| Should you worry if your husband prefers to masturbate than to have sex with you? |
I found out that my husband is masturbating inside our bathroom. This explains why he seems not to miss having sex with me. Dont know why. I feel insulted.Is this happening to others?
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Kudo's to you Alicia! Wow you've accomplished quite a lot in your life and you will with dating too at some point. Hang in there! Hugs back! Lisa
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Holy crap! What a sad story. Congrats on overcoming that hurdle. Wow.
How I would handle it. FIrst, I would get into therapy; that could go a long way to helping you and your difficulties.
Second (boundaries are necessary in life)..when your kids call for advice, I would FIRST ask them what their thoughts are an
I think you need to talk about this with him. Maybe he doesn’t prefer it but there may be a problem of some kind. Maybe he’s too tired to have full-blown sex. Maybe he wants to do something that you don’t like doing. It might turn him on just talking about it. Go for it!
I’ve always enjoyed masturbation whether I was having regular sex or not. I’ve always had a high sex drive and my boyfriends/husbands have always understood - my vibrator remains by my bedside whether someone is in bed with me or not.
Mina, I would talk with him about it. He is depriving you of martial sex which is due you! With that said, Are there things he might want to try and believe you are not willing? How I’m not suggesting you do something that will hurt you, however, the same old, same old is boring. Ask him what’s he thinking about at this time of performance on himself. Maybe you both need to spice it up a little, difference positions, different places, even different look may be required, just saying! SEX is too important to stay in a rut about. Find out what’s going on…TRACK…1 Cor. 7:3-5
I would probably be worried if he was doing it instead of with me…..ok, and probably if it was in addition to me….I want to be there for all of his sexual needs and I’m pretty sure he knows it…..I agree with everyone else it needs to be a topic for discussion…..sexual deprivation for you is not acceptable…in my book anyway…..I definitely would not let too much time go by…..sometimes if we are in a little dry spell, I’ll just sit down across from him and say…..”ahem…so here’s the story….I’m not getting enough…..and I am feeling deprived….there is nothing I love more than your touch and intimacy with you….so let’s start getting in on again.” He is usually oblivious as to how much time has past between encounters….then you could add a discussion about the masturbation taking the edge off his desire…
Ask him. Just as we women change in what works for us, men change, too. He may need a different kind of touch and be afraid to ask you, or he may need a particular fantasy and be ashamed to go there when he’s with you. He might feel he can’t arouse or satisfy you, and has retreated from trying. He might be having trouble with erections and he’s trying to work that out on his own. Or there might be an emotional or communication problem in your relationship which needs to be worked out before you can be sexy together.
Approach him kindly, not accusing or telling him you feel insulted, maybe not even telling him you know he’s masturbating, but asking something like, “I miss the kind of sexual connection we had. Can you help me understand what is going on for you? Is there something you’d like to incorporate into our intimacy?”