A little history first. Husband died 6 years ago after being married for 28 years. Met him when I was 16.
Fast forward. Met man three years later, dated for over two years. He kept saying he would move-in but kept making excuses. He finally did but once he did I found out he was a daily pot smoker and an alcoholic. He also lied on several occasions and did nothing around the house. Needless to say we broke up and he moved out after about 10 months.
I sometimes feel I am to blame because I should have just ignored some of the stuff he did. Was I wrong to want him out of my life?
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Bonsoir Anonymous & Carry On to you Shirley F! (smile)
I am so moved by your respective sojourns to France and England and APPLAUD you both, for being spontaneous; not afraid to take the path least travelled for you; and most im
I LOVE your story.It should be Eat,Pray,Love in England and mine France.I would love to continue chatting with you and encourage you to write about your own experience.SO wonderful....
Perfect!
I think addiction is a deal breaker. Would you have let him move in if you had known about those things? I think you ignore things like leaving the toilet seat up. How can you ignore addiction? I may be way wrong here, so I’m curious about what other women say.
I agree with Watermusic- a deal breaker for sure- and dont beat yourself up about not seeing the signs.
Addiction…an absolute deal breaker and please don’t look back. I ended my 25 year marriage because of the daily pot usage and alcohol. Trust me, it will only get worse if the addict does not want to take the steps to stop.
You deserve more than just a crumb, just as I believe I do.
Years ago in college, I’d dated a guy for a few months then discovered he was heavily into smoking pot. I dumped him. You did the right thing by breaking up, as his usage would get worse over time. Hang in there.
Thank you everyone for your response. I know in my head I did the right thing but my heart is sad. I do deserve someone who is present and able to give 100% to a relationship. I know I will find him, one day…