want to save your marriage or move on. Good luck friend, and I wish you healing during this tough time.
Details please? How did you find out? Did he own up to it right away? Where’s the girl/skank Now? Did you leave him or has he tried to clean up his act? Did he repent to you and seem truely sorry? Lot’s of things to concider..Men do these things because they can..simple as that. Find the reasons behind it and and try to get some closure..it will always hurt and color the way you feel about him, but you two are the ones who can mend or break the covenant relationship you share and you are the only ones who should decide how it will go forward no matter how much “advice” you get from the outside. Pray.
Hi Anonymous.
I have been in a similar situation after 6 years of my marriage. Except in my case, it was his former girlfriend who at that time was married for the second time, and had two children fathered to her by two different men.
At first, I have looked at myself to see where the fell out was on my part. Just to see where and from what I can learn. Than we both sought counceling. I have decided to keep the marriage going since we had two small children at that time. My youngest one was born 4 years later after all of this had happened. Would I do something like this ever again? NO! The lesson, I have learn from this is that he actually become a lot better at this game. He was with many women from his work and so called sex workers whom he has slept with. In reality, I was shooting myself in to my own foot. Just by continuing living with him, I have literarily waisted my life with him. Once a cheater always a cheater! After 30 years of living with him and in this environment, I have filed for a divorce anyway. The reason, he was living with his former co-worker for almost 10 years while still married to me. His so called business trips and so forth, got me thinking. It’s just that this time, it was not that easy to find that out.
When I look at the duration of your so called husband’s and the girls relationship. The only thought which comes up on my mind immediately is: “It was intentional.” The fact that it was your daughter’s girlfriend; that rises my eyebrows too.
I cannot nor want to tell you: “Go divorce or stay.” But do factor in everything that went on in your lives from the past and present to lay out a ground for your future.
Yes,I do know just too well how you feel right now. I am not too sure if I even am in any help to you but my heart does go to you and your daughter. I am sure even she is devastated by all of this. What ever it is you are going through right now. Do not beat up yourself over it too much or for too long. These people are not worth it. Do not cry for those who do not cry for you!!!!
My heart goes out to you – this is the beginning of a rollercoaster ride that you didn’t buy a ticket for. Three years ago I discovered that my husband of almost 30 years had been having an 11 year “affair” with an “escort” (whore) who was 30 years younger than him. It started when we lived in a different town about 4 hrs. away and he has always traveled quite a bit on business. He was 50 when it started and she was 20! When I discovered this 3 years ago he was 61, she was 31 and I was 58 and we have 2 adult children in their late 20′s. Then I found out that he had been seeing another “escort” in a town about 2 hrs. away. With more investigating I found out that he had been having long term emotional affairs with an old girlfriend and another woman who had been a friend of ours. I was devestated to say the least. I had always trusted him 100% and never invaided his privacy. This was totally unexpected from him – everyone was shocked. He told me every day how much he loved me. He still maintains that he never stopped loving me. We have been through hell with this. He now understands what he has done and he is devestated by it also. One thing you need to know is that your husband is 100% responsible for what happened. It had nothing to do with you – he is broken and will have to fix himself with couseling and other things. You need to get counseling immediately no matter what happens. If you decide to stay in the marriage you need to go to marriage counseling together. It took me over 2 years to decide to stay in the marriage. We seperated, went to “save our marriage weekends”, saw divorce lawyers etc. In the past we never raised our voices to each other but we were soon fighting all the time. It was very ugly. We are going back to marriage counseling. Things are better but they will never be the same. One thing you might check out is a website called http://www.survivinginfidelity.com. I wish I would have gotten on this from the very start and taken the advice given there. This is such a terrible betrayal. Be strong and take your time in making decisions. Good luck – you are in my prayers.
I was married for over 31 yrs to a cheater – the first time he cheated was when we’d been married for about 5 yrs – our daughter was about 3 yrs old. Of course, when he was discovered, he was SO sorry, still loved me, would never do it again. Then, about every 4 yrs it would happen again with the same sorry, love, never again story. Many of the affairs were one night stands when he was out-of-town for business. But one of them lasted about a year & was with one of my supposedly good friends.
After 8 affairs with 7 different women (these are the ones I knew of for fact – there could’ve been more) I didn’t have one shred of love left for him – he’d finally succeeded in killing it all off. We had tried counseling a couple of times – the first time (after about 4 affairs) didn’t really yield any positive changes in our relationship. The 2nd time did – for a while – then it was soon gone.
You know what they say about hindsight – it’s 20-20. After I finally got out of the marriage I could look back & see that I actually enabled him to continue that behavior. I hid it from everyone, not unlike the wife of a closet alchoholic, trying to protect myself from the humiliation – no one had a clue. I now believe that if the first time it happened, I’d revealed what he’d done to family & friends & insisted on counseling right then, things MAY have had a different outcome.
I have to admit that deep in my heart I don’t really believe that he was ever truly sorry about what he’d done – I think he was just sorry he got caught. He was a very handsome man with a great personality & there wre times that women hit on him right in front of me – knowing I was his wife. And in hindsight I now also realize that even with all the positives he had going for himself he had low self-esteem & needed to have that stroked all the time. So it was easy for him to fall prey to women flirting – because he didn’t have big enough balls to resist & do the right thing.
My biggest regret is staying with him as long as I did & continuing to give him another chance. It feels like I wasted the best years of my life with him. I’ve been divorced about 14 yrs – I’m about to turn 66 – and although I’d love to be married again there aren’t many possibilities out there.
So as of right now, I’m sure having another relationship is the last thing on your mind – but believe me, there are more sunrises on your horizon. You have to decide if you want to put some effort into trying to make things work or if you want to cut your losses & move on with your life. No one can make that decision for you.
I will also concur with what several others have expressed – DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF OR WONDER WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU! As women & having a more nurturing nature than men, that’s usually the first thing that haunts us. But we all need to remember that HE is the one that chose to make bad & harmful decisions – you didn’t force him to do it.
My best to you & I hope you’ll use your wisdom to make the right decision for yourself & your children.
Wow. I am sorry for you. Maybe it’s because I am having a very rough time too, but lately I often wonder why we marry at all. Men try to avoid marriage, and once married, it seems many husbands and wives are unhappy. It seems cheating is a “normal” thing for men. I have not been down THAT road, but then again, maybe I have not found out yet! Maybe ALL men cheat ad some just hide it better. Who knows. I DO know the cheater alone is responsible, NOT the woman with whom he cheated. She has no relationship with the wife. The husband made a commitment to the WIFE, so the entire blame falls on the cheater. If I find myself single one day, I plan on staying single forever.
Crabcakes…I’d like to respond to a something you said – I respectfully disagree with you about no responsibility falling on the other woman. They are just as guilty as the man – especially if they know he is married. The last 2 affairs my husband had were with the same woman & he brought her to our home when I was out-of-town for business & slept with her in our bed. She was also married. So do you think with her coming into my home & seeing our family pictures up & down the hallway, but going ahead with the “arrangement” really makes her innocent? And how about my “friend” that seduced my husband & had a year long affair with him? Innocent? I don’t think so! There are more women than you could imagine that are out there trolling specifically for married men. And when there’s a man out there cheating, there is also a woman cheating (unless he’s gay.) So cheating is the “normal” for many woman as well. As much as we’d like to point fingers & say it’s all the men doing the cheating – it just ain’t so.
K, I’m going to also respectfully agree with you on this issue — the woman with whom the husband cheats with does shoulder part of the responsibility. While she isn’t necessary responsible for the state of another person’s marriage and while she certainly didn’t hold a gun to the head of the cheating husband, she’s infusing herself in someone else’s marriage and life and it just isn’t right, any way you look at it.
While God knows that I haven’t been a perfect human being all of my life and I’m not always one to be in a seat of judgment, when it comes to this issue I want to say to the women who participate in these extramarital affairs: What is it you expect to gain from this? Do you understand that you are contributing to severing an established relationship? And most importantly — would you like to have this done to you?
It is a foolish, foolish woman who believes if she ends up with the philanderer, he will be faithful to her. Think again. If she does wind up with the cheater by default, she’ll have to spend her time looking over her shoulder and constantly anxious whether he’s cheating ON her. Like Dr. Phil says, “if he’ll do it with you, he’ll do it to you”
The law of karma: Always treat others as you would want to be treated.
I am so sorry to hear about this ugly situation. I have no advice for you. I have added you to my prayer list.
You all who disagree with me about not blaming the woman are, of course, correct. The woman CAN be to blame, and women DO cheat. I am not THAT dumb! I would be furious at the woman too, but it is the husband that has the commitment to you, and it is HE who is breaking it. Yes, the woman is morally wrong, but she is not breaking a vow to you. Both parties are guilty, but the HUSBAND is breaking HIS commitment to you – the woman has no such commitment. I just did not word it clearly. ALL in all, I think we all agree on the basics.
KMartin.
I do agree on what you say in your posting on what I call spare tire woman.
Karen27
While she isn’t necessary responsible for the state of another person’s marriage and while she certainly didn’t hold a gun to the head of the cheating husband, she’s infusing herself in someone else’s marriage and life and it just isn’t right, any way you look aT it.
I strongly disagree with this comment. These women know that it is wrong of them to do what they do, and they still do it. To me they are as much to blame as those men who sleep around them.
Karen27, you know what is more appalling to me? When some one steels a bag of sugar in a grocery store. That one gets charged for steeling. The one who assist him for steeling this bag of sugar is also going to get charged for steeling. That is a common practice in judicial system. My question is how different is some one in the scenario of infidelity from steeling a bag of sugar? The husband has outside marriage relationship steels wife’s and children’s trust, brings a chaos and investigators into the family. The woman who sleeps with the husband steels the man from his wife. Now, you tell me? Is this not a robbery of a great altitude? By incidents such as infidelity, the victim’s life is stolen, privacy is invaded, children’s healthy upbringing is crippled and never mentioning the emotional crime that goes with it. How can some body ever justify that?
Vera, I think we were on the same page with this one, maybe just a miscommunication. You’ll never hear me ever siding with a woman who has infiltrated another woman’s marriage, ever. They are interlopers for sure. Even though they didn’t “force” the man to commit adultery, they share blame. So yes, I think most every poster here is in agreement.
Adultery is such a hard thing to deal with, and such a hard thing to make a definite decision about. Even though it’s pervasive within marriages, it’s still a personal choice. I’ve read all of these posts and felt the heartache. I will tell you though that I think there is a difference between a “chronic cheater” and someone who makes a mistake. Case in point: I do have an acquaintance/business friend who has been married for 24 years. Three lovely children and what was a relatively solid and happy marriage. A few years ago her husband, who had always been a decent guy and loving husband (by her account) had an affair. When it was exposed, he was extremely contrite and swore it was the only time it happened. She took him back, went to counseling and they seem to be on better footing.
People can slip. It’s the chronic cheaters, the ones who have little regard for vows or fidelity in general that need closer examination. Also, the situation of the original poster to this post has another aspect in the fact that her husband cheated with his daughter’s friend. Added layers there.
I just wish every woman the best who goes through this. It’s a hard, hard road.
Hi Karen27
It is the word that makes a man – man. It is hard to resist temptations, I know that. But it is selfish to proceed.
The accomplice theory makes me rethink my position. However, for the record, I did NOT condone the infidelity, nor approve of he woman’s actions! As in criminal actions, then the woman is an accomplice, and equally guilty. I still say though, it is the MAN (or spouse) who is breaking his vow of fidelity, not the other woman. Two separate issues here. When the affair is discovered/ended, SHE walks away, free and easy. HE suffers the shame and guilt (maybe) and runs a hue risk of losing his family. It is a bad situation, but it was ultimately HIS choice to stray. She can temp him, much like a chocolate cake tempts me, a diabetic. But he must not give in, as I may not give in, and if we do, we suffer the consequences. But the woman, as the cake, are temptresses, and do not force him or me to cave in. We all have our opinions, and that is good! But this poor woman has been hurt regardless of which team we are on! I would toss her husband to the curb!
I have an ancient belief that says adultery is adultery, betrayal is betrayal, and ANYTIME we “Go” where we do not belong, we trespass. My first husband left me for another woman, when I let him know I knew about the affair. He had cheated on me from day one of our marriage. A strange thing happened though to show how small the world is..my second/present husband and I were friends for many years with an older couple from another city, when her sister passed away I read the obit and found that my friends sister was the mother of the woman my first husband left me for..time does heal but it can take LOTS of TIME..because my children were hurt, my parents, my inlaws our friends were all hurt by this adultery trespass. We can all say what we would do in the same or similar circumstances, and it’s a hot subject..for sure..we suffer in our flesh. God is sovereign.
I’m so sorry about your husband ! what a jerk ! I been there too, as all of the ladies writing into you ! But I did everything to make my cheating husband stay, but after 3 years he did leave and he really never STOPPED cheating ! SO get a lawyer and protect yourself.
get tested for aids. I wish we all live near each other what a great support group we could make.
if you have a close friend talk to her or get a counselor, sometimes its better to talk to someone that doesnt know either of you !!
it has helped me. the Judge said we should be sitting on top of a wedding cake instead of this but he didnt want to fix things, and Mama didnt raise a fool !!
I have two friends in just about the same situation. One if newly married and if her husband hasn’t cheated he’s showed all the signs. I have to bite my tongue from yelling at her to run. I have another friend whose husband cheats all the time and she turns a blind eye to it.
I’ve come across more than one man who is not honest about being married. One man told me that he did not deliberately mislead me. He was right, but he skirted the line. I can’t tell you how many men have skirted the line and been vague about their martial status. It would piss me off except it has forced me to really take my time with a man and get to know him really well before I jump into bed with him.
This can be overcome with time and a lot of help. Trust your inner knowing and do get some help. Don’t blind yourself to the truth. You’ll get some sound advice here. The only advice I would add is this; don’t make any life changing decisions in haste. Get professional advice. This is probably not the best thing to do if you want to work on your marriage, but I would start preparing an exit strategy. That means having money, a place to go and a way to support yourself.
Good post Watermusic, much truth. I also know a few women who have chosen to turn a blind eye to their mate’s infidelity. It all comes down to our priorities and what we can/will tolerate in our own lives. For some, having a mate, having financial security trumps sexual infidelity, providing their mate doesn’t leave them.
Many men do skirt the issue of whether they are married or not. The most common among those sitting on the fence, one foot in, one foot out of the marriage is “I’m separated from my wife…” They rarely are, it’s a convenient way to not come across as caddish and is a fine-enough line to let a woman who may have morals/scruples to think “hmm, okay, he’s in the process of getting out of his marriage.”
Me, I want to see the dried-ink on the divorce decree first. Even if a man is legally separated, and is living in a separate residence, it still can be a slippery slope emotionally. Although the morality issue becomes clearer, you’re not fundamentally putting yourself in a position to really help break up a marriage (it’s already on it’s way to dissolving) they still can reconcile.
Best advice has been said: Get professional advice and plan an exit strategy. Money is a priority. If you cannot live or keep a roof over your head, the burdens of starting over will become herculean.
I echo many of the same thoughts expressed here. We never understand what makes spouses cheat. Certainly there are so many questions to ask one self, especially where did I fail. We women are very good at laying guilt on ourselves because it is always incumbent upon us to be the perfect wife or mate to our spouse. There is no excuse for his behavior. Not only did he violate the sanctity of your marriage but he destroyed the trust of your daughter. Can’t imagine the pain she is feeling from both her father and her best friend. That being said however, “If” your marriage was one of equality, open communication, very loving and you both gave 100% to the marriage then perhaps counceling ought to be considered not just for the both of you but for your daughter as well. Time will heal the pain but perhaps through counceling you might be able to rebuild the marriage, maybe even a little bit better than it was before.
My prayers are with you all at this very painful time in your family.
Sorry for the sadness, betrayal, angst, frustration, etc. etc…………….you are in a terrible situation. And, you have some serious decisions to make for your future. However, that future includes your daughter and my heart aches for her, as well. This horrible mess includes her father AND her friend. I believe the two of you might consider working on this together and making certain your mother/daughter relationship is and stays intact. That might be the most important issue right now. Your husband was a jerk and he knows it, so take time to put your priorities in place, especially if there are other kids. He can wait and the longer he waits, the more desperate he will become. And, possibly more demanding. BUT, you take control and do whatever is the most important at the time. His shame will continue and you might just be surprised how liberating it will be for you to be strong and in control. Good luck to you and your daughter!
Hi everyone I am the original poster. I have been touched and truly encouraged by your words and prayers. Wow!!!there’s a lot of info out there about this subject….sad really. Some of what I read is so ludicrous and short sighted. It would be difficult for me to imagine a day when I would subscribe to the theory that”my husband’s affair was the best thing that ever happened to our marriage.” yup it’s out there. My husband and I went to counseling together. Unfortunately the counselor compared “her” to the excitement of driving a bright red shiny new convertible( which I would have much preferred for his late mid life crisis) and I was you guessed it old reliable … The station wagon. I understood the intent but questioned his tact. I am now going alone to my own therapist who is wonderful. My daughter has forgiven her father as she is a “daddy’s girl.” according to her and she wants desperately to cling to that. I get it… Don’t think it is particularly healthy but I have only so much energy these days and must choose my obsessions. I am biding my time and wrapping my head around a very different future than what was originally planned. My husband says he is truly sorry but that I believe is only true if I leave the matter alone. NOT OK, again to all many thanks for the palpable and welcomed concern.
Ok there’s more this is the original poster again….. I am as sad as a person can be and still draw breath. This was a complete shock. Really. Relationships change I get that but the essence of what our was,or so I thought, does not exist any longer. I am so angry with myself because I do in fact think that my life with this stranger cannot be repaired. I know deep within myself that I stay because I am afraid to leave. And that fact,that lack of respect for myself, is crippling. I don’t blame myself for his actions I truly don’t I am just totally blown away by his total disregard for anything that I held sacred. This is a many layered thing. And I find myself wondering how I could possibly stay with this man who I considered my best friend. So ….
Hi – I do SO understand your fear of leaving. Fear is part of what kept me with my cheating husband for so long – that plus the fact that every time it happened my self-esteem & self-confidence took another hit & I didn’t think there was any way I could survive alone. But you kow what? I’ve truly been so much better off since I did get out! The most difficult thing was the loneliness factor I dealt with initially – but then my life turned around in a big way. I soon discovered the real me again – the person that had been stuffed deep down for a very long time. It was joyous finding the old me so that I could live & love life again. I would never lie to you & say it will be ”easy” – but it is, over time so very liberating. Do yourself a favor & don’t compromise yourself any longer. You’re better off – if you don’t believe things can be healed – to cut your losses & move on. And the sooner, the better.
Anonymous – you are just starting this journey. Give yourself time. If you want to try to save your marriage your husband must understand and be prepared to spend endless hours talking about it, answering your questions with and without a therapist. He needs to “get it” and it usually takes them a long time. If he won’t talk about it and try to find out what is wrong with him then your marriage is probably not fixable. Speaking of that the first counselor sounds like he was horrible. I’m glad you have found someone for you but your husband needs someone good and you both need a good marriage counselor. My husband and I are currently going to the same counselor that he was seeing and I saw by myself – he is excellent. I did see a female counselor for a year and she helped tremendously. However, she did not want to do marriage counseling with both of us. Please, please, please be prepared for more discoveries. I encourage you to dig – you need to know exactly what you are dealing with. It took me 5 months to find out about the other women – even longer to realize the porn issue was so bad. Again, I strongly recommend the website http://www.survivinginfidelity.com. You will learn so much there and it’s also for the spouse who cheated. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
First of all, I am the poster that encouraged you to try to maintain a relationship with your daughter, but as you have noted, she has “forgiven” her father. It is amazing to me how easily kids do forgive their parents sometimes, but after all, it is their only set.
Let’s concentrate on you…………..first of all, you are sharing your feeliings and that is a good thing. As many have noted, whether you leave your husband, or not, it will not be easy. I do agree with many, I am not sure he deserves a chance, but sometimes with loads of love, patience, counseling, prayer, etc. couples do get through it. I personally do not think you ever forget………..
As for the lonliness, I get that – have been divorced for over 30 years. I was in one long-term relationship during that period of time, plus several other shorter ones. But, have always lived alone -
I have moved 20 times, twice across the US, due to professional/sometimes personal reasons, and have done each one by myself. Did I think I could? Heck no……………
‘One of my relatinships, tried to molest my 15-year-old and I put him in prison. Again, basically alone………….but. I DID IT!
Did I think that I could possibly accomplish all of that, plus be successful in my career? Heck, no…………
But, the point of my post is to tell you that YOU CAN DO IT! Women can accomplish more than they realize. We are stronger than most men and you will discover that along the way.
At the age of 70, I can look back over the last 30 years, most of which I would not change and am darm proud of me! Did I have bad days, you bet ‘ya!!!
But, you pull from whatever emotiional, mental and physical resources you can muster and you will do it……………only wish I could be there to hug you and tell you -good job!
What a dirty dog! And how icky that he chose to cheat with your daughter’s friend!
As I see it, if you stay with him because you are afraid of leaving, your self-esteem will drop lower and lower. He may even subtly blame you(!) for the affair. That’s not good for you!
You are not stuck and whenever it is time for you to leave (or force HIM to leave…HE’s the cheater!) there is a big world out there and lots of nice people that want to share it with other nice people like you. I’ve enjoyed Meetup. com, which has lots of interest groups in your area that you can join in to meet others, go to dinner and events, etc. Now’s the time to focus on YOU. He made the unacceptable decision to cheat, rather than trying to work with you, talk more, do more, be more. What a shame and a disappointment! He doesn’t sound worth it to me!
P.S. Please listen to this lovely song!
I think it will give you a lift. It did me!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CYM2dwXanwY&feature=related