I had been on SeniorPeopleMeet.com for a couple of months back in June. I had just gotten scammed by an engineer in Nigeria. Yeah, I know-how dumb can one be? This guy was good but he got nothing from me but a little piece of my pride.
I wrote like 130 differnet guys just being lippy and crass and having fun. I was most definitely was not looking for anyone very far away from Iowa.
I had lived in AZ in 2002 during the Rodeo-Chediski forest fire and I noticed a profile of a guy fighting a brush fire in AZ. I wanted to thank him for his volunteer service because that is about all there is in remote parts of the country. Even here in Iowa most fire departments are volunteer and I appreciate the folks who donate their time and lay down their lives for my protection.
On June 22 I sent Ken a thank you and he wrote back–in complete sentences and told an interesting story. From there we began to write and tease and have a lot of fun. Remember fun?
I had almost forgot how to spell it much less experience it. Even some great erotic messaging went on–and still is. After only 3 weeks of writing and by then we were talking on the phone I booked a flight to go visit him. I knew pretty quickly he was someone I really wanted to get to know better.
To make a long story short-I’m moving out there to live with him at the end of September. It’s a miracle as far as I’m concerned. He was looking for a casual relationship and I was looking for some fun and now we have both taken it serious.
I’m a very average 59 year old who never thought I would find the love of my life. Will it continue to be a fairy tale like it has been in the last 77 days? I doubt it but I like him and he likes me. With the kind of appreciation we have for each other I think we can build a great late in life experience. (He’s 65.)
My daughter is very unhappy with me for dropping out of being her on-call child care provider. She and hubby work weekends so it will be difficult to replace me and I will miss the grandkids. My mom is furious with me for being an old fool and self-centered enough to want a life of my own. But neither one of them will be able to brow beat me into submission.
If Ken and I only get a few good years I will be thrilled. I never saw the possibility of being this happy at this point of my life. I am excited about my life. They will not take that away from me.
My true friends are extremely happy for me. I can’t thank them enough for their support. They will be waiting anxiously for the rest of the story.
If you think people out here don’t care–you are very wrong. I want to thank TRACK for checking on why she hadn’t seen me on here for a while but it was because I’m busy in a wonderful way.
Don’t give up, girlfriends. I am a testimony that great things can happen to the ugly Bettys of the world. I’ll keep you posted on my adventure and keep cheering for me. I thank God that I found this site and listened to others who have been willing to take a chance on happiness.
Kudo's to you Alicia! Wow you've accomplished quite a lot in your life and you will with dating too at some point. Hang in there! Hugs back! Lisa
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Holy crap! What a sad story. Congrats on overcoming that hurdle. Wow.
How I would handle it. FIrst, I would get into therapy; that could go a long way to helping you and your difficulties.
Second (boundaries are necessary in life)..when your kids call for advice, I would FIRST ask them what their thoughts are an
Let me be the first on here to congratulate you. So happy for both of you. You have a great guy. I know because my husband was a volunteer for many years. He put more hours into his volunteering than into his real job. You have earned it and I think in time, after they get over themselves, your family will see this as a good thing for you. Cheers.
Old Tom Boy, Don’t let family or friends take your life away for their betterment only! It’s about you this time, WAY TO GO! I Love Romance, best of luck to the both of you…TRACK ((BIG HUGS))
omg I am beyond thrilled for you. Seize the Moment, Indeed!
how great is that – all the very best. Yes, it is now time for YOU. Good luck.
I am so happy for you. I am one of those, who think it can never happen, or is it ever….my turn?
After 36 years of abuse, etc., et…..been on the dating sites for 5 years…..ick
Love and Hugs and grab all of the happiness you can…..”If it is to be, it is up to…ME!”
I so thoroughly enjoyed reading this, Old tom boy! You go seize every moment with Ken, and tell your family to grow up. (Okay, maybe you should be less blunt than that, LOL.)
What a heartwarming story. May you and Ken live long and happily together in AZ.
Awesome, awesome, awesome!!! I’m so happy for you. Keep us posted.
Ditto to what the others have said, but I do take issue with …”I am a testimony that great things can happen to the ugly Bettys of the world.”… That statement is just absolutely not true! You are beautiful and I bet Ken agrees. Have fun and develop that friendship along with falling in love, it will get you through the tough times. Best wishes!
“Will it continue to be a fairy tale like it has been in the last 77 days?”
Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you.
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Old Tom Boy,
I am fairly new to VN, so don’t know you, but what a wonderful story. I hope it goes well. Wishing you the very best. And I’ve always thought life is what you make it, we just have to be open to the possibilities. Congrats!
I’m so happy for you too! How exciting….
Wishing you all the best, you give me hope…………..I’m
OTB, what a great post to read. Congratulations, this sounds like the makings of the real deal. You deserve it~! Much happiness and wishes for all the best………..Dallas Lady
Good for you! Love your attitude!!! Have a great time and keep us posted. It gives me hope for meeting my “mountain man” one of these days!
Great to hear that someone has had success. I have had a few good responses online, but haven’t found quite the right one. Just keep plugging along…. Figure he is out there somewhere. I have had a few good conversations that were full of fun and bantering and then suddenly changed…. No idea why, but sure miss that. Now, that I know what I like and what I am looking for …. I am sure that it is bound to happen. Like you I just respond to whomever catches my eye or whomever seems to have a profile that indicates lots of fun.. As my friends say, this is my new hobby…..:) Hope I have the kind of experience that you did.
Yes, you will, ella. I have met a wonderful man through an on-line site after 2 months of free lunches with nice, but boring men. i am now trying hard (not really) to take it slow with my new found love, but I think that ship has sailed…LOL.
It is about just being intentional, right? I am working on making sure that I am putting the intention/ manifestation of what I want into the universe each time that I write a response to a profile…I am guessing that if I keep doing that and remember that this is about finding someone to have some good times, good talks and dare I say, eventually good sex with- that the right person will see the value in responding to my banter. Have seen your posts on a number of occassions and have been in such agreement with what you aay….. will keep you posted as to the journey. Have a great day.
Yes, it is you must be very honest in stating what you are looking for. Good luck!
I am sooooo happy for you. Best wishes to you and Ken!!
WONDERFUL NEWS!!!!!!!!!
Congradulations! I wish you happiness.I have had similar results x2.Yes-I am seeing 2 men who are in 2 different states but within driving distance.Sounds complicated and may turn out that way but not at the moment.
I think you can go for the gusto! i am 64 so I know your man knows his clock is ticking faster than yours right now.I bet you will have some great times.
My late hubby was a lot older than I but we had a wonderful marriage and some good times boxed up in a few years.My children were not happy either but they got over it when they saw how great we were together.
Have fun and wish you love and rainbows.
Old Tom Boy I am so happy for you, thanks for sharing this great news, you give us all hope, and I wish you the very best of everything, continue to follow your dreams, and so what is good for you!
Congratulations! I’m here to second it, to anyone who might have doubts. About 15 months ago, just as I was about to chuck the whole on-line thing out the window, I met the love of my life. After about two years of very frustrating experiences, I’d decided that I’d go out on this “one last date.” Thank goodness I didn’t stop two weeks earlier or I would have missed out on the most loving, funny, smart and good man that I’ve ever met. We’ve been together ever since and moved in together 8 months ago. I’ve laughed more and enjoyed life more than I ever had in my adult life before him. Since we’re both from long-lived families, we’re looking forward to the next 20, 30 or 40 years together.
Old Tom Boy, I loved your post! I also met my husband on an on-line dating service. And like you, I had to separate the chaff from the wheat. However, I met my Prince Charming, my soulmate, the love of my life in July 2005, and married him on May 20, 2006, in my very own, fairy-tale wedding (which I didn’t get when I was younger!). We’ve been through lots of ups and downs, as all couples have, but we are more in love today than ever! And don’t let your family dissuade you from staying in this beautiful relationship. We had our critics, too, and now they all love my husband, Kurt, and are delighted we got together. They only need to see how happy you are to know that this relationship was right for you! Keep us posted!
Great news it can happen and it did for me too. I was widowed for 7 yrs and did the online thing.
we talked then meet for lunch and full speed ahead. after 2 year we are engaged waiting for our
teens to get done with school and trying to sell to houses then getting married hopefully in sept
all the best be happy you only livr once dont let other interfer.
You go girl! I am a member of the same site and have met several interesting men. I have not found the love of my life, but understand how life can be fun again. I had several bad experiences also, but they made me smarter and I can spot them almost instantly by the sameness of their profiles and the line of bull…. they spread. I wish you the best in your new life and I will look forward to updates on how your are adjusting/enjoying it. You are an encouragement and inspiration to continue exploring the possibilities that can’t be found at home.
“I am excited about my life. They will not take that away from me.”
Good for you! Add me to your cheering section. Reading your post started my day in the most wonderful way.
Thank you for telling us about this. You give new meaning to the word Hope.
Good for you. All it takes is one. You prove my dating point in my book, Sex For Grownups. Ail it takes is ”getting out there” and willingness to risk. You go girl.
I guess it is about time for an update. I have been with Ken for 6 weeks now and it has been the six best weeks of my life. Time has been flying by. We are together pretty much 24/7 because we are working his business together. We seem to the ying and yang to each other.
My family is still trying to drag me back but I’m not going. My mother has disowned me and won’t talk to me. This is going to make the holidays a little more stressful but we will survive. My daughter is doing better though she would like it if I would return immediately to being her full time babysitter.
I miss my grandkids terribly. They keep asking me to come see them whenever we talk. It’s tough for them to understand how far away I am.
I’ll keep you all posted on how great life can be. We both know how blessed we are to have found each other. We never expected to be this happy at this point in life.
Thanks for all the posts and keep believing.
Keep up the good work ENJOY ecah other
So happy for you! I’m a believer… ♥♥
Happy, happy happy!!! YAY!!!
)…TRACK