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My husband decided 3 years ago that he wanted to sleep in a separate bed. I was hurt by this but have become accustomed to it but he has never made any moves to have sex with me anymore. we had a good sexlife and have four grown up children. We are both in our 70′s but I often feel i would still enjoy sex. Does anyone have the same experience?
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Kudo's to you Alicia! Wow you've accomplished quite a lot in your life and you will with dating too at some point. Hang in there! Hugs back! Lisa
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My parents divorced when I was ten and I always felt like my lack of self esteem most have something to do with my Dad's absence but then one day when I was in my firths my mother said or did something that made me realize she was emotionally abusive
Holy crap! What a sad story. Congrats on overcoming that hurdle. Wow.
How I would handle it. FIrst, I would get into therapy; that could go a long way to helping you and your difficulties.
Second (boundaries are necessary in life)..when your kids call for advice, I would FIRST ask them what their thoughts are an
Tess…I have two very different experiences with separate beds. First we have good friends, 58 yrs. old who have slept in separate beds for at least 12 years. They could not sleep together, snoring, restlessness, girlfriend wanting to read due to insomnia. We have talked about ‘sex’ with them.. My friends told us that they have a ‘date’ night. They have ‘happy hour, dinner, may watch TV together & then SEX !..LOL. It may not happen on the same night each week due to other comittments…but it works well. They tell us that the day has a little more intimacy & excitement, looking forward to the evening.
Then my in-laws, again have not slept together for several years. Similar reasons as my friends. They too have in past years just visited the other partner for some time together, snuggling, holding each other, & may or may not end up with sex. But have that time together. Often no words are shared, but they feel the intimacy & know the feelings of caring & love are still there. My in-laws are now in their 80′s. Tess is there a medical reason your husband has not told you about, perhaps that is a ? to be discussed? Have you talked to him about how you feel ?
So give it a try, sneak in and just cuddle, a little slap on the butt during the day..LOL…etc. I truly hope you both can find your way back to ‘sex’.
there was an article in the news today that said there are alot of couple doing this and are very successful at keeping intimacy. 1) have you talked to him about this? 2)have you tried turning up the heat?
Hi,
What does sleeping have to do with sex? My hubby & I are only in our early 50′s havn’t slept in the same bed at home for years now, but there is no problem with intimacy. Actually it’s probably better because we’re not fighting for space & the covers every night. Besides, I LOVE having the whole bed to myself, it took me no time to get used to it.
Talk to your loverboy & be honest. Maybe he’s too shy to admit he has ED? Maybe he thinks he’s doing you a favour too? This too can be overcome! Now you have your choice of beds to have nookie in!