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So. I met this man. He is absolutely nothing I was looking for. Nothing. But…I am smitten and so is he. I have no idea where this is really going, but the journey is great. This feeling of hope amd wonder is so worth all the dark days. I am cautious, but optimistic, and so is he. Who would have believed this a year ago?
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Thank you....I know there is hope.
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Fantastic, Vicky! Relish these days, hopefully, years! There is nothing, I mean, NOTHING, like new love. It truly is the best!
Woohoo – Vicky!! I’ve been following your dating saga and so happy for you!! My sweetie was totally different than what I thought I was looking for, but 10 years later and I still love him to bits!!
Good luck and keep us posted.
Vicky,
I am so happy for you! Your dating saga has inspired many of us.
Good luck!!
Yup – my new guy is nothing like what I expected, or probably would have dated when I was younger and very concerned about being popular. D is quick to say that in high school I wouldn’t have given him a second look…and sadly he’s right. Look what I missed!
Enjoy yourself.
I am at 8 years and waiting. Good for you!
Good for you! Have fun.
Vicky,
Wondeful! I too have enjoyed your posts and wish you well on this new “journey” . I have recently starting seeing a guy who is also very different than what I was looking for, particularly physically. BUT he is smart, very funny, interesting, idealistic and makes me feel very attactive and good about myself.
I am “smitten” too, but a bit fearful that when sex comes up it might not work for me because he is not my usual sexual mate type. That said, I have decided to just relax and see what happens. I am making a concerted effort to put aside the constant mind chatter in my brain and to be as fully present with this man as I can be. To just experience the chemistry that is clearly there, to live it, without expectations or fear. To Just let it play out.
Keep us posted on developments with your new guy, Vicky!
Chris,
I think you are being very wise in your approach. Sometimes, the “packaging” can be very deceiving, he may be a powerful lover! I hope so because it is such an important part in a new relationship! Good luck to you!
We’ve all been hoping for this kind of outcome to your Dating Saga. Take it slow, take it easy, and relish the discovery. He sounds wonderful. Please continue to give us updates.
Thank you Vicky! You give me hope
…and best of luck; may this be one heck of a fun and happy journey for you!
So happy for you, Vicky. Hope he proves to be “the one.”
Way cool! (grin)
Lilly
What we want in a man at age 50, or whatever, can be sooooo different than what we craved in a guy at age 20!
Have a blast and enjoy every minute.
Congratulations to you! Enjoy yourself.
Ok Vicky,
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It’s been about 3 weeks now since your post “Early days….but wow.” Dare I ask, how has it been going? Don’t forget, good or bad your vibrant nation community is here for you !
Thanks everyone. It’s been interesting to say the least. Relationships at this age are significantly different than when I was younger. We both bring a lot to the table…good and sometimes ridiculousness.
I have never met a more secure man who absolutely continues to challenge me to be authentic. He asks, “Did you just agree with me because you think I want you to agree with me…or is that how you really feel. Because you get to think and feel exactly how you think and feel and that’s safe with me.”
And he means it. And how freeing is that?
The way I look at it is this: I am having a great time. We enjoy each other’s company, we have great political discussions…and we agree on issues. We have great religious debates…we do not agree on spirituality and faith, but since I consider that a very personal issue, we just agree to disagree. We don’t argue, we debate.
He lives an hour away, so we alternate visits and we talk at length on the phone every day, exchange interesting emails if we happen up on something we think the other would like, and text occasionally.
I have spent the last eighteen months on my personal growth and development, and I continue to grow personally in this relationship and as long as my needs are being met and his needs are being met we will just continue to enjoy each other.
And he’s a really good kisser
. And he encourages my writing. I have written more in the past three weeks than in the past three years!