Love Gone to the Dogs

Valentine’s Day came and went this week and frankly I’m glad it is over. Society puts so much pressure on everyone to have a successful relationship and a perfect life. A day of celebrating love sounds like a great idea but for many it represents stress and disappointment. My friend Karen referred to Valentine’s Day as “falling rock day” after her divorce. My friend Sarah posted of her facebook page “cupid, please try to hit both of us next time”.

In a world where all of us are trying to find and maintain love what do you do when you get the consolation prize? Well, hello people the world is far from a perfect place. Far from it.

First of all I’d like to point out that St Valentine was a martyred saint who died a terrible death in ancient Rome. Not so romantic. It wasn’t until much later in the time of Chaucer that the holiday was a romantic one celebrated by lovers.

Secondly, non of us have a crystal ball. We may feel like things are hard and we are stuck with a lemon today. But tomorrow could bring many beautiful things if our hearts are open and we are willing.

For Valentine’s Day this year I decided to throw my heart into rescuing a few dogs from a local high kill animal shelter. There were 8 dogs total. I networked their photos via email. I made transport arrangements for them. I worked with other volunteers to get them off death row and to rescue organizations. Seeing them all leave the shelter was the best Valentine gift I have ever had.

Perfection.

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  1. Magnolia Miller Magnolia Miller says

    I love your attitude, Divorced Girl.  Now, you should change your VN moniker so you are not always reminded of a love that is lost.
     
    Since you are an animal lover, you will love this story.  I am a huge Dog Whisperer fan.  He was called to Pit Bull rescue ranch to help with “El Diablo”.
     
    Was “El Diablo” a raging, vicious, Pit Bull?  No.  “El Diablo” was a tiny, little Chihuahua that was terrorizing the poor Pit Bulls.  It was quite comical to see Cesar’s face when they brought him out.
     
    They didn’t tell him it was a Chihuahua.  He thought “The Devil” was a crazed Pit Bull.  He busted out laughing and had to hold his stomach when he saw the Chihuahua running the Pit Bulls all over the place, terrified of him.
     
    “The Devil” was vicious and totally out of control and everyone hated him.  Do you know what the FIRST thing Cesar said they needed to do to help the dog?
     
    Change his name.
     
    He said for them to refer to the dog as the devil only reinforced the negative expectations and images they had of the dog.  In order to rehabilitate him, they had to call him by a different name and generate new expectations.
     
    I thought it was genius, frankly, because I’ve lived my whole life by the saying….”Give a dog a bad name and he’ll bite the hell out of you.”
     
    So, anyway, please forgive my long winded lecture and I hope you have received it in the spirit it was intended.  Not to lecture you or patronize you, but to point out that your VN moniker of “Divorced Girl” doesn’t fit with your wonderful attitude toward life and relationships.
     
    Magnolia

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    • Divorced Girl Divorced Girl says

      Thank you for that:) I think I will change moniker. Any ideas for me of a new one?

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      • Magnolia Miller Magnolia Miller says

        No, I don’t have any suggestions.  But, I bet you’ll come up with one that fits you and is expressive of who you really are.

        Magnolia

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  2. NanaIsland NanaIsland says

    Good for you, Divorced Girl!  But I think we have to be honest that a key to happiness is a great relationship …. and like anything worthwhile, finding that relationship takes work, time and good sense of humor.  Don’t wait for rocks to hit you – go throw some of your own! Tell me what you think of my post today…

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    • Divorced Girl Divorced Girl says

      I think relationships are great but that includes friendships, family, pets etc. As Re Maureen Walsh says during her famous speech for marriage equality, it wasn’t the sex she missed when her husband died but the companionship. My Aunt was single and lived a happy life into her 80′s. When she died the church was full of friends and family. Those were her relationships. Yes, in a perfect world we would all find soul mates but if not lets be happy anyway. It is all good.
       

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    • Magnolia Miller Magnolia Miller says

      I disagree NanaIsland….the key to happiness is not “A” great relationship.  I think the key to happiness is being happy with your life right now.

      You might not have a spouse or companion, but it doesn’t mean you can’t be happy.  

      I’ve known far too many people who never got married or who divorced and never remarried and were enormously happy.

      Magnolia

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      • NanaIsland NanaIsland says

        Magnolia – I don’t think we are disagreeing.  I specifically said “a” key to happiness is “a” great relationship.  Whether that relationship is between husband and wife,  friends, family or spiritual – one has to decide what one wants and work at it.  There are many keys to happiness – but a key is something that needs to be selected to open a door. I just hope Divorced Girl doesn’t just wait for a rock to fall like her friend, Karen.  I know that if she focuses that love of animals and great sense of humor on opening the door – someone will walk in!!  There are no guarantees in life but if you don’t even try to find those keys, there will only be the regrets….I’ll bet the happy people are the ones who tried.

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  3. NanaIsland NanaIsland says

    By the way, I agree that this society does put a lot of expectations on the “couple” – I know other societies don’t.  We can thank the “courtly love” ideas from Europe for that.

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