What is wrong with me, why am I hesitating to leave?
I married at 39. I had a successful career, friends, confident etc.. I had been through several long term relationship and survied when they ended.
Now 15 years later I am so upset with myself for putting up with the all his crap for the last 10 years. I understand now he is a passive aggressive that has been manipulating every situation to his advantage with emotional abuse. He is unable to understand or willing to own anything.
So I am preparing to divorce. I am 54, I shouldn’t be this unsteady about what I know I need to do.
I guess the two unfamiliar, unreliable factors are age and economics. Particularly finding a job that is self supporting after being unemployed for a couple of years.
I guess I’m looking for assurance that it wil all work out and I will happier for making the change.
Any advice on divorcing a Federal Employee would be greatly appreciated also.
Thanks to everyone for sharing!