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I am recently widowed despite being only 52 years old.  I want to move away from where I currently live in Virginia.  Any recommendations for places that are good for singles who are 50+?

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  1. Generic Image Cynthia1221 says

    Hi GOrdlyn,

    I was also widowed recently at 53…..it is very hard to be sure.  I live in the Chicago area – not sure it’s a great place for widows, but I’m not ready to “move on” just yet in regard to address.  Just wanted to let you know you are not alone being so young and widowed. 

    Take care,

    Cynthia

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  2. Generic Image tymom says

    I lost my husband when i was 40 and am now 57 – pretty slim pickings everywhere. Cities better just due to numbers, and resorts are good because people go looking to meet people.  i really enjoyed Club Med.
    Watch out for guys with no retirement savings in our age group – they are looking for a ride.

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  3. KatyCreek KatyCreek says

    Hi, Gordlyn

    I am not widowed, but we play music and spend a bit of time in the retirement/over 50 communities here in Arizona. There are quite a few single ladies who are fans of our band and our genre of music and they tell us about where they are going and what they are up to. Many of the 50 plus communities have a generous number of residents who are still working full time. They go shooting, fishing, to the casinos, the movies, on trips, to concerts and festivals, birding, hiking, you name it. There is a group of ladies who have those real small tear drop shaped travel trailers, deck them out in different themes and go on camping trips…Oh, can’t think of their name right now…the something sisters, we see them at many festivals and events we go to. There are bicyle groups, skiing groups and on and on. The weather here is good for activities year round if you like being outside. The 50 plus crowd tends to be more physically active here because of the weather.

    Hope this helps some.

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    • Magic by Mark Magic by Mark says

      Would love to hear your thoughts about AZ.  Will be moving there in 2013.

      Mark

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      • Generic Image RedVelvet says

        So have you moved to AZ yet?  Where in AZ are you going?  Are you moving for business or retirement?  I love it there!!!!

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  4. dealite2007 dealite2007 says

    I, too am looking for a new place to live.  I’m a single 53 year old mom and my son will be in college in 1.5 years.  I live in a wonderful neighborhood full of couples and families.  They never include the single women in their cookouts!!!

    I live south of Annapolis, MD and it’s no where for a single woman.  I was thinking about Myrtle Beach, SC.  I wonder if anyone out there knows if Myrtle Beach is a good place for us.  Seems to be many 50+ folks down there.

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  5. rachel55 rachel55 says

    Try Arizona. The weather is great 9 months of the year. Today its going to be 70. There are so many things to do like, hiking, skiing, biking,golf, tennis.tending to a garden. I could go on. Their are so many places for 50 and above.

    My sister (51) is also a widow as of Oct. She is moving from Reno NV to  Arizona.

    Good luck in your search.

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    • SandyHeart SandyHeart says

      Hi Ladies, the place to live if you are single is where you want to live.  After my divorce in 2005 I moved to Phoenix, Az area. I lived here twice growing up and love the sunshine and heat as opposed to the dreary, cloudy Pacific NW.

      I immediately looked for Singles groups, not always to meet men but also to make women friends. This can be difficult if you are not longer in the workplace. I also dove into the internet Dating scene. This has and can be hit and miss ( there are actually some dating sites that are better suited to different personality types.The primary issues involved in dating on line (as well as meet ups in bars or anywhere else) are SAFETY and Honesty. As a result of some of my online matches I started a business called Check Out A Date to verify the identity and ensure the integrity for those dating. I have learned so much about dating websites that I started a blog on my website. Dating has changed so much in the 34 years since I had last dated I was amazed as well as surprised that both men & women had forgotten how to do it safely and successfully. This weekend a friend suggested that I branch out and start a Dating Coaching business. I already do seminars on Dating as a public service to market my business but not sure if this would be marketable on a one on one basis. Sometimes it can be hard to ask friends who are married about single issues. Both men and women whether widowed or divorced have the same questions or issues. What do you think? 

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      • dcc1946 dcc1946 says

        I think this is a great idea. I am 63, been divorce for 31 years. I am afraid to get involve with anyone, not knowing their background. I live in Knoxville, Tennessee and there are a few but not many women living here, over 50 that are single. I have a nephew that lives in Phoenix he is young, only 34 and he loves it there.  Go for it, start Check Out A Date business, you got my vote.  

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    • Magic by Mark Magic by Mark says

      Would love to hear your thoughts about AZ.  Will be moving there in 2013.
      Mark

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    • Jennie Jennie says

      Arizona is my destination; somehow.!

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  6. Generic Image damselfly09 says

    I hope I’m getting the right message here in thinking you mean you are interested in meeting older men for dating and possible marriage purposes. I was widowed at the age of 51. I am now 61 and although I can find older men to date, they cannot keep up with my stamina level. I’m not referring to the bedroom either because I could care less about that. For most of them, that is all they care about. It seems like they want to get as much sex in as possible before they die. Forget the “love” part. I want someone to workout with, dance with, shop with and keep active all the time. Everyone I meet who is my age or a little older wears out quickly because they are out of shape. I could settle for a man who wants to sit around watching my tv while I cook him a good meal but they are a dime a dozen. I am lonely. Believe me, there aren’t enough men anywhere for the number of widows who want the company.

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    • texasrose texasrose says

      Have you thought about the Palm Beach, Florida area?  There are plenty of fit people of both sexes, 60 on up, who live a fitter life-style.  I used to visit my cousin in Lake Worth, walk the beach down to Latana, shop, was shown around, etc.  The environment and social impetus is to lead a healthier lifestyle.  There were plenty of fit people of both sexes for friendship — and yes, I waw a lot of fit guys 50 to 80.  There are more people our age, perod, and a lot seem to still be living life.  Have to watch out for the leeches, younger and older, but that’s anywhere.  The downside is that per capita there are fewer men than women — but in the town in Texas I live now, the majority of men and women over 35 are overweight and out of shape.   Maybe you can relate. 

      The sight that lingers most vividly in my mind from my vists to that area:  A sunny day in January, and a sidewalk on a steep hill.  A woman, perhaps in her late 60′s, is running as hard as she can down the hill — skirts flying, grinning, pushing a wheelchair.  The older woman in the wheelchair is leaning forward as far as she can, gnarled hands gripping the ends of the armrests as though she’s lauching to fly, hair blowing, laughing with the double-dare joy of it.

      My committments here are almost done, and I’ll be there in the spring.

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      • Generic Image damselfly09 says

        I have been to that area and I agree with you. It is an area of warnth, beauty and many fit people of all ages. I would love to live in an area like that but my commitments to Pennsylvania will never be done. I have two grown sons who live nearby and they are my joy. Also, there is my only grandson. My sons have tried to leave this state but they both came back and bought houses here and declared that this will always be their home. For some reason, the four seasons of this state seem to grab some people and won’t let go. As for me, I could stand 80 degrees or above every day and if I never saw another winter coat I wouldn’t miss it. It’s wonderful to hear of a VN sister realizing her freedom and being able to move to a place she loves. Luck to you!

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      • texasrose texasrose says

        I completely know what you mean about never seeing another winter coat!  I remember Pennsylvania as beautiful, from a long-ago visit to my godmother “Aunt” Olive and her husband “Uncle” Lou in Allentown about 1974-5.  Having your family close is the most important thing! Especially grandbabies — they are truly a privilege both earned and given.  I’m happy for you!

        I started late, so at nearly 53 my daughter is 19 and at college in California following her dreams; my son is 17 and wants to move with me. Whew! I think that when I date again (after a 16 year marriage and a long-term relationship I’m ready for a thoughtful hiatus) I’ll try eharmony because supposedly it actually tests for compatability. Have you tried it?  Not a recommendation, because my only experience of online dating is looking over a friend’s shoulder, but sometimes men can travel or move to where we are, and there is a large condensed population close to you. There must be a smart, fit, active man out there somewhere who has despaired of finding someone like you!

        Just to carry on the thought of finding compatible men at our age — I wondered why fuddy duddy stick in the mud rigid-thinking made up their minds about everything men leave me preferring my own company.  I found out on keirsey. com that I’m a “Realist” in temperament (not what it sounds like), and on the mary. com long test that I’m a E+A+C+N–O+ (lol). Apparently the “O” scale, plus IQ, is the most important for compatibility. A lot of this is simply how our brains are hard-wired. It sounds as though you run at different paces from many of the people you meet, also.  We end up loving one of the people we surround ourselves with, compatible or not.  I want to find the temporamentally and mentally compatibles — still open and fresh to life.  And laugh at the odds as I write this, then ponder the methods and solutions <grin>. 

        Thank you!  I so look forward to the move, and want to leave right now!    

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      • texasrose texasrose says

        I do wish we could edit after posting!  I have to read my previous sentence three times to see what I was saying. What I was trying to say is that there must be fit, active men out there who have tried to find someone like you and who, like yourself, wish they could find someone who can keep up with them! 

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      • just once just once says

        I would definatly move to Fla. instead of Tucson, especially Palm Beach area so much better in there entertainment and cultural venues.  I live in Tucson wanting to go back to Fla.  Same ol’ clubs very few for dancing, theater is ok but misssing out on a lot of the broadway shows and all…….

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      • texasrose texasrose says

        Yes!  I think of the water and sun, the horizon and sunrises, but you are so right!  There is very little culturally where I am now, so I had forgotten.  Culture and entertainment are something else to look forward to! Good luck in what may be an upcoming move for you!

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  7. Generic Image newwoman1 says

    Before I answer this, the first question that popped into my mind was WHY do you want to move. Have you thought about all of the reasons you want to move?

    That alone could give you a good working list of the kind of place that would suit your needs now. In other words, by knowing what you don’t like about the place where you currently live, you might could understand what the NEW place needs to offer you…what you DO want. Make sense?

    There are pros and cons to any place. For instance, I think AZ would be a great place to live. Is money a concern? If it is, you may want to check some place else. Or if you don’t enjoy extreme heat in the summer. What about weather? Have you considered places like Florida that have hurricanes? The south where tornados abound? The north where you have snow over your doors in the winter? Weather isn’t the only concern but could be a big one depending on how you feel about it or how it might affect your health.

    What about taxes on land/homes? Unemployment rates? Metro transportation, or lack there?

    Are there adequate hospitals and emergency care in areas you might want to move to?

    What about museums or entertainment choices?

    Just a few items to maybe add to your list in order to help you narrow down your search.

    And if you decide to make a list of things you want in a environment, you might want to also make one that said this is what I want in a man, if indeed you are searching. By knowing what you don’t want, you give yourself a good lead on what you do want.

    Just some thoughts…

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    • mariagraziaswan mariagraziaswan says

      I think Newwoman makes excellent points. I also live in Arizona, have been single for about 18 years. By the way, Hi Sandy!!! anyway, listen to Newwoman, she is saying all I would have said. I have a fan page on Facebook, Get Off The Couch Tuesdays, the one and only purpose is to encourage women over 45 to get out, fave fun, step away from the computer and spend more face-to-face time. I organize little events on Tuesdays, and encourage people from other states to do the same.  So far I have been able to get free yoga classes and other goodies. Okay, I didn’t mean to talk about myself, you get the picture. Take care.

       

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      • KatyCreek KatyCreek says

        Hi!

        I am going to check out yur facebook page! have you heard of Chat Chew and Chocolate? I make it to the Casa Grande chapter once in a while. Great fun and a great way to meet ladies from all walks of life and all ages.; My daughter got me interested.

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      • SandyHeart SandyHeart says

        Hi Maria and all, by the way Maria has a great book you all should read called “Boomer Babes”. Newwoman1 is on the mark there are a lot of things to consider when thinking a “move” will solve your problems. The main thing is to be open to meeting all types of people and places to meet them in (grocery stores before a holiday or sporting event is often a fertile hunting ground also Barnes & Noble type coffee bars- at least you know they are literate!) Take a class at a college or volunteer.

        Contrary to popular opinion there are a lot of great men out there. While not a “Cougar” I will go out with men 5-7 years younger than I am and the same with older than I am. Judious use of internet online dating you can meet all types of guys. One friend of mine who is an attractive 67 year old finds different types of guys on PlentyofFish.com, one to travel with, one for the theater or cultural events (dutch), one for dancing, one for other types of fun. She says she hasn’t found one man to have all her interests. She is not looking for marriage (divorced & widowed once each) just someone to go out with when she wants to go or do something.

        Hope this helps.

         

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    • just once just once says

      You are so right about what you are saying.  Looking at the big picture,There is also the safety issue, grant it every place has its crime but I have been a victim of it 3 x here in Tucson.  And Yes I do like in a good area.  What are your ladies thought about this?  Maybe this is not the right blog to be on for this…I am very active and love doing different things and loved my home but when crime comes in it puts one in a different light.  Trying to figure out the best thing to do.  appreciate your comments.  What a wonderful sight.  

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  8. Diamond Lill Diamond Lill says

    …not sure I understand what you mean by “places that are good for singles who are 50+”   Good in what way?

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    • Generic Image gordlyn says

      Places where I will find other women (and men) in the same boat.  Myself, having been divorced many years ago, and then having the good fortune to reconnect with somebody I first met at the age of 14, to marry and have several very good years together, find being a widow very different than being a divorcee.  I am not (and may never be) ready to even think about dating, let alone marrying again.  I do, however, want to be able to go out with other women (and men) to things like the theater, symphony, movies, etc., etc..  My married friends, at least here in Virginia Beach where I currently live, do not include me when they are out with their spouses and despite my involvement with many organizations in the community, I have not met any single women who are not in their 20s or early 30s.  My husband and I had always planned to move from the area when he was ready to retire from the federal government and the only reason I moved here in the first place was because this is where he lived.

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      • semi-red3 semi-red3 says

        I was widowed at 49 after a 20 year marriage and two children who are now 21 and 17.  I live in NOVA (Washington DC suburb) and ABSOLUTELY HATE IT.  It’s the worst area to meet men in, in my opinion.  In almost six years I have only met four men, and two of them were completely undateable.  The neighborhood I live in has no single men I would even consider dating and it’s so boring I want to cry.
        Fortunately I did meet someone online who I have been with for four and a half years.  He lives in Annapolis, MD where I have purchased a townhouse that is currently a rental.  I am to sell my house and move there in the spring after my sons graduate…oldest from college, youngest from high school.  I don’t see any compelling reason to stay here…I feel like I would just die alone in this house and that’s the last thing I want.
        When I am in Annapolis, I get so much more attention than I do in VA.  I’m not sure why.  If my relationship does not work out, I have considered moving to SC…Charleston/Hilton Head in particular.  We’ll see.
        At any rate, I have to get out of here…I think six years of dealing with this is quite enough.  I would love to get married again but I can’t see that happening anytime soon.  My bf is divorced after a 33 year marriage and doesn’t seem interested.

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  9. JeanetteB JeanetteB says

    The best cure for loneliness are friends, especially women friends and you can NEVER have enough.  I have never remarried from a divorce and it gets lonely sometimes but I keep myself busy especially with my women friends.  Some of my friends are married and they often include me or we have meals just us women.  Lived in many places: Montreal, Chicago, LA, Oklahoma, NY and now in Northern Virginia.  Places do not matter only people you surround yourself with.  Love to travel alone or with compatible travelling companion, dining out and hang out somewhere, discussions about life and love.  I’m not an outdoors kind of gal but a positive 63 year old!

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    • dcc1946 dcc1946 says

      Hello, I am also 63 and I enjoyed reading your article. I wish you lived in Knoxville, TN area, because you made me feel better by just reading what you had to say. I enjoy traveling too, but I am usually alone.  I do not have very many women friends here, majority of the ones I know are married or have a boyfriend.  

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      • JeanetteB JeanetteB says

        Hi dcc1946, thank you for your kind remark.  I was in TN to visit a dear friend who was visiting her father.  She lives in Dubai with her husband. I’m always open for new friendships and who knows we might have a lot of things in common!  Wouldn’t that be wonderful?

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      • dcc1946 dcc1946 says

        I have never heard of Dubai. Where is that city located? Let me know if you are ever in east Tennessee and maybe I could meet you some place.

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      • JeanetteB JeanetteB says

        Dubai is inthe United Arab Emirates in the Middle East (http://www.duba.ae).  I believe it now has the tallest building in the world.  Their wealth comes from oil.  I will surely let you know when I’m in your area and please don’t hesitate to let me know if you’re ever in the Washington, D.C. or Northern Virginia area.  My email is in my profile.

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      • dcc1946 dcc1946 says

        Thanks for getting back to me. If it is okay with you I will try and put your email in with my email list of friends. Is your first name Jeanette?? 

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      • JeanetteB JeanetteB says

        MY pleasure and don’t hesitate to use it.  Jeanette is my name.  Looking forward to hearing from you.

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    • Generic Image spicegirl says

      Hello JeanetteB!!!!!   I LOVED reading your comments!!!!  Your positive attitude is FABULOUS!!!!  I try to be a positive person also.  Being negative gets a person nowhere.  I am 64 years of age, and have been a widow since I was 48.  After being married for almost 30 years, it is a COMPLETE SHOCK to one’s system to be single again now in this world.  The world of dating is so different now than in years past.  I wholeheartily agree with you that you can never have enough women friends!!!!  I really don’t know how we would live without each other.  Women friends, who are real true friends, are a gift from God!!!!  Like you also, I LOVE TO TRAVEL.  At the present time, I am dating a wonderful gentleman and we do travel together some.  I have never traveled alone, but I have been thinking about it seriously for the last coule of months.  There is one thing about it, you can do what you want, when you want, and for how long you want.  It sounds like that might be nice, that is if you do not mind being alone.  Do you travel alone a lot???  Do you feel safe being alone on a trip???  Do you drive or fly??  I hope I get up the courage to try it someday.  I want to learn about new things, stretch my wings and grow.  So hopefully I will try it sometime.  Also, I am in the process of checking out the website that you listed about the information network.  Sounds interesting.  How long have you been a member and how has it benefited you, besides meeting all these people???  Hope you don’t mind me asking all these questions.  I am wanting to learn all I can about new things.  Thanks and God Bless.

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      • JeanetteB JeanetteB says

        Hey spicegirl, hope you don’t picture me bouncing against the wall (what a sight!) because  there are times when, as everyone knows, it takes real effort to be positive but as I tell people I do NOT need anyone to pull me down because I can absolutely do that better myself if I so choose.  I feel honored you checked my profile.  Global Information Network is great and welcome everyone.  I have learned so many interesting ideas and met friends.  As I grow older, I realize how many things I don’t know.  This is a very new social, financial organization (2009) and meets all over the world, Zurich, US, Germany and last November the meeting which I attended was held in Cancun, Mexico.  I will be going to their next meeting at the Dominican Republic on the 28th.  My roommate, from Miami, for the DR had to cancel so I sent an SOS and now my new roommate is flying from Ireland.  Please feel free to log in and listen to as many cds as you want to and let me know if you have any questions.  One of my plans when I can afford to retire is to buy an RV and travel the byways of this great country.  I can travel alone but it’s always more interesting to have someone to exchange ideas with.  BTW, my profile has my email.  

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      • dcc1946 dcc1946 says

        Hello, I have been alone for over 30 years. I am 63 have been alone since I was 33. You mention that you were afraid to travel alone. I have AAA and a cell phone. This makes me feel safer. If I have car problems I can call AAA and if I want to talk to someone I can use my cell phone. I had rather travel alone, I can go where I please, stay as long as I want and spend as much as I want. I don’t have to ask someone else what they want to do. I do not fly, I hate flying. I drive where I go. I have a car that gets about 40 miles a gallon, so money is not a problem. I have a son that lives 500 miles from me, I wouldn’t hesitate a minute to go see him and his children.  Its funny when you just date that man is the best in the world, but after you get married, most of the time, it changes. Things are not as good as they use to be. I know I was married for 15 years. He cheated on me the entire time we were married. It is very hard for me to trust another man. We only live once and at 64 you are not getting any younger. Take care and enjoy yourself.   

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  10. Generic Image wendyw says

    Go to findyourspot.com. It’s a fun website that provides a questionnaire in which you enter criteria for certain qualities you’re looking for in a place. As a result of the questionnaire, it will give you twenty places (cities / towns etc) that may fit your preferences. Another cool thing is The Caretaker Gazette–an online subscription that lists caretaking job possibilities that can get you out in the world while providing you with a place to live.

    I’ve been divorced for 9 years and live in a rural tundra in western NY. My kids are gone, I’ve been gifted with a lay-off from my school counseling job of 20 years. I. too. am ready to relocate. It takes a lot of guts (scares the heck out of me), but more power to you!!! Good luck!

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  11. texasrose texasrose says

    Hi gordlyn!  I’m 52 also.  I put another post on here, as a reply to damselfly09, which makes a recommendation of Palm Beach County, South Florida.  Good luck in your search — I hope you let us know where you decide to go.  Isn’t it great to meet so many other wonderful, vibrant women on this site!!

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    • mariagraziaswan mariagraziaswan says

      to katycreek

      Yes, I’m familiar with Chat Chew and Chocolate, I was at their very first event, back when, on Shea Blv and Tatum. The problem is, it costs money and it is the same thing over and over. My facebook page Get Off The Couch Tuesdays can be practiced anywhere the only rules are, no sitting to eat and no sitting to watch TV or play computer. I’m trying to convince women do some kind of activity outside the home. I’m giving away free copies of my book to women posting photos of what they did, so far I have someone in California and one in Luisiana willing to do it, or  so they say. I’m taking a group to Yoga kamala in Scottsdale, February 9th. Free yoga and they can win goodies. You are welcome to join us. Take care.

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      • KatyCreek KatyCreek says

        Hi

        Would love to join you all! I will be up that way ( McKellips/202) on the 9th for an 11am apt. What time are you going? I live 20 miles south of Maricopa and so pretty much plan all my trips “north” to do as much as possible while up there.

        If you ever find yourselves out this way, we live up against BLM land and can hike right out the back door.  There are some photos of the area on my facebook  ( katycreek). 

         

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  12. Generic Image magiemae says

    Arizona, Phoenix or Flagstaff area.  Lots of retired men come here because of the weather

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    • dcc1946 dcc1946 says

      I have a nephew living in Phoenix and he loves it. He has started his own business there. I have been divorce for over 30 years and I live in Tennessee. I don’t know if I want to relocate or not. I hate moving. I have heard before that if you want to meet a nice man go to Arizona.

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      • Generic Image magiemae says

        Come for a visit.  We call them snow birds, people who come for the winter and leave in the summer.  Then you can decide if you like it or not

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      • dcc1946 dcc1946 says

        That is true. Good idea.  

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  13. LeslieAnnB LeslieAnnB says

    Hi Gordlyn!  This is something I think about as well, although I’m not sure I’m past the “thinking” stage.  I think that everything Newwoman1 brings up is important.  One place that I have found good info is “Where To Retire” magazine.  The profile several communities each issue and give the info on all that important stuff.  Plus they also have a cost of living comparison grid that is very helpful.  Good luck!

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    • mariagraziaswan mariagraziaswan says

      to Katycreek

      The yoga class is from 6;45 to 7;45 pm. We are trying to accommodate working women. I also get my boots on, step out the door and hike the North side of Piestowa Peak, formerly known as Squaw Peak. I just changed my http://www.mariagrazia.tv site  so that I can post the activities, it also available on Get Off The Couch-Facebook- or you can contact me personally, google my name, Maria Grazia Swan. Thanks to all the fabulous ladies who became fans of GOTCT.

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  14. Lynnette Lynnette says

    Arizona sounds like a nice place to live.  WPalm Beach is also nice but expensive.  I live in Pembroke Pines not too far from WPB.  If money is no problem then go for WPB.  Rent first and see if u like it before you buy.  I am looking for a good place and also a cheaper place than So Florida.  Although sometimes i think Miami Beach may be a great option.  I only need a one bedroom apartment.   But i still have 7 years until retirement.  Have to find a place that i can buy cash and not pay a mortgage. 

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  15. FancyFrancie FancyFrancie says

    I’ve lived in several cities during my adult life, including Phoenix, AZ for 22 years (not there now).  A couple of caveats:  you bring yourself to every place, so don’t expect a ‘geographic cure.’  I’ve found you can make a good life for yourself wherever you are.  Meeting men?  I have yet to live in and/or know other women who live in cities that are better than others for meeting men; it can happen anywhere, but you do need to be proactive about it.  Re: AZ, specifically Phoenix, it is now a major metropolis with all the negatives that accompany that.  I lived there from ’74 – ’94, then went back for 2002 – 03; the change in the lifestyle, not in a good way, was dramatic.  If possible, spend some time in any city you are considering, during its worst time of year, i.e., summer in Phoenix, to get a more real feel for the place.  Good luck.  I believe change is positive.

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  16. Generic Image jay1959 says

    You don’t want to live in Palm Beach County, Florida.  There are much nicer areas throughout Florida that would be  safer.  Naples, Sarasota, and St. Augustine are all nice, and Sarasota is not far from Tampa.  They are a bit pricey though.   

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  17. LilTigg LilTigg says

    Don’t jump ‘ship’ until you have throughly investigated places to live – go in peek season and off season, see what craft/hobby/cultural & other interests are catered for. You don’t want to move and then find you have the same problems elsewhere. I found a passion in writing and joined a writers group – it has changed my life and given me some good friends with the same passion. It is daunting to go to the first few meetings but a kindred soul will approach you and the rest is easy.

    Whilst reading this blog I have to say it is very common for women to be alone – maybe Vibrant Nation could start face to face meetings in each area??? Just an idea.

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    • mariagraziaswan mariagraziaswan says

      Mandy, that’s precisely why I started that Get Off The Couch Tuesdays page on Facebook, to encourage women to step away from the computer, off the couch and reconnect face-to-face with the outside world. I’m hoping my free of charge group activities will help women re-entering the social scene to overcome their fears or hesitation. And perhaps encourage women in other cities to do the same.

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  18. Keep Looking Up! Keep Looking Up! says

    Once my divorce is final, this 50+ gal is heading to AZ! Checking it out at it’s worst time of year- July! Been investigating it for months through blogs, chamber of commerce, job alerts and every sign is pointing me west. Thanks for all the helpful posts! :)

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  19. Generic Image Stuey says

    Not ever man in their 50′s want to date women in their 50′s, that presents a shortage of eligible men. Any city will present this problem. The problem might not be finding men, but in finding men who are financially secure, emotionally secure or emotionally present and of course, physically fit.  I still work out, a lot, but I notice many men my age (52) do not.  Im not sure why that is, I just enjoy being in a gym a few days a week.  Washington Dc is very competitive for dating, for all ages.  Busy city but finding a mate is all about being ready to find one. It can happen anywhere and I think, you dont have to switch cities for this. I’ve been thinking of moving for a long time. One day, I will. Hopefully to a warm climate.

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  20. Sonho Sonho says

    hey Semi-Red, I live in NOVA too.  I chose to move here after my separation for some very specific reasons as I was abroad when my marriage exploded.  Anyway, I understand your comments re the suburban boredom but have found plenty of men to date (should I wish to) and lots of things to do.  I don’t anticipate staying here once the kids have graduated HS, but for now it’s good.  Maybe we need a vibrant nation meet up?!  :p

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  21. semi-red3 semi-red3 says

    Sonho, where do you live?  I’m in Fairfax, and it’s the most boring place on earth.  Everyone is married….I’ve met no one locally that was dateable so I went online.
    I would love to meet other women my age to hang around with..most people in my age group are still married. (I’m widowed)

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    • Sonho Sonho says

      Semi-Red, I am in Fairfax too.  Having just moved here this past summer, I know no one and would love to meet.  I will send you a pm.
      cheers,
      J

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      • Sonho Sonho says

        Yikes!  I can’t figure out how to send a pm through this site…maybe it isn’t possible?  Anyway, if you would like to touch base, shoot me an email at slojan2000atyahoodotcom.
        Happy New Year!

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  22. semi-red3 semi-red3 says

    I am thinking of creating a separate post for this…we can pick a day and a time and then take it from there.  I wonder if there are others on this board from this area that would also be interested.

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