I’m sure there are lots of women here who’ve tried online dating. I need some advice!
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Following my divorce in 1995, I dated a bit, got burned badly and gave it up. Hid behind kids and fat and bad clothes for years! Now I’m 54, kids are grown up, and although I’m very happy with my life as it is, I started thinking about growing old alone … although I’m deeply ambivalent about the pros/cons of being alone versus the disruption and potential for disaster that comes with any relationship, I put up an online profile.
So: last weekend, I had a coffee date with a younger guy who seems really nice. He’s invited me to dinner this weekend. I’m now driving myself crazy with ambivalence – do I want to do this, or do I not want to do this?
Anyone else had the same kind of mental gymnastics when they started dating again? I really do go to and fro about it, from telling myself – relax, it’s just a date! to – if you run away from this now, you may as well resign yourself to a long and lonely old age! to – wow, he’s a catch, but what if he turns out to be either a player OR not interested … how do I cope with those?
Why is it all so hard?!?!
Thanks for your wisdom, ladies.