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I’ve been married for 29 years…have a lot of medical issues…just not interested in sex, but I’d like to be…with my husband! I’d say I haven’t got a libido, at all;!
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I don’t know how your medical history affects you, but there are probably emotional/tension issues here as well. ‘I can’t ‘ becomes self-fulfilling, as the pressure to ‘perform’ creates frustration for both of you. Can you pleasure yourself to orgasm? That’s where I would start, to reassure yourself that you still like those sensations, allowing yourself as long as it takes just to relax and explore your body in private. What types of touch do you like with your husband? Holding hands, sweet, gentle kisses, an arm around your shoulders? I suggest spending some time keeping away from anything which feels like sexual expectation, which would trigger that sense of pressure. This is a time to be assertive, selfish even, in the interests of feeling better in yourself. With your long marriage, I imagine your husband is happy to help with this – after all, most men love a responsive woman! On the other hand, it’s easy to fall into habitual patterns in a relationship. It’s possible one or both of you have unresolved anger, and in that case I think a relationships counsellor can help you to work through it without blame.
I admire you for trying to deal with a deeply personal problem. I would certainly follow up the testosterone option, and ask if your medication could be adjusted if it is harming your relationship.