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Married 26 years I don’t know if I am just bored or in a rut or not in love anymore. How do I possibly sort this out?
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I'm not going to have an affair. I'm getting divorced. I wouldn't have an affair. I feel guilty talking.Dont do it. It could ruin your life!!Chatting online with another man as far as I am concern is Cheating or the potential of a full blown affair. My ex chatted with many women online for 10 years when he was unhappily married to me and finally had an affair with one of the women. OnThanks, I will definitely let you know. The nurse said that she was going to do a little on the lips. I sure don't want the trout pout.
Thanks for your advice. I'm getting more excited than nervous now.
Roadrunner - absolutely nothing drastic about it. When you first get the botox (forehead and eyes) you will see a change that will level off in a few days or one week. It looks completely natural. You CANNOT frown no matter how hard you try! Be very 
Has it been a long decline? Are you attracted to him? Is there still intimacy? Do you do things together? Does the sound of him breathing make you cringe…hah, just kidding, but not by much. I know my feelings are long gone. I’ve tried everything I know. It’s been a steady downfall for many years. I’d leave if I had the means. But I just do my thing and he does his. He’s not interested in working on the marriage. He’s happy in his own little world. So I’m creating my own without him.
I agree with Linda and thats just what I’m doing . making my own little world and he just continutes to live in he’s .Bills are pd and we just continute to live together . maybe one day that will change but as the yrs go by I’m done trying ,while he lives in the xbox live world I have begun to live in my own worls .. working out for now anyway
What should a marriage look like after 26 years?
There should be some kind of connection. I think in many cases one person grows and the other doesn’t. Or they do but not in the same direction. In my first marriage I was too young. I started growing, he didn’t like it. I branched out with interests and ideas. He just wanted to drink. I knew this going in but back in the day you think once you’re together things will change. I was in a bad place and thought that was the best I’d ever do. I stayed for 11 years. In this marriage I had zero doubts going in. We were on the same page. It’s been a slow decline. He is 12 years older and that is a factor now. I had no idea he was that much older when we got together. There wasn’t a gap in our energies, etc. there are many factors in our situation. I miss communicating. Among other things. He just wants me to leave him alone to watch sports on TV, 24/7.
Have you seen the dating world lately? Ahhhh… Unless your being abused physically or mentally I would think long and hard about leaving. My daughter asked me recently why did people want to get married again after being married once. I told her it’s because they think they will get it right the next time around. Do you like your husband as a person and your mad because he doesn’t entertain you anymore? I say learn to entertain yourself and don’t depend on him to do it. Make friends that do have your same interest and even they won’t share all the same interest so you might need to make two or three friends. Invite your husband to everything you do so he does not feel left out but knows it is by his own choice that he isn’t with you and then just go ahead and do what you want to do without risking the house and your way of life in the process.
Good advice, Julia!!
Ruby, at this time in our lives with children grown – our own interests and persuits firmly in place-my questions to you are , ” why are you sacrificing your own happiness”? And “what is the point of living under the same roof with someone who isint even trying anymore “? Women always say that finances are the reason they stay. Also the comment that- unless he’s abusing you stick with him. Really? It’s your life! Maybe you don’t feel empowered to live the way your heart desires, but I can tell you that living very modestly and being lonely occasionally under your own roof is 100 times better than in the presence of someone who makes you sad! Nothing is more important than your own feelings of self worth. I hope you seek out a caring professional who can help you to either work it out with your husband or take steps to make your exit.
He doesn’t abuse me and he is not a drinker. He is aloof and indifferent, which drives me insane. That to me translates to not really caring. Our interests are different s o we do a lot of our own thing we really enjoy our granddaughter . She is the one things we really enjoy together. We are going to counseling. He is just very content in letting me take care of everything from bills to shopping for all his needs those days are over I just can’t and don’t want to be his mother. We are intimate weekly and we dine out weekly as well. So we are trying.