Do you agree with the following statement? Would you consider such a relationship if you are unattached at an older age?
Elisabeth Hasselbeck thinks a lot of older lesbians would have turned out straight … if they could only land a man. The co-host of “The View” said older women who have led lives of heterosexuality are choosing same-sex partners because men their age are chasing younger women. “All the older men are going for younger women, leaving the women with no one,” Hasselbeck said on Tuesday. Joy Behar, a co-host of the show, immediately blasted the 33-year-old, calling her late-blooming lesbian claim “ridiculous.” “Being gay is not just holding hands and walking through the tulips,” Behar said. “I don’t think that you suddenly wake up and say, ‘You know, I think I want to do that.’ You wanted to do it; you were just trapped in a system that said ‘get married.’ ” Hasselbeck then said that women might turn to homosexuality later in life not for sex, but companionship.
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Once again, E. Hasselbeck shows her ignorance.
Stupid twit!! I dont watch that show because of her.
Not only is she a complete idiot but a narrow minded bigoted one at that!
She is on TV because she was a reality TV show contestant. That makes her an authority on what???
Right on that point…..although I have to say I have never watched the show….she is a non-celebrity in my book….I don’t even know what she looks like…..but she sure sounds ignorant…..
Great point Haralee. I remember reading years ago that American TV has be dumbed down to focus on 12 year olds. I know 12 year olds who wouldn’t buy into this-wonder where we are at now?
The idea that homosexuality is a choice continues to amaze me. At first I wondered WHO would ever CHOOSE to be in a class of people who get so much grief, are treated so abominably by so many, etc. Now, after a long life, a couple of miserable marriages, a few iffy long-term relationships, and learning to be happy alone, I wish I could choose to be in love with one of my wonderful women friends. But NO. We laugh, we love each other, we could probably even share a home successfully. But a bed, sex? Uh-uh. Not even going there. Gack. It’s just not one of those things we even can imagine.
Elizabeth Hasselbeck has been incredibly fortunate. She is white, healthy, blonde, beautiful, upper middle class, married to her athlete hunk hero husband, has perfectly beautiful children, and is strong in her faith. She’s Republican and believes herself to be a patriot. I hope that she is able to spend the rest of her life without ever having to truly test her belief system. So few of us do.
KGrandma: I had actually considered this FOR A MINUTE!!! However, I don’t have a penchant for women sexually – therefore, I CHOOSE to go through life alone rather than be aggravated with the sorry excuse for men that I’ve come across these days. Even though Hasselbeck is aggravating and ignorant, I wonder if she may have a point in this case. I know of at least two women in our age group who decided to “hook up” rather than to be alone or go through the constant disappointment of a heterosexual relationship. But then these women were horribly abused by the men they were with.
Interestingly, as my life moves right along through the years, I see a lot of people like this who happily breeze through life in their total ignorance and incredible luck….my exhusband being one of those….so mean and self centered, yet incredibly successful in life…..such is life….
This is the first blog with 100% negativity….I must not tell a lie and I agrre with each of your statement , I like the first
20 min of the view especially because i like get the women view on what is happening.Joyce is funny but for real.. Whoopi is…Whoopi and she keeps the show on the ground and sometimes over the top,
Sherry has much improved as time goes on but Elizabeth has a ” Stay inside the box mentality” that will not allow her to get beyond the OPINIONS. OF HERSELF..
The View is Like CBS, MSNBC, PBS and FOX NUZ …guess who is FOX NUZ?
when I saw you say that she will not allow herself to go beyond her own opinions, it reminded me of something my husband used to say. “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but not their own facts.”
ohhhhhhhhhhh, that quote is brilliant. i think you should take credit for it, lol!
I do not have an opinion of her per se, but do notice that she is always getting in trouble for what she says. This leads me to believe that she has been chosen as “the odd one” by the Producers of the show. Remember TV programs need ratings to survive, the others have a reputation at stake, she is a nobody so she is the one that has been chosen to play dumb and dumber all in one. I refuse to believe that she is this stupid in real life.
Bingo!!! Their theory is that we all need someone to hate — and she is ‘it’. Ratings, etc. Right on.
Hi all,
I don’t watch “The View”, so I’m not siding with anybody, but do want share something of interest.
I know an older woman, quite well, who was happily married twice, both long term marriages. In her later years (late fifties), she was alone and oh, so lonely, when she met a younger, attractive, lesbian woman, quite by accident (long story). Anyway, they had mutual friends and were ‘thrown’ together, socially, playing bridge, dinners out, etc.
They shared a similar humor and interests (politics). My friend was overweight and thought she was ‘over the hill’ as far as relationships. One snowy evening, when they found themselves alone, because other friends had cancelled, they had a long talk. She told me that she had never thought it could happen to her, but she fell in love with a woman!!
To make a long, amazing story short, they have been together for about eight years and are perfect for one another! They have a lovely home, travel, share her grand children, her daughters have learned to love her new mate…and so it goes.
I don’t know Elizabeth Hasselbeck, but have seen it first hand, a woman can ‘switch’ and find love with a same sex mate.
Me…well, I love my man!
P.S.
If you are wondering what happened to her husbands, well, her first one died in an accident (she was pregnant at the time). She married again, to a much older man, when her daughter was around eight.
She and her second husband had a daughter together and he died from a heart attack, when the child was about twelve years old.
Hi Evie,
That’s a wonderful story and it has a happy ending for your friend-good for her and her partner. Thanks for sharing it with us.
I live in the San Francisco bay area where many are comfortable and open about their sexual orientation. I know women who are bisexual and have been involved in long term sequential relationships with both sexes. The divorce rate amongst heterosexuals leads to long term sequential relationships with different people of the same sex. It’s basically the same thing-we all fall in love with someone and want to share everything with that person.
IMHO E. Hasselbeck’s view is demeaning to women. They can’t land a man so they turn to women-this is ridiculous-she is portraying these women as being desperate.
Love what you wrote!
Evie: This is EXACTLY what I’m talking about when I say I can understand where Hasselbeck is coming from. Nobody in this world wants -or deserves – to be alone and many older women who have been in fu#^*ked up heterosexual relationships are seriously considering “switching” to avoid the pain of loneliness. I – too – know of women in our age group who have “switched” and they are happier for it (my Aunt being one of them). They say sometimes you can find happiness in your own backyard – and there is somebody for everybody. They don’t say it has to necessarily be the same sex – but my feeling is – whatever floats your boat and makes you happy. Who are we to judge.
No way. Anyone who “switches” was always either bisexual or a lesbian all along. We are brought up from infancy to be wives and mothers, and most of us never question the traditional female role. A LOT of us never enjoy sex with men all that much, but blame ourselves or his lack of skill or anything BUT homosexuality. If a situation occurs later that causes questioning, experimenting, whatever, then the biological hard wiring was always there.
I have honestly said many times that with the paucity of available decent men in my generation, I would cheerfully and instantly turn to women if it were possible for me. It’s not. I am a reluctant, but definite, heterosexual.
But you ARE judging! To say that nobody in this world wants to be alone is totally wrong, according to statistics, and to my own and friends’ anecdotal experiences. I have a wonderful, large circle of friends, who, like myself, have CHOSEN to spend their last decades without a mate, and are extremely happy with that choice. Alone does not equal lonely for many people.
Lyn: Maybe I worded it wrong and if I did I’m sorry. I am without a mate and VERY happy. I guess what I meant is nobody wants to feel lonely – but then again – that can happen even if you’re in a room full of people. It all depends on the perception. Again – I don’t judge.
Hi persimian,
I understand what you meant!
If a woman is unhappy living alone, it is great if she finds a companion, male, or female, to share her life with! It is painful for some people to live alone!
Many women, like yourself, are perfectly content living alone. “Whatever “floats your boat” is right!
P.S. May women, on this site, are married and extremely lonely, so there you go!
Agreed..
True. But I think sometimes it’s all about semantics. “Lonely” sounds awful, so “alone” can seem just as sad and tragic. But you can be lonely, truly desperately lonely, in the middle of making love to someone. And in a totally different senario, completely lonely in a crowded room. Fear of being alone has led a zillion women to stay in hideous unfulfilling, rotten, abusive, LONELY relationships.
I’ve lived alone since my last child flew the coop about 12 years ago. And my life is full. I’m busy, wrapped up in all kinds of activities, and like my life.
Here’s the thing: I do whatever I want. My money is mine and I spend it as I choose. I eat what/when I want, and do pretty much whatever I choose, answering to no one. It works for me.
A study I read said that the happiest people in the world are married men. Second? Single women. At the bottom? Married women. Think about it.
Amen! That’s the statistic I was referring to: And why not? I’ve been saying for 25 years that if I could find a wife, I’d get married! (Only kidding, folks–I love my solitude too much to share it with anyone).
I live in a senior residence with 32 other women and 2 men, all living singly for one reason or another. There is no reason to be lonely here, but many are by their own behaviors and choices. Those who are pleasant and friendly find more than enough friends and activities, regardless of their health limitations.One of my favorite quotes, bey nature writer, Sally Carragher, is this:Happiness attracts; others borrow one’s joy.”
Actually, I do have a sort of “wife” now, courtesy of the Office of the Aging–she comes for three hours a week and shops, cleans, launders, takes out the garbage, etc., entertains me, than goes home and leaves me alone! Perfect!
If by being alone you mean single and without a partner that’s different then being alone. I often choose bouts of aloneness and solitude for my sake. I need the time. That was true when I was married and in a romantic relationship too. If I feel lonely it is usually because I have lost connection with my soul and with God and that’s what I feel lonely for.
Wanting the company of other people is different. When I want company of other people that is easily remedied, I call someone, I go where there are people. Sometimes I want company but don’t want to make the effort with people.
I would love to be in a partnership with a good man and I meet my share of men, when the right one comes along I’m ready in the mean time I have great men friends.
Life is too short and too precious to be in an unhealthy relationship with anyone because you are afraid of being alone and undefined by a relationship. Why are people so afraid of being alone. If you can’t be with yourself why would anyone else want to?
I agree with you WM. Being married is great …but there are times I realize being single gives you more leverage to do so many things when you are a passionate , and out going person to help others , you have to share your time and our self. I consider my marriage as up int top percentile as a good marriage , m husband support me and does not ”stand” in my way, but I can feel vibes and sometimes he want the attention ,, and I pull back from some of my projects and give him that. I have said , the example my mother set for me was you can do most anything by yourself even live alone and not be lonely when you are in a” healthy spiritual” relationship with yourself and that is the best relationship in the world to have ,because someone will be left and someone will be alone at some point ..but lonely doesn’t have to be the “verb” of your life only an occasionally visitor , that leaves quickly as YOU (YOU )Omnipotent Universe appears)
I think women do turn to one another for companionship, from the time we are young children. Why should that stop? I can’t say that it’s for a physical relationship, tho, in senior years. Some may be, others not. Personally, I think older women should look for younger men, but that’s just IMHO. As long as people are happy…..
RaggedyAnn, I totally agree with you and all older females have my vote…TRACK
P.S. if you are happy were you’re at with whomever, good for you…
It’s not a matter of changing sexual preferences, its realising that a female companion is so much more attuned to your thoughts, struggles, life experience that it is a more joyful relationship than one with an embittered, old man who either gets under your feet and even more demanding or decides to go off with a younger model. OMG!
No matter which path we tread, what life has thrown at us we are stronger and more self reliant – we survive so why not norish our inner self with someone who understands us at a much deeper level?
Hey, ladies,
Interesting input from everybody! I have a house full of company and would love to join in…maybe later!
I never cared for anything she said, I feel she is a spoiled brat, very judgmental, and stupid. She gives a whole new meaning to “dumb blonde”. I wish she’d shut up and go away, never to be in the public forum again. Stay home & raise her kids & play house. They could find someone much more worthy to replace her on the View.
Totally agree – she adds nothing worthwhile to the show. I wish they’d replace her so I never have to hear anything out of her again. There must be other choices for representing the conservative viewpoint at that table.
Did you see the Obama interview? When she had an opportunity to ask a question, she appeared to make an effort to seem put-upon, sighing deeply and with a real sense of pained I’ll-be-civil-because-he’s-the-president. She looked like an adolescent called before the principal, set to justify actions that her teen sorority had assured her were correct. To be honest, I’ve been among those gravely disappointed in this administration. It feels like Congress is mired in self interest and that not even a smart, well educated, driven president can make any real changes, but once again, Obama came through. He talked about what has been accomplished and about what is on the agenda. It restored some of my confidence. Not all, but our expectations were really high, and moving the albatross that our governing bodies have become is a Herculean task.
you are so on point I saw the show…ans she has such a hard time being “kind” in your language I caught the negative language i the questions one of the words come to mind was the President “s Boasting….. she was the only one who had that tone of ” You have not kept your promise” I loved how he explained about the people who had kept their jobs and those who had got jobs saw it differently in other words things could be so much worst for so many more…
He is such a great calm example for all of us in the midst of a “storm” We don’t have to fear being embarrassed by his mouth or his actions and yes he has a great job ahead of him and I am giving him time and pray for the best because I do love this country,
Just the kind of narrow minded drivel I have come to expect from her.
Yes, narrow-minded and dangerously uninformed. She wrote a book on Celiac Disease which is full of misinformation–she obviously doesn’t know the difference between opinion and facts. You all have confirmed my decision to stop watching when she came on years ago.