Well, I did it. I met a man online, exchanged a few emails, and made a date for drinks. This is HUGE for me. And I actually WENT and had drinks.
And I couldn’t wait to get out of there and go home. Don’t get me wrong…he is a really nice man and I doubt he was any more interested in me than I was in him. It looked good on paper, but not in real life. We exchanged the typical information, amd then I asked the question I was dying to ask…” How is this online thing working for you?” Well…he told me about several women he had dated. Told me that a couple of them only wanted sex and he felt a little used. I told him that was probably payback for his younger years.
He was very honest. He told me he had no idea what he was looking for. Then he asked me what I was looking for…and I had a feeling of complete joy.
“Nothing,” I said. “I am looking for nothing…I really have it all right now. Great job, wonderful family, funny and interesting friends, new hobbies I am excited about. I am so happy that I am not really looking for anything.”
He asked, “You don’t want to get married and settle down?”
“No,” I answered. And I meant it. And while it scares me a little that I am not looking for ever after…it also makes me happy.
What a great ending to a mediocre experience. I hope he finds what he is looking for! He is a nice man.