Continuing saga. A seemingly nice man sent me an email through Match. It was a great email, and I answered him.
The next email I get from him talks about sex and how he doesn’t expect to sleep with a woman the first few dates. Excuse me? How did we go from “thank you for the nice email” to “I don’t think we should have sex on our first date?”
Am I a prude? Are these the kinds of conversations people are having right away? And why does that depress me and make me sad?
Don’t get me wrong…I am all about having sex at some point, but I don’t want to talk about that before I know how they like their coffee!!!
Help!
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doggiediva - I live in Florida which is a no fault divorce state. Everything that was accumulated during a marriage has to be divvied up 50/50. Unfortunately, he has nothing but the house to offer you. Because of your health situation he may not be e
I have tried being obnoxious and very hard to live with in hopes of getting him out of the house and my hair, but that didn't work, lol..
Yes, consult a lawyer, and ask the lawyer if its legal to have a keylogger installed onto your husbands computer to verify or not that he has porn on it. It might be useful when the divorce comes up...
Hey, we need all the ammunition we can get a
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Men have these kinds of conversations because in this world of Internet dating communication there is no filter for…misdirected dullards.
Don’t even think about labeling yourself, Vicki, based on the inappropriateness and shallowness of a sweemingly nice, virtual stranger on the Internet.
Even if he has been throwing himself into the often weirded-out online dating scene, and most likely has met a few doozies along the way, it doesn’t excuse the quantum leap in his assumptions, tone…or perhaps, fear.
He depressed and saddened you…repeat your own sentence inan email “Excuse me? How did we go from “thank you for the nice email” to “I don’t think we should have sex on our first date?” and tell him you aren’t interested.
Then wait until a genuinely intelligent and charming emailer wants to chat.
Hi Vicky
Those words would be a shocker for anyone. To put your mind at ease, from my clients and my own past dating experiences I have seen time and time again that after 50, men really want to get to know you first on a friend level. Most are looking for an emotional connection that they can only get from a woman and if this is what they want, they know sex right away will interfere with that.
Chances are this man has had women want sex right off the bat so he was making it clear that’s not where he is at. I know that sounds odd but many women come from long sexless marriages and the hormones start picking up and they are ready for this experience right away.
Some men love it-some don’t. But, his bluntness is a turn off and gives off that creepy feeling.
Hang in there and keep at it. It can take some time to meet someone worth exploring. Congrats for being willing to put yourself out there to date! You are way ahead of the game with this.
Lots of hugs