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From vicky1956
vicky1956
I am willing to wait for an emotional connection. Sex, to me, is more about what’s in my head first. Once in awhile I see someone who seems like he might tick all the boxes…no pun intended, but I’m never really interested enough to bother.
I finally wrote down what I will be looking for when I decided to look.
- Financially secure…I do not respect men who expect me to pay for everything. My almost last ex husband spent every dime he had and a lot of what I had…and I am left with his debt…which I assumed just to get it over with. I still came out better off.
- Along with financial security I want someone who is generous, and not just to me. I want someone who sees the needs of others and quietly steps in to help to the degree he can.
- Those two add up to security, and that is important to me.
- Someone with a sense of humor, but not at the expense of others. I don’t like it when people make fun of others.
- Someone who won’t be flattered and succumb to every short skirt that walks by (first ex husband).
- Someone who will at least pretend to think my daughters, sister, niece, nephew, etc. Are as wonderful as I know they are.
- Someone who appreciates when I cook a special meal or his favorite cake…and doesn’t criticize (ex 2)
- Someone who notices when I dress up and smell good.
- Someone who is masculine, but not macho.
- Smart, but not a smart a–.
In return, I will respect, lift up, and support. And not expect perfection, since I am far from it. I guess I want a lover, not just sex. Is that too much to ask?
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I can sure relate to these conversations. I got divorced when my kids were small and met friends through my kids daycare and we have kept in touch over the years. They are good friends but I don't get to see them as much as I'd like to. This past mon
Very beautiful. I meditate when I get home from work. I get up at 5:30 and just can't get motivated to get up any earlier. When I wake up in the middle of the night, I immediately go to prayer. It's comforting. Teresa
No, it’s not too much to ask at all. In fact, it’s spot on.
It’s a great list. For me I also need someone who makes me laugh. Good luck finding your guy. He’s out there somewhere.
Sit down with paper and pen and review each significant relationship of your life…on one side write the qualities you liked about this person and the other the qualities that you didn’t. Then look at all the papers together. Look for and mark the commonalities. Are you attracted to generous men who later impress everyone else with their money or overreaching efforts to please? what one quality was missing that would have save the relationship? It will give you a head start on the next relationship.